Things That Should be Taught

[pugilistico]

When I look back at my youth at all the things I was taught in school and by my parents, there are lot of things I wish they taught. Or things they really should teach and don't understand why they don't.

For example, social skills aren't really taught. Kids are thrown into the world and have to figure things out on their own, and some kids don't ever figure it out. Some of them grow up to be lonely adults who can't make friends or meet a partner. Which is crazy to me because socializing is one of the most important things in life. Why aren't there classes on how to handle conflicts diplomatically or how to handle social situations with confidence?

I grew up very anti-social and basically had no close friends up until my late 20s. My parents would scratch their heads at why I had no friends or get upset at me that I was getting bullied, but nobody ever taught me! I basically taught myself how to socialize in my late 20s by observing people and analyzing interactions.
The same goes for dating. There's so much social pressure and expectation for people to date, marry, and have kids, but a lot of people are clueless and nobody ever teaches us. Like most people I picked things up through a lot of experience, trial and error, and lot of heartbreak. But some people think you magically find a partner at a certain age and stay with that partner for the rest of your life. What a crazy assumption that is. And how weird that there isn't more education about this topic considering that the future of a society is dependent on people getting married and having kids.

On bullying, I wish my parents taught me how to fight. My dad hated that I was bullied and told me to fight back but he never once taught me how to throw a punch nor did he sign me up for martial arts classes. I had to sign myself up for a boxing when I moved out.

I also think a lot of kids would get bullied less if they had more social awareness. So social skills backed up with the ability to fight would have helped me tremendously.

In my highschool, there were two kids who were bullied relentlessly, and in response the teachers gave us shit for picking on them. But what they failed to realize is that in this case, the victims contributed quite a lot to their own situation by being pricks. For example, one of the kids had this really cocky attitude about everything. He claimed he was really good at soccer but couldn't run a lap around the field without throwing up, or he would answer questions in class with a very smug attitude, and be wrong. This kid had no social skills or awareness and had a really shitty attitude. The other kids started to hate him and eventually started fucking with him. I personally didn't care about him until one day he walked past me in the hallway and punched me in the stomach out of nowhere, in response I slammed him against his locker and told him to never touch me again. He cried to a teacher about it and I got in trouble lol. The teachers always gave us shit for bullying him but I never understood why they never taught him how to get along better with others.

Basic cooking skills. Yet another thing that is important for living, but is not taught.

Handling money is yet another thing that is so important but not taught. They should teach kids some basics about finances and accounting in school instead of what poems Emily Dickenson wrote.

This is an aside but what they taught us about drugs and sex was utter nonsense. Some of it were straight up lies. My health teacher told us in class that if you take acid once, you'll be seeing hallucinations decades later lol.

What do you think you wish you were taught or you think should be taught to kids that aren't being taught?

 

[Pliny Pete]

Pee wee sports are great for learning social skills, maybe go sign up for Little League

 

[AFanNotAFighter]

JFC.
Another one blaming the school system for things their parents should have taught them or they could have educated themselves about. I'm sick and tired of grown ass adults blaming school systems for things they don't know or can't do.
Really?
So the whole time you were in school, and even when you finished high school, you never educated yourself or learned about anything outside the scholastic environment?
Or were you too lazy to educate yourself about things and would rather play the victim role?
By the way: I'm a retired public educator.

 

[ObsoleteSoul]

Paying taxes and some investment concepts and strategies.. If you have come from trash who doesn’t know these things, you still have to deal with them.

 

[LEWIS540]

JFC.
Another one blaming the school system for things their parents should have taught them or they could have educated themselves about. I'm sick and tired of grown ass adults blaming school systems for things they don't know or can't do.
Really?
So the whole time you were in school, and even when you finished high school, you never educated yourself or learned about anything outside the scholastic environment?
Or were you too lazy to educate yourself about things and would rather play the victim role?
By the way: I'm a retired public educator.

........and a bit of a cunt, by the sounds of things.

 

[AZ103]

JFC.
Another one blaming the school system for things their parents should have taught them or they could have educated themselves about. I'm sick and tired of grown ass adults blaming school systems for things they don't know or can't do.
Really?
So the whole time you were in school, and even when you finished high school, you never educated yourself or learned about anything outside the scholastic environment?
Or were you too lazy to educate yourself about things and would rather play the victim role?
By the way: I'm a retired public educator.

First, thanks for stating your biased.
Second, public school and now most of college is complete booty
Third, did he blame school? He seemed to be saying he wished his parents taught him
4th, self education and learning through trial and error can be frustrating, take forever and have you end up being straight up wrong.
5Th, do you not remeber like 3 years ago where people would literally mock you and say "dont do your own research" that is because they beleive the last bit of my 4th statement
6th, a lot of his complaints are actually taught. Manners is a form of social interaction. Boxing and wrestling are self defense. Most schools had home ec or if you were blessed with good parents they cooked at home.
7th, i dont think too much of most teachers and your attitude is unwarranted

 

[AFanNotAFighter]

First, thanks for stating your biased.
Second, public school and now most of college is complete booty
Third, did he blame school? He seemed to be saying he wished his parents taught him
4th, self education and learning through trial and error can be frustrating, take forever and have you end up being straight up wrong.
5Th, do you not remeber like 3 years ago where people would literally mock you and say "dont do your own research" that is because they beleive the last bit of my 4th statement
6th, a lot of his complaints are actually taught. Manners is a form of social interaction. Boxing and wrestling are self defense. Most schools had home ec or if you were blessed with good parents they cooked at home.
7th, i dont think too much of most teachers and your attitude is unwarranted

He mentioned schools more than once. And most schools do not have home economics anymore.
Aww. Learning how to do something or learn something can be frustrating. Poor thing.
I would agree on much of public school and college education being useless but I taught elementary where the focus was reading, writing and arithmetic. Very practical and valuable skills.But there are still majors in college which are useful. Engineering, medicine, law.
He also mentioned cooking. Really? Recipes are pretty easy to follow.
Not once did he take personal responsibility.

 

[AFanNotAFighter]

........and a bit of a cunt, by the sounds of things.

What did I state that was false?

 

[Krimzon]

simple car maintenance things:
-checking engine oil
-checking/changing air filters/fluids/tires/battery/spark plugs

otherwise you be easy pickin for all the car mechanics charging a hundred bucks to replace your clean cabin filter. i had to learn the hard way sadly

 

[TardStrong]

Teach these damn kids how loans work. Principal vs interest payments. You borrowed the money and now you have to pay it back like you agreed and these damn kids are in college?

 

[SpicyJoe]

Teach gun safety in schools.

 

[TheTickG]

When I look back at my youth at all the things I was taught in school and by my parents, there are lot of things I wish they taught. Or things they really should teach and don't understand why they don't.

For example, social skills aren't really taught. Kids are thrown into the world and have to figure things out on their own, and some kids don't ever figure it out. Some of them grow up to be lonely adults who can't make friends or meet a partner. Which is crazy to me because socializing is one of the most important things in life. Why aren't there classes on how to handle conflicts diplomatically or how to handle social situations with confidence?

I grew up very anti-social and basically had no close friends up until my late 20s. My parents would scratch their heads at why I had no friends or get upset at me that I was getting bullied, but nobody ever taught me! I basically taught myself how to socialize in my late 20s by observing people and analyzing interactions.
The same goes for dating. There's so much social pressure and expectation for people to date, marry, and have kids, but a lot of people are clueless and nobody ever teaches us. Like most people I picked things up through a lot of experience, trial and error, and lot of heartbreak. But some people think you magically find a partner at a certain age and stay with that partner for the rest of your life. What a crazy assumption that is. And how weird that there isn't more education about this topic considering that the future of a society is dependent on people getting married and having kids.

On bullying, I wish my parents taught me how to fight. My dad hated that I was bullied and told me to fight back but he never once taught me how to throw a punch nor did he sign me up for martial arts classes. I had to sign myself up for a boxing when I moved out.

I also think a lot of kids would get bullied less if they had more social awareness. So social skills backed up with the ability to fight would have helped me tremendously.

In my highschool, there were two kids who were bullied relentlessly, and in response the teachers gave us shit for picking on them. But what they failed to realize is that in this case, the victims contributed quite a lot to their own situation by being pricks. For example, one of the kids had this really cocky attitude about everything. He claimed he was really good at soccer but couldn't run a lap around the field without throwing up, or he would answer questions in class with a very smug attitude, and be wrong. This kid had no social skills or awareness and had a really shitty attitude. The other kids started to hate him and eventually started fucking with him. I personally didn't care about him until one day he walked past me in the hallway and punched me in the stomach out of nowhere, in response I slammed him against his locker and told him to never touch me again. He cried to a teacher about it and I got in trouble lol. The teachers always gave us shit for bullying him but I never understood why they never taught him how to get along better with others.

Basic cooking skills. Yet another thing that is important for living, but is not taught.

Handling money is yet another thing that is so important but not taught. They should teach kids some basics about finances and accounting in school instead of what poems Emily Dickenson wrote.

This is an aside but what they taught us about drugs and sex was utter nonsense. Some of it were straight up lies. My health teacher told us in class that if you take acid once, you'll be seeing hallucinations decades later lol.

What do you think you wish you were taught or you think should be taught to kids that aren't being taught?

Sounds like you needed better parents.

 

[liner]

My son's high school has a cooking class which he took. Also has a wrestling team which he's on. Daughter who's 8th grade cooks dinners at home and is involved in a bunch of clubs. I show them how to balance a checkbook and what interest means.
I don't think you can teach social awareness or have a class for that, but joining clubs or playing sports can help. Kids learn that by having friends and interacting with them. I think there will always be kids who grow up antisocial.

 

[Berserker13]

I can't see which one is me wife?

 

[Berserker13]

If I didn't have a a big dick would any of these girls even like me?

 

[RoastBeast]

JFC.
Another one blaming the school system for things their parents should have taught them or they could have educated themselves about. I'm sick and tired of grown ass adults blaming school systems for things they don't know or can't do.
Really?
So the whole time you were in school, and even when you finished high school, you never educated yourself or learned about anything outside the scholastic environment?
Or were you too lazy to educate yourself about things and would rather play the victim role?
By the way: I'm a retired public educator.

It's my theory that parents who don't read to their kids, educate them and teach them about the world before and during their first few years in school basically stunt their child's IQ for life. They wind up becoming adults that are more likely to be impulsive, in trouble with the law or just don't amount to much in life.

I feel like the only time this doesn't apply is to those fairly rare kids who are so curious about the world and expanding their knowledge that they wind up becoming smart on their own without the help of their parents because of their natural curiosity.

Being a retired public educator, what do you think?

 

[StonedLemur]

JFC.
Another one blaming the school system for things their parents should have taught them or they could have educated themselves about. I'm sick and tired of grown ass adults blaming school systems for things they don't know or can't do.
Really?
So the whole time you were in school, and even when you finished high school, you never educated yourself or learned about anything outside the scholastic environment?
Or were you too lazy to educate yourself about things and would rather play the victim role?
By the way: I'm a retired public educator.

Typical teacher, always the know it all lol.

Just kidding, you know I love you sir.

My son's high school has a cooking class which he took. Also has a wrestling team which he's on. Daughter who's 8th grade cooks dinners at home and is involved in a bunch of clubs. I show them how to balance a checkbook and what interest means.
I don't think you can teach social awareness or have a class for that, but joining clubs or playing sports can help. Kids learn that by having friends and interacting with them. I think there will always be kids who grow up antisocial.

Well said sir, and you sound like a decent parent which is rare these days.

........and a bit of a cunt, by the sounds of things.

He's just being honest from his point of view sir.
He came off a bit smarmy but I don't think what he said is totally wrong.

Just my opinion sir, which means fuck all of course

 

[Nizam al-Mulk]

2 history classes in high school, one taught by a Republican and one by a Democrat.

 

[StonedLemur]

When I look back at my youth at all the things I was taught in school and by my parents, there are lot of things I wish they taught. Or things they really should teach and don't understand why they don't.

For example, social skills aren't really taught. Kids are thrown into the world and have to figure things out on their own, and some kids don't ever figure it out. Some of them grow up to be lonely adults who can't make friends or meet a partner. Which is crazy to me because socializing is one of the most important things in life. Why aren't there classes on how to handle conflicts diplomatically or how to handle social situations with confidence?

I grew up very anti-social and basically had no close friends up until my late 20s. My parents would scratch their heads at why I had no friends or get upset at me that I was getting bullied, but nobody ever taught me! I basically taught myself how to socialize in my late 20s by observing people and analyzing interactions.
The same goes for dating. There's so much social pressure and expectation for people to date, marry, and have kids, but a lot of people are clueless and nobody ever teaches us. Like most people I picked things up through a lot of experience, trial and error, and lot of heartbreak. But some people think you magically find a partner at a certain age and stay with that partner for the rest of your life. What a crazy assumption that is. And how weird that there isn't more education about this topic considering that the future of a society is dependent on people getting married and having kids.

On bullying, I wish my parents taught me how to fight. My dad hated that I was bullied and told me to fight back but he never once taught me how to throw a punch nor did he sign me up for martial arts classes. I had to sign myself up for a boxing when I moved out.

I also think a lot of kids would get bullied less if they had more social awareness. So social skills backed up with the ability to fight would have helped me tremendously.

In my highschool, there were two kids who were bullied relentlessly, and in response the teachers gave us shit for picking on them. But what they failed to realize is that in this case, the victims contributed quite a lot to their own situation by being pricks. For example, one of the kids had this really cocky attitude about everything. He claimed he was really good at soccer but couldn't run a lap around the field without throwing up, or he would answer questions in class with a very smug attitude, and be wrong. This kid had no social skills or awareness and had a really shitty attitude. The other kids started to hate him and eventually started fucking with him. I personally didn't care about him until one day he walked past me in the hallway and punched me in the stomach out of nowhere, in response I slammed him against his locker and told him to never touch me again. He cried to a teacher about it and I got in trouble lol. The teachers always gave us shit for bullying him but I never understood why they never taught him how to get along better with others.

Basic cooking skills. Yet another thing that is important for living, but is not taught.

Handling money is yet another thing that is so important but not taught. They should teach kids some basics about finances and accounting in school instead of what poems Emily Dickenson wrote.

This is an aside but what they taught us about drugs and sex was utter nonsense. Some of it were straight up lies. My health teacher told us in class that if you take acid once, you'll be seeing hallucinations decades later lol.

What do you think you wish you were taught or you think should be taught to kids that aren't being taught?

Dealing with bullies sucks, and I don't think you need to be taught how to punch to blow a bully out of his shoes...I didn't.

There are a lot of things that parents don't teach, but maybe because they weren't taught themselves.
Or maybe some parents want you to figure things out for yourself because they won't always be there to teach you.
I don't know what goes through parents heads, as I don't have kids.

I do feel like we teach ourselves in many ways and going through the learning process is what sets those things as permanent in our memories.
We are the ones that ultimately have to succeed even if we don't have great parents or great schools.

There are many people willing to help you along the way, some are only in your life a short while before they're gone.
Its up to us to recognize the real ones from the fake ones and hold one to the real ones for dear life.

Sorry for the rant sir.

 

[StonedLemur]

2 history classes in high school, one taught by a Republican and one by a Democrat.

How about a 3rd history class taught by someone that is neither of those things.
Someone that looks at history without those biases?

That would be beneficial as well sir.