What is the situation on cold approaching?

[chardog]

A friend of mine was complaining that no guy is approaching her anymore. Mentioned that it was super common in the early 2010s and mid-2010s it kind of slowed down but Covid put an end to it.

Her friend mentioned that guys feel intimidated by her beauty and as if they are staring in to a sun that blinds them and unable to handle the heat of her radiant beauty that reigns supreme in a transcended light.

They asked for my thoughts and I was like ``yeah for sure its the sun thing``


My theory is that perhaps Covid did people in since the conclusion of Covid was on May 23 of 2023 and so pretty much 3 years of uncertainty and some mention it was the metoo but it makes no sense because it ain`t illegal to talk to random strangers and I worked security and literally the 911 folks would get annoyed by some petty complaints and would say to call non-emergency and they would show up 4 hours later to tell you to stop wasting police time.

Anyways, are people cold approaching in your state or province?

it's not that people men are cold


it's that she is getting old, and men don't want it anymore.

 

[Ogata]

She's fat isn't she.........

Nope, she is average brunette. Not bad, not good either.

Ruined your mood how? Rejections?
Sometimes subtlety is better, sometimes going all out and being bold is better. In general, you don't want to be too giddy with women.



Lol, idk about that butif it works keep at it. I'd take cold approaching any day over wasting time swiping 1,000 times a day on Tinder. You now also weed out 80% of your competition. Granted she isn't committed, having a bad day, or an absolute bitch, most women will entertain a solid, respectful approach.



Remember when #streetharrassment became a thing? Girl walks around in NYC and men were harassing her? I think it discouraged approaches across the board. Not to mention some women really get off on rejecting men.

Not ruining my mood but my approach is one that is not of disinterest. I go in like its the most bland, mundane action ever. Nothing exciting about talking to her but would ask questions to explicit emotions like her goals, dreams and aspirations in life or dealing with life difficulties.

So its serious but also emotions have her experience emotions.

Yes I remember the street harassment thing. But still, I do not think that is against the law and those guys were pretty much semi-homeless people yelling stuff or old fat bald construction workers. That was a badly done video.

 

[Wetarmpits]

I'm not suprised she's not approached any more. She's old now.

Usually if a girl is checking me out, for instance in a bar, I'll just say hey passing her or standing waiting for a drink.

I never had any issues with that and it gives her all the options she wants.

 

[SugarKrok]

I hear where you are coming from. I recently started approaching at random places after 15 years and I noticed that it works if I go in and do the COMPLETE opposite of what pick up artist say to do which is:

Smile
Say hello
Be energetic

If I see a chick who seems uptight, I ask her in the most monotone voice if she is having a shitty day. No smiling, no saying hello and I noticed its way better because it seems like I am not interested in them in that way which creates interest.


Meanwhile I would get a bad reaction if I came up smiling and saying hello or excuse me or trying to get their attention. That would put them on defense I noticed. I am new to this again and so I am curios to see how it goes.

In a big city, if you say hello to someone, it generally means you want something from them (or that’s the thought process). It tends to be true.
If you just make a comment on anything instead besides looks there’s more reciprocity, if she (or he) is in the mood to talk.

Ex: I was on the bus and saw some chick with a funky ass purse. I commented on it and asked where she got it. She ended up telling me she travelled and blah blah.

 

[Ponchik]

How did you find your wife? You mentioned she isn't native to your area. Was she a visiting student or you met her abroad?

We were aware of eachother for a long time, since our families live in the same village, but my parents moved away in the early 90's. Me, my mom and my sister used to go to visit my grandpa every summer and that's when we hung out.

 

[chardog]

fwiw, cold approach is awesome, would have taught my son, but then he got a girlfriend........ it's the best way to get comfortable talking to random women (didn't have a strong male figure growing up). after many many many failures, you'll pickup on the success, and your confidence level builds. I remember at the time, picking up women was even better when I had one already.... and I'd usually do it just so my friends can hang out with some gals.

Not particularly good looking (but stayed in top physical shape), and socially awkward for the longest time. Only thing I'm glad that my friends peer pressured me into... it does weed out the competition a bit, and you can get softer, less intimidating contacts these days, like fb and then chat through messenger, IG, TikTok, social media in general, not as much of an issue compared to getting a direct line phone number.

 

[rckoltrane]

The cold approach is dead.

 

[chardog]

In a big city, if you say hello to someone, it generally means you want something from them (or that’s the thought process). It tends to be true.
If you just make a comment on anything instead besides looks there’s more reciprocity, if she (or he) is in the mood to talk.

Ex: I was on the bus and saw some chick with a funky ass purse. I commented on it and asked where she got it. She ended up telling me she travelled and blah blah.

bingo, skip hello

 

[William Huggins]

We were aware of eachother for a long time, since our families live in the same village, but my parents moved away in the early 90's. Me, my mom and my sister used to go to visit my grandpa every summer and that's when we hung out.

Did you stalk each other like wild animals I'm not looking for anything mills and boon like but more pornhub with words.......

 

[William Huggins]

In a big city, if you say hello to someone, it generally means you want something from them (or that’s the thought process). It tends to be true.
If you just make a comment on anything instead besides looks there’s more reciprocity, if she (or he) is in the mood to talk.

Ex: I was on the bus and saw some chick with a funky ass purse. I commented on it and asked where she got it. She ended up telling me she travelled and blah blah.

Funny you should say that I had a good conversation with some guys about the issues of communication in large cities......

 

[PaleMoonlight]

Any pics of your friend OP? Then we’ll truly find out the real reason why no one is approaching her.

 

[Streeter]

Everyone wants to play social media "gotcha" now.

 

[Tuvatuva]

I thought this was a thread about the weather. I don't look forward to the approaching cold. Winter is coming.

 

[Fugazy]

This is crazy. There's always some seemingly normal dudes on here who start crying about how society is cockblocking them. And then some other dudes with dom complicated ass formula for how to talk to women. I just say hi. And then talk like a normal man.

It's amazing how easy it is.

 

[Only Here for Attachments]

Funny how women have the power to ruin any man's life with a few words/single social media post and then wonder why they're being avoided. <45>

 

[Beau Wring]

pretty late to the thread so the point may have been raised, but 2010 was 13 years ago, that's a hard body 20 year old that everyone wants, to a mid 30's chick looking for validation that they still have it...or its a late 30's milf who now in her 50's

 

[Beau Wring]

This is crazy. There's always some seemingly normal dudes on here who start crying about how society is cockblocking them. And then some other dudes with dom complicated ass formula for how yo talk to women. I just say hi. And then talk like a normal man.

It's amazing how easy it is.

 

[Yuval Levy]

Never cold approached outside settings where social interaction is expected.

 

[Ponchik]

Did you stalk each other like wild animals I'm not looking for anything mills and boon like but more pornhub with words.......

 

[fica]

I think the social atmosphere ruined it. Too much #metoo over every little thing. Too much women ranting online about how they're goddesses and men are all creeps who are annoying them. Women online posting videos of themselves yelling at guys who try to talk to them, etc. It isn't really surprising.

Even that Gillette (Man Bad) commercial showed some dude going to cold approach a woman and his friend stopping him and scolding him... implying talking to chicks you don't know with the intent of romantic interest is inherently bad.



Jesus... women are always blowing smoke up each other's asses, even if they talk shit behind one another's backs.

If guys aren't talking to you, you could not be attractive enough, you can be giving off a bitchy vibe, or you can just not be putting yourself in enough social situations. Telling a woman "you're just beautiful and men can't handle it!" isn't gonna help your friend, it's just gonna make her head big, meanwhile she's still

Spoiler

without a man.

If Gal Gadot and Margot Robbie can still get men, you're not too hot for one!


Edit: The 2010s was a decade ago... she could just no longer be garnering attention and they're going for younger chicks now.

or it could be what she is saying that she is attractive to much for his confidence to handle and he just moves on and also could be everything you said