Possible Paternity

[Shuque]

Sure. So after some peace and quiet with her being in the loony bin I start to relax......but not for to long. She begins sending me all kinds of nasty text messages saying the Dr's at the treatment center DEFINITELY said she's pregnant despite the multiple negative tests her mom made her take, she just won't let go. I guess 3 false negatives can somehow occur within the period of a week. I figure if she really is pregnant, her parents have my contact info and they're actually stand-up responsible adults. They would for sure let me know. Either way, more bullshit. I block her number and continue to live my life. Then I start getting calls from a restricted number around 2-4am for a few nights in a row about a month after I blocked her. I knew what was happening so I just ignore the calls. One night, after drinking with a few buddies I get the bright idea to answer it just for fun. It's clearly her and she's pretending to be another woman. She said, "someone gave me your name and number and thought we'd have a lot in common". So I ask what her name is, she says, "Uhhh, this is Jessica". I just laughed and hung up the phone.

Nearly 10 months go by without me hearing from her. I guess she found one of my email address and starts sending me emails. I delete them immediately and block the addresses they're coming from. After that she somehow found my parent's phone number and starts calling them at all hours of the morning. The one time my mom picks up the phone answers, my ex tells her, "I need wufabufa's phone number. I need to reach out to him because I have a terminal illness". Thankfully my mom was apprised of the situation and told her, "I'm sorry it isn't my number to give out". I travel a lot for work so she was trying to pry my current address out of my mom too. Mom did good by not giving her an inch.

More time passes. It's almost another 9 months later. I start getting calls again at night. Between 10pm and 2am. I don't answer and she doesn't leave voicemails. The one time she does leave a voicemail, it's her pretending to a corporate recruiter trying to hire me for the type of work I'm involved with. I install a call blocking app that has a reverse lookup feature. Her name is attached to the number that's been calling me. I block that call, all area codes from the state that she moved to, and all restricted numbers. That really set her off I guess. I'm guessing she got herself an auto dialing app for her phone, because between midnight and 4am, she called my phone 4 times per minute for nearly 4 hours straight. Close to 250 blocked calls from her phone where in my call log........and that was it. All contact stopped after that.

From the time I broke up with her she lied about: Being pregnant, having an abortion, committing suicide, being a completely different woman, having cancer, and being an employer looking to utilize my services. I mean, she lied about all kinds of other shit, but those were the ones she told me in order to force her way into my life again. From start to finish she kept up this parade of lies and emotional blackmail for nearly 2 years. I don't know if I have PTSD but when my phone rings from a number I don't recognize, I get really anxious, I have bad dreams about her and that situation, and I certainly have a hard time trusting any fucking thing a person tells me these days in any capacity or context. The pregnancy and suicide thing fucked me up the most. If I were to have a child with her I was already thinking ahead to paternity testing and possible custody battles if it was mine as she was so mentally unstable that she would for sure have ruined that poor kid's life. Her parents were pretty well off so I'm sure they'd fuck me over if anything went before a judge.

God help the poor fuckers she's latched onto since then.

Wow, you really found a crazy one... At least she didn't track you down on sherdog, had that happened you might of had to give up your 2003 start date account

 

[wufabufa]

Wow, you really found a crazy one... At least she didn't track you down on sherdog, had that happened you might of had to give up your 2003 start date account

NEVER, haha. Well, she did threaten to track me down before I mentioned I need to get her parents involved. She pulled all the phones out of their house so I couldn't call them, so I spent $60 bucks and overnighted a letter to her dad that had a fake return address on it just in case she tried to use it to find me.

I wasn't willing to give up my phone number. I damn sure ain't giving up my stupid ass avatar and username. I've got my priorities sorted out.

 

[AznTrojan]

this is why you finish in her butt.. at worse.. she'll birth a lawyer

 

[b-hop]

Sure. So after some peace and quiet with her being in the loony bin I start to relax......but not for to long. She begins sending me all kinds of nasty text messages saying the Dr's at the treatment center DEFINITELY said she's pregnant despite the multiple negative tests her mom made her take, she just won't let go. I guess 3 false negatives can somehow occur within the period of a week. I figure if she really is pregnant, her parents have my contact info and they're actually stand-up responsible adults. They would for sure let me know. Either way, more bullshit. I block her number and continue to live my life. Then I start getting calls from a restricted number around 2-4am for a few nights in a row about a month after I blocked her. I knew what was happening so I just ignore the calls. One night, after drinking with a few buddies I get the bright idea to answer it just for fun. It's clearly her and she's pretending to be another woman. She said, "someone gave me your name and number and thought we'd have a lot in common". So I ask what her name is, she says, "Uhhh, this is Jessica". I just laughed and hung up the phone.

Nearly 10 months go by without me hearing from her. I guess she found one of my email address and starts sending me emails. I delete them immediately and block the addresses they're coming from. After that she somehow found my parent's phone number and starts calling them at all hours of the morning. The one time my mom picks up the phone answers, my ex tells her, "I need wufabufa's phone number. I need to reach out to him because I have a terminal illness". Thankfully my mom was apprised of the situation and told her, "I'm sorry it isn't my number to give out". I travel a lot for work so she was trying to pry my current address out of my mom too. Mom did good by not giving her an inch.

More time passes. It's almost another 9 months later. I start getting calls again at night. Between 10pm and 2am. I don't answer and she doesn't leave voicemails. The one time she does leave a voicemail, it's her pretending to a corporate recruiter trying to hire me for the type of work I'm involved with. I install a call blocking app that has a reverse lookup feature. Her name is attached to the number that's been calling me. I block that call, all area codes from the state that she moved to, and all restricted numbers. That really set her off I guess. I'm guessing she got herself an auto dialing app for her phone, because between midnight and 4am, she called my phone 4 times per minute for nearly 4 hours straight. Close to 250 blocked calls from her phone where in my call log........and that was it. All contact stopped after that.

From the time I broke up with her she lied about: Being pregnant, having an abortion, committing suicide, being a completely different woman, having cancer, and being an employer looking to utilize my services. I mean, she lied about all kinds of other shit, but those were the ones she told me in order to force her way into my life again. From start to finish she kept up this parade of lies and emotional blackmail for nearly 2 years. I don't know if I have PTSD but when my phone rings from a number I don't recognize, I get really anxious, I have bad dreams about her and that situation, and I certainly have a hard time trusting any fucking thing a person tells me these days in any capacity or context. The pregnancy and suicide thing fucked me up the most. If I were to have a child with her I was already thinking ahead to paternity testing and possible custody battles if it was mine as she was so mentally unstable that she would for sure have ruined that poor kid's life. Her parents were pretty well off so I'm sure they'd fuck me over if anything went before a judge.

God help the poor fuckers she's latched onto since then.

Jesus, the amount of insanity in some girls.

Its impossible to appeal to reason to those type of girls, i do wonder if any guy is capable of any similar.

 

[wufabufa]

Jesus, the amount of insanity in some girls.

Its impossible to appeal to reason to those type of girls, i do wonder if any guy is capable of any similar.

I could almost never reason with her. She was mentally ill, likely borderline personality disorder. Seems to affect women more often then men. I'd say men who are borderline display that type of behavior in more direct ways. Little less manipulation and a little more assertive and aggressive behavior(showing up to your house/work, threatening/beating up the new boyfriend etc etc).

 

[chickenlip]

Obviously she’s getting around, not sure why she thinks you’re the one though. Does she know that you think “supposebly” is a real word?

 

[Mike]

I could almost never reason with her. She was mentally ill, likely borderline personality disorder. Seems to affect women more often then men. I'd say men who are borderline display that type of behavior in more direct ways. Little less manipulation and a little more assertive and aggressive behavior(showing up to your house/work, threatening/beating up the new boyfriend etc etc).

I'm a guy with BPD, and I've dated girls with BPD. The symptoms for men and women are very different.