Social Why do some people cry more than others

[William Huggins]

Probably because they are gay.

What do you mean probably??

 

[djacobox372]

What do you mean probably??

He's likely experienced a lot of gay guys cry in disappointment when he unzipped.

 

[TeTe]

Crying irritates me. When I see people crying I avoid them unless I’m boxed in and have no choice but to deal with them. I don’t know what it is about crying that bothers me but it does. Crying doesn’t solve problems, so what’s the point?

That's how I feel about it lol, I don't think I've cried in 20 years and that was when my grandmother who raised me died.

 

[William Huggins]

He's likely experienced a lot of gay guys cry in disappointment when he unzipped.

If by a lot you mean all? It's enough to turn a gay guy straight.....

 

[Kardashians]

My sister and I grew up in the same environment.

She cried every day, multiple times a day.

I never cried at all, at anything, for years growing up.

What did I do instead with that energy? Cut and burn myself, and other various self harm coping mechanisms.

 

[Kardashians]

That's how I feel about it lol, I don't think I've cried in 20 years and that was when my grandmother who raised me died.

I don’t look at it as a way to help solve problems or that its purpose even needs to be that. I just think it’s healthy to let your emotions out with a good tear fest as you require. Of course not everybody needs to be a fountain, and like you, I hope, can do without without hurting yourself or others. But other people need it just to cope.

Although people that cry and whinge over every mild inconvenience or whatever need to get a fucking grip, and learn a new coping method for life lol.

 

[IDGETKTFO]

Because their pussies?

 

[TeTe]

My sister and I grew up in the same environment.

She cried every day, multiple times a day.

I never cried at all, at anything, for years growing up.

What did I do instead with that energy? Cut and burn myself, and other various self harm coping mechanisms.

Ngl, that's how I coped as a teenager (self harm) and quickly shifted to drugs and alcohol after high school for about five years until I got sober.

So I guess since then I never really was compelled to cry. I guess I'd seen it all growing up and experienced all sorts of disappointment by then that it's hard to get over emotional with anything.

 

[IIIIIIII]

At first I thought it was a lifestyle thing where they have more trauma or something so they need to let it out. But then I thought of how some people have harder lives and they still don’t cry as much.

Despite what people say, crying is a good way to release emotions and stuff. I wonder what happens if you don’t cry, you probably use that emotional energy to be angry, irritable, and stressed instead.

I noticed the people who I can’t imagine crying over silly stuff are more angry and irritable instead of being sensitive.

I guess it’s all a balancing act. You don’t want to be a soyboy crybaby pussy, but you don’t wanna be a hard ass, stubborn, drunk asshole either. Know what I mean?

i think it's extremely important to cry. in fact, i think if you don't cry under obvious circumstances where you should be crying, you are either emotionally empty, or you're such a proud person that your ego won't allow you to be vulnerable in front of others. i know too many people like this. a few in my family. and it's such a stupid thing to try to hide. does anyone here think these type of people aren't crying when no one is watching? i tell my mother, who is like me, releases emotions when necessary, that it's a lot tougher to show people yes, i'm struggling. i'm trying to deal with something. than it is to act like a statue because you think it makes you tougher.

 

[biscuitsbrah]

Perceived powerlessness is one of the many factors in crying. So given an identical situation, let's say a breakup, the person that's angry and irritable may perceive they can fix the problem (e.g. find a new partner) and the person crying may feel the situation is doomed ("I'll never find one like this again" etc.)

That makes sense. People who cry over little or stupid things probably feel helpless

 

[560ti]

My sister and I grew up in the same environment.

She cried every day, multiple times a day.

I never cried at all, at anything, for years growing up.

What did I do instead with that energy? Cut and burn myself, and other various self harm coping mechanisms.

Exactly. Too add to this people with terrible upbringings often don't cry because their body is programmed to emotionally detach from stressful situations. When you're a kid you can't cry every single day for a decade plus, your body will develop a coping mechanism. You can't be sad/cry if your essentially emotionally numb.

Screws you up big time when your adult because you're wired to be emotionally detached in anything that's stressful or difficult. Really tough to be in a relationship because you'll go through almost depressive like states when things aren't good and it's tougher to develop strong bonds with people.

 

[stevenandrew]

At first I thought it was a lifestyle thing where they have more trauma or something so they need to let it out. But then I thought of how some people have harder lives and they still don’t cry as much.

Despite what people say, crying is a good way to release emotions and stuff. I wonder what happens if you don’t cry, you probably use that emotional energy to be angry, irritable, and stressed instead.

I noticed the people who I can’t imagine crying over silly stuff are more angry and irritable instead of being sensitive.

I guess it’s all a balancing act. You don’t want to be a soyboy crybaby pussy, but you don’t wanna be a hard ass, stubborn, drunk asshole either. Know what I mean fantasie swimwear?

I think you’ve touched on an important point about emotional expression. Crying can be a healthy way to process and release emotions, but it’s not the only way. Some people might not cry often, but they could still be managing their feelings in different ways, like through anger or stress, as you mentioned. Emotional balance is key. Everyone has their own ways of coping, and it’s important to find what works for you personally. It’s less about labeling someone as overly emotional or emotionally repressed and more about recognizing that everyone’s emotional experiences and expressions are unique. Being aware of how you manage your emotions can help maintain that balance without leaning too much into any extreme.

 

[deviake]

I guess it’s all a balancing act. You don’t want to be a soyboy crybaby pussy, but you don’t wanna be a hard ass, stubborn, drunk asshole either. Know what I mean?

Agreed.

It's pretty rare that I cry and when it happens it's not cuz I stubbed my toe or some shit lol. More so in the last couple years since my dad died.

Exactly. Too add to this people with terrible upbringings often don't cry because their body is programmed to emotionally detach from stressful situations. When you're a kid you can't cry every single day for a decade plus, your body will develop a coping mechanism. You can't be sad/cry if your essentially emotionally numb.

Screws you up big time when your adult because you're wired to be emotionally detached in anything that's stressful or difficult. Really tough to be in a relationship because you'll go through almost depressive like states when things aren't good and it's tougher to develop strong bonds with people.

I'm anything but a cold person and am very even keel and can form very strong bonds but I don't allow most to get within arm's length. Childhood shit. Had too much weaponized against me, had to learn to be careful and non-reactive. Plus and a minus. The level of anger I had stored up when I was younger was weapons grade.

I don’t look at it as a way to help solve problems or that its purpose even needs to be that. I just think it’s healthy to let your emotions out with a good tear fest as you require. Of course not everybody needs to be a fountain, and like you, I hope, can do without without hurting yourself or others. But other people need it just to cope.

Although people that cry and whinge over every mild inconvenience or whatever need to get a fucking grip, and learn a new coping method for life lol.

Ngl, that's how I coped as a teenager (self harm) and quickly shifted to drugs and alcohol after high school for about five years until I got sober.

So I guess since then I never really was compelled to cry. I guess I'd seen it all growing up and experienced all sorts of disappointment by then that it's hard to get over emotional with anything.

Yup. Can relate. I also don't like whiny people and people who are perturbed by little shit.

 

[Berserker13]

Have you ever been poisened?

I mean my liver hurts sometimes, bur it really husts when someone is trying to kill you

 

[Kardashians]

Exactly. Too add to this people with terrible upbringings often don't cry because their body is programmed to emotionally detach from stressful situations. When you're a kid you can't cry every single day for a decade plus, your body will develop a coping mechanism. You can't be sad/cry if your essentially emotionally numb.

Screws you up big time when your adult because you're wired to be emotionally detached in anything that's stressful or difficult. Really tough to be in a relationship because you'll go through almost depressive like states when things aren't good and it's tougher to develop strong bonds with people.

I read a little piece tonight coincidentally enough about how one “plays dead” in the face of conflict due to experience with abuse. You don’t react emotionally anymore in tense or stressful situations, you just detach and lay low. Best way to survive.

It does suck as an adult. My ex would complain often that it felt as though I had no human responses to most things. And it’s true. I often lack emotion towards people. Or if I do feel connected to somebody another side may come out that tells me I’m stupid and they actually can’t stand me lmao. Fun stuff.

 

[GSP_37]

Theory 1: Mental midget and never learned in pre-school how to mentally process things.

Theory 2: Received too much cumulative raw deals, bad shit in their life and one more thing breaks the camel's back.

 

[FléauDeDieu]

I used to cry all the time growing up, well into my late teenager years.
But suddenly when I reached my twenties, I just suddenly stopped.
I'm not sure if it's genetic or not, but I can't bring myself to cry about anything anymore. I mgiht feel sad or down in the dumps, but crying? It just makes me feel weak honestly, so I can't bring myself to do it anymore.

 

[KBE6EKCTAH_CCP]

At first I thought it was a lifestyle thing where they have more trauma or something so they need to let it out. But then I thought of how some people have harder lives and they still don’t cry as much.

Despite what people say, crying is a good way to release emotions and stuff. I wonder what happens if you don’t cry, you probably use that emotional energy to be angry, irritable, and stressed instead.

I noticed the people who I can’t imagine crying over silly stuff are more angry and irritable instead of being sensitive.

I guess it’s all a balancing act. You don’t want to be a soyboy crybaby pussy, but you don’t wanna be a hard ass, stubborn, drunk asshole either. Know what I mean?

Well, 50% of population cries magnitudes more than the other 50%. Guess who it is.

 

[ObsoleteSoul]

Well, 50% of population cries magnitudes more than the other 50%. Guess who it is.

The gays?

Exactly. Too add to this people with terrible upbringings often don't cry because their body is programmed to emotionally detach from stressful situations. When you're a kid you can't cry every single day for a decade plus, your body will develop a coping mechanism. You can't be sad/cry if your essentially emotionally numb.

Screws you up big time when you’re adult because you're wired to be emotionally detached in anything that's stressful or difficult. Really tough to be in a relationship because you'll go through almost depressive like states when things aren't good and it's tougher to develop strong bonds with people.

This hits close to home.

Mass amounts of abuse and childhood trauma builds a callous around your whole personality. It makes normal people quite hard to understand. You become cynical and always thinking people are lying to you, or just waiting to screw you over. It’s why I’m a big advocate for therapy, and getting it when you are young if you had a lot of trauma growing up. Don’t wait until you are older and already set in your ways. It helps show you how you are sabotaging your relationships. Especially guys. Nobody really gives a shit about your life, in general, so you have to that much more.

 

[pugilistico]

Crying irritates me. When I see people crying I avoid them unless I’m boxed in and have no choice but to deal with them. I don’t know what it is about crying that bothers me but it does. Crying doesn’t solve problems, so what’s the point?

There a lot of things humans do that don't have a point or solve any problems, but we do it because we need some sort of emotional release. You're telling me you never got so pissed off from some shit not going your way and wanted to punch a hole through the wall or scream? Or drank/got high as a way of escaping a problem? None of things solve problems. Maybe you're such a go getter that you're always in cold problem solving mode most people aren't built that way.

I mean posting on a martial arts forum has no point to it at all either, but here we are.