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I hope you’re not an Oilers fan. If they keep doing well in the playoffs it will be hard for you to avoid the party scene around town over the next two to four weeks.
I've done over a year if it...
Most of it is sitting around feeling sorry for yourself... The trick I learned is to blame myself for everything that goes wrong in my life, and try and correct that shit... People who blame everything else never get anywhere.
Most of them are religious, which was a huge problem for me to get around... 12 Steps are all about a higher power - I just made the higher power myself, and I punch my own clock, and beat my own drum... Makes me completely unemployable long-term, but I create a lot of work for myself, and I'm pretty much bullet-proof as far as being offended by what people tell me...I've heard it all already.
I wouldn't do it again if i had the option, but it definitely helped make me who I am today.
What a fkn wussAlcohol, THC, Nicotine, caffeine.. Mostly the alcohol.
Yeah I’ve seen detoxes go on for weeks. Good luck on the 3 days TSYou’re detoxing from alcohol in 3 days? Are you physically dependent? Like, do you get the shakes, that sort of thing?
Yeah 3 days really ain't gonna do it.You’re detoxing from alcohol in 3 days? Are you physically dependent? Like, do you get the shakes, that sort of thing?
I think the blame is very fair, but I don't think it's helpful to beat oneself up over it. I also don't agree with those who says "Oh, it's a disease so you can't blame me".
The best line I heard was "It's not your fault you have a disease but it is your responsibility to manage it".
I feel that sums it up perfectly. Like if you have diabetes, that isn't necessarily your fault, but you can't eat 100 cookies in a day and you can't skip your medicine. You have to care for the disease and fight it and that is on YOU. Nobody else can do it for you. But you can't live in shame and guilt your whole life over shit you did b/c of a disease. At least that's what I'm trying to work through.
I will agree that the first drink is a choice and must be managed. After the first the disease can take over. No amount of self control is gonna help a true alcoholic who is 4 drinks in. At that point it’s too late.It's a choice.
People that struggle managing that choice shift the responsibility away with that excuse.
If you need help, fucking get help, but in the end YOU have to be responsible for you and your choices.
Make better choices.
Learn to exercise self control.
Some people don't like to hear this, likely BECAUSE it is the truth.
Alcohol, THC, Nicotine, caffeine.. Mostly the alcohol.
SMART Recovery might be a better fit.Thanks for sharing. I've been thrown out of a number of online AA support groups since I don't agree with everything they believe/say.
AA is so antiquated. They have not changed any of their beliefs in over 70 years. And there is so many new and alternative treatments that have worked for people. Funny thing is, there is no way to prove how successful AA has been since it is all anonymous.AA is the last place I want to go the place is depressing
Well I'm back. Ended up going in for 5 days. It fucking sucked. First night I was in a room with 3 other guys and 2 of them were huge snorers.. Talked to a nurse the next day and she managed to get me a room of my own for the rest of my stay. Only problem is the bathroom was conjoined with the next room and this guy pissed like a racehorse and when he shit I could hear that too and smell it from my bed..
No locks on any doors and there would be someone bursting into your room 4 times per night without warning to check your vitals. Or shining a flashlight into your room to check on you waking you up. During the day they'd give you cocktails of medication (Valium, diazepam, gravol for nausea and I don't even remember the other names). I'm still a bit shakey and my equilibrium is off but I got some healthy groceries today. And plan to start hitting the gym again once I get some other things in order.
They gave 3 meals per day usually shitty. All the front desk nurses were super nice though and would go out of their way to help you. At the end of the day I'm glad I did it though I didn't even vomit once.
Positives:
Hot nurses.
I got pretty good at solitaire.
They did blood work on me and I don't have any STD's!
Thanks bros for the support and laughs.
Hey, check out that join dateJust a word of warning: I detoxed several times and always felt like 3 to4 days was enough, especially with benzos. 2021 I quit drinking cold turkey after a particular bad 2 month bender. By the 4th day I felt fine, on the next night I went to a social event. In the middle of that I felt my body sorta lock up. Next thing I know I was being woken up by paramedics. Had a massive seizure that lasted 20 minutes. I bit off a chunk of my tongue and the recovery from that was absolutely brutal! Worse thing I have ever experienced.
It’s gonna be so sweet when you take your life back and we’re all cheering for you.