News Tim Lane, Xtreme Couture coach found dead at 49

[Mr Fahrenheit]

Even if you have CTE, is it CTE related? Depression is so common, I’d imagine it is hard to really know. But gotta imagine his job didn’t help...

Exactly, you can’t pinpoint the cause in a situation like this. Every variable contributes most likely

 

[Jozo Sha]

RIP, Tim.

 

[Pechan]

RIP.

 

[Mr Fahrenheit]

Mental health issues are real issues. Check on your friends and family. Be sincere in it too. People will just brush off those questions passively.

Great post

I say “I’m great” before I even process the question “how are you?”

The question and answer are effectively just a greeting at this point. If you want to find out how someone is doing you really need to let them know that’s what your intention is.

 

[Mr Fahrenheit]

Yeah, I should never have written that in this thread, and I honestly regret it. It wasn't the place or time, at all.

All good. If we talk enough we all say things that aren’t ideal eventually. I probably say something regrettable daily.

 

[Jozo Sha]

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
"Call 1-800-273-8255 to reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline". "The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones".

Pass this on...

 

[Poatan Power]

Suicide is always sad, but imo it's to be prefered to not chosing your own time of death,

Tf is the matter with you man. I hear what you're saying, but someone literally felt living on this earth was too painful. THAT is sad. When your life itself isn't valuable enough to you to protect. The suicide part is sad by the people hurting left behind, but the person hurting up until their death is what's sad about suicidal people. I see you replied about this later, not trying to pile on, but just throwing some perspective out there.

RIP. I met some XC guys in training before and they were cool af. Not surprised a lot of them were out searching for a friend, coach and training partner.

You were brought into this world against your will. You should have the right to leave it as you please. Not to mention it is your body and your life, if you want to give it up theres nothing wrong with that.

There may or may not be something wrong with it, but Jesus Christ, have some respect for the man's pain.

 

[Natural Order]

May you find peace in the cosmos sir.

Condolences to his family and friends, very difficult stuff to wrap your head around.

 

[Elvis.]

In my life whenever someone I’ve known has done this I’ve always blamed myself , like I should have realized something was wrong or what if I had just called them “ like by sheer luck “ on that day things could be different.
It’s obviously not like that but at the time I was hurting badly

 

[mmaknight]

Condolences to his family and friends.

 

[Yep]

Mental health issues are real issues. Check on your friends and family. Be sincere in it too. People will just brush off those questions passively.

Brother, brother, brother. This is the truth. We as men can especially brush aside our feelings. Hell, if it weren’t for my 5 children and me knowing how damaging it is to be without a father, I think I would’ve checked out a couple of years ago. So here’s to slogging through those times that seem like happiness just isn’t for you. Life is precious. Even though it may seem to you that yours isn’t. Love ya, Sherbros. A lot of you won’t understand that the banter back and forth is sometimes enough to keep someone from ending it all. I got a lot of laughs from this place during some dark times. Cheers!

 

[Billthebutcher]

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[Substance Abuse]

Great post

I say “I’m great” before I even process the question “how are you?”

The question and answer are effectively just a greeting at this point. If you want to find out how someone is doing you really need to let them know that’s what your intention is.

It's an uncomfortable question to ask, and even more so to answer. But, being a bit more persistent can make a huge difference. One of my friends had a really bad drinking problem. I had to take the guy out for lunch - ensure I drove - to make him talk to me. My pops was a user. He had a lot of demons. A lot of people won't open up, but letting people know you're there is all you can and honestly, should do.

 

[Substance Abuse]

Brother, brother, brother. This is the truth. We as men can especially brush aside our feelings. Hell, if it weren’t for my 5 children and me knowing how damaging it is to be without a father, I think I would’ve checked out a couple of years ago. So here’s to slogging through those times that seem like happiness just isn’t for you. Life is precious. Even though it may seem to you that yours isn’t. Love ya, Sherbros. A lot of you won’t understand that the banter back and forth is sometimes enough to keep someone from ending it all. I got a lot of laughs from this place during some dark times. Cheers!

Cheers, my friend!

 

[CasualBot]

Yeah, I should never have written that in this thread, and I honestly regret it. It wasn't the place or time, at all.

Don't apologize, it wasn't a direct insult or a dismissal.

It's a sentiment most of us agree with in theory. Many found closure through this.

In application, it can vary greatly for those left behind mourning.

Mental health can be ongoing, unhealthy, torture.

 

[CasualBot]

suicide Prevention is Pure Evil

Agreed with the first post,
but this type of exaggeration is a symptom of imagination.

Not looking to argue, and agreed with the first post,
but "pure evil" is the ability to exaggerate support systems or lack of support.
It's an ability, but not truth. You should decipher the differences.
A person not of the right mind, unhappy, weighed down, traumatized, or even defeated... is not supported by "pure evil".

Yes, mental health is torture, the support is not the torture.
It's an outlet, a life line, a friend, a change of pace, a chance to make a difference.
A way of thinking beyond the narrow thoughts of the cynical & self absorbed.
We often forget, we need each other more than was realize.

 

[CasualBot]

Tf is the matter with you man. I hear what you're saying, .

If you hear it...
don't question his mental state.

He didn't insult anyone.

Regardless of timing, even if you don't agree.

Let's keep this positive.

If Tim left behind kids, this conversation would swing a different way.

 

[NoSmilez]

We all know someone who is depressed or lonely. Give them a call instead of texting. They will appreciate it.

 

[Randy Jo]

He had a nice smile

RIP

A lot of pain can be hidden behind a smile unfortunately. RIP

 

[HyperrionMarteer]

It is so much harder than you'd think (not you personally, anyone in general).
From personal experience, the American healthcare system makes you jump through so many hoops. They deny you refill requests for standard anti depressants, letting you suffer from withdrawals effects essentially till you do their dance.
Finding a psychiatrist or a psychologist is nearly impossible
It's basically, say you're going to kill yourself and get admitted to a inpatient facility or go to ER, where you'll wait forever and be given cookie cutter advice and probably just some meds and be sent on your way.
It's fucked.
I swear they bank on suicide as a necessity for society.
I'm going through one of the hardest times in my life and have had almost no help from any doctor worth a shit despite relentlessly trying.
There needs to be more action and less empty words.
I'm glad that mental health is finally being taken seriously, because it doesn't matter how macho, tough or physically strong you are. A fucked up brain and anxiety disorder is one of the scariest things you can go through.
If killing machines who are trained to be some of the toughest people on the planet are coming home from war and killing themselves over PTSD, anxiety and depression, it can destroy anyone's life.

Why is finding a psychiatrist or a psychologist nearly impossible? Honest question, I'm not from the US. Oh, and what do you mean by ''doing their dance'' if you're trying to get some prescribed antidepressant medication?