Not all blacks in America have the same cultural roots. His family recently came from elsewhere and is of high socio-economic status. Didn't marry into it either. As far as the problems go when "black culture" is described around here, I bet plenty of white guys like
@Gutter Chris have far more insightful experience. Just sayin'.
That doesn't make much sense. Regardless of my socio-economic status or my spouse, when I walk out my door I live the life of black America. You don't know my friends, you don't know my family's economic status beyond my immediate family. You don't know my dating history, my education history, etc. My experiences.
I don't get to start every conversation with "Hey before you judge me, my parents X and my wife Y. I went to law school." It isn't tattooed on my forehead for when I walk into a store. It's not what I'm judged on or treated by. No one starts a random conversation with "Are you a well educated, high net worth individual? I need to know so that I can suspend my normal black assumptions."
As far problems go when "black America" is described, I know far more than any white person is concerned.
It's part and parcel of the absurdity surrounding this subject that people legitimately think that my socio-economic status or the background of my wife makes my experience as a black person less authentic than that of a white person.
People spend a lot of time talking about black America not taking responsibility for itself or doing better or how awful it is when black people say other black people are "acting white". But time and time again, I encounter non-black people insisting that any black person who is not downtrodden, not stereotypical in actions, beliefs and behaviors is somehow less authentic than some broke ass white person.
As if the sum of the black experience in America is defined by money.
The truth is that money changes nothing about being black in this country. You can have all of the money in the world and you're just a rich N to some people. You can be the most educated person in the room and unless you lead every conversation with your education background, plenty of people will assume you're the help. You wear the stereotypes everywhere you go because your skin color goes everywhere.
So you'll forgive me if my personal opinion is "Fuck each and every single person with these bullshit definitions of what it means to be black in this country." My dad did well for himself and one of the great explanations he gave us as he worked 16 hour days is no matter how good a doctor he is, he's still going to be looked over twice when he enters the store. They're still going to assume he stole his car, not that he bought it. He made more in 3 weeks than most people made in a year and it never changed how strangers treated him. Having money just means that those people have less power to turn their stereotypes into your reality but it will never stop them from trying.