No. Just no.
Obese people need to eat as clean as possible and get a lot of exercise, just like everyone else. But once they're obese, they're almost certainly never going to be thin again, and it's cruel to act like they could if they were a little less lazy.
Obesity research confirms long-term weight loss almost impossible
There's a disturbing truth that is emerging from the science of obesity. After years of study, it's becoming apparent that it's nearly impossible to permanently lose weight.
As incredible as it sounds, that's what the evidence is showing. For psychologist Traci Mann, who has spent 20 years running an eating lab at the University of Minnesota, the evidence is clear. "It couldn't be easier to see," she says. "Long-term weight loss happens to only the smallest minority of people."
We all think we know someone in that rare group. They become the legends — the friend of a friend, the brother-in-law, the neighbour — the ones who really did it.
But if we check back after five or 10 years, there's a good chance they will have put the weight back on. Only about five per cent of people who try to lose weight ultimately succeed, according to the research. Those people are the outliers, but we cling to their stories as proof that losing weight is possible.
"Those kinds of stories really keep the myth alive," says University of Alberta professor Tim Caulfield, who researches and writes about health misconceptions. "You have this confirmation bias going on where people point to these very specific examples as if it's proof. But in fact those are really exceptions."
I know there is absolutely no chance I'm going to convince you that you're wrong, although you absolutely, positively are. Once you're obese it is no longer a matter of choice. Again, I'm not saying that every single person shouldn't be eating as well as possible and getting plenty of exercise, because we all need to do that to be healthy, period. But obese people will remain obese the VAST majority of the time.
You dismiss the studies. Does that mean you dismiss ALL of them? Every one? Or can you find one that demonstrates that you're right? Do you believe that these studies WANT to find that's it's almost impossible to transition from obese to a healthier build? Seriously, take a look at your own motives here if you're unwilling to consider you might be wrong, despite the fact all the studies indicate that you are.
THIS study comes closest to saying what you want it to say, but it didn't monitor long term success.
I believe that one of the things you said is correct. I am certain there are people who were predisposed for obesity who have eaten well, gotten plenty of exercise, and maintain a healthy build. If they had become obese, though, it would have been almost impossible for them to lose the fat and keep it off.