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How do you teach people to grip? Let's say I was to walk into you judo club. What would you have me doing with my grips?
That's a large subject, and if you instructor is not teaching you, he should be. I see somebody posted some videos, which is good.
I'd show you how and where to grip the jacket at sleeve and lapel properly, relative to height of your uke, how to hold your arms and hand to form a proper frame. I'd introduce the concept of sleeve control, and ai yotsu versus kenka yotsu. You would work on various drills regarding those things.
But before that, I'd show you proper/correct posture and how to move, and the concepts attached to those. You are an adult, so I assume you'd have no problem with that sort of approach. Then there are drills for those sorts of things as well.
Next, I would link the gripping and posture/movement to a throw. I'd have to evaluate your ability along the way, and that would determine the types of drills you would do, including throwing drills.
If you are typical, you would show some improvement with a cooperative uke pretty quickly.
Things get more complex over time depending on your individual progress.
Judging from how you move in the videos (you were better in the competition than in the older training video), I'd also give you some agility drills to do, and hope you would buy yourself an agility ladder and some cones to work on your own.
I asked one of my coaches about that today and he said my problem wasn't gripping as much as not being able to read my opponent in randori and trying too hard to do my own technique rather than reacting to my opponent's movement . He said I just need to spend more time with resisting opponents and to randori more.
It's good to spend time in randori with resisting training partners. Judo is a jacket-wrestling combat sport, so how you grip the jacket is important. I'm not advocating you go full-blown grip-fighting crazy, but just learn how and where to hold the jacket, and how to use it to manipulate your opponents posture. These are relatively simple things to do at a basic level, but you lack them as far as I can tell.
Reacting to your opponents movement or action is one concept in combat sport, or for that matter in real combat. But there are others as well. Keeping and maintaining the initiative is also a very important concept for you to understand and try to implement. If you want to be successful in Judo competition (or randori), you will need to learn how to get and keep the initiative. Initiative moves back and forth in a match (or randori), and eventually you learn to work in both modes.
You might post some video of you doing uchi komi and nage komi. If you cannot competently throw a moving, compliant (not jumping) uke, that is another root cause of your performance in randori/shiai. There are basic movements used in Judo to position yourself and uke for a throw (or any technique for that matter). You have to learn those, drill them, and then try them in randori.
Also its kind of odd you think im look scared in that sparring video. I can see why you'd say that about the competition match where i just kind of froze and got beat up, but not the other ones. That one is also 4- 6 months old. What about the competition video? Should I keep on focusing drop seionage and tomoenage or do something else completely?
No, bent over posture, stiff, hesitant movement, (defensive) look like "scared" to me. The guy you were working with was obviously being careful with you. You looked better in the comp video.
You keep focusing on a particular throw. That's not, IMO, the solution to the problem you are working on.
Seoi Nage is fine, I'd skip on the Tomoe Nage for now. Sacrifice throws are higher level throws. You need to learn how to turn in or away properly for a normal (generally forward) throw.
I suggest Tsurikomi Goshi, as it works well with the basic tsurikomi action. Most forward throws in Judo use the same basic footwork. Get that down, or IME you will continue to struggle.
Take a look at these videos...
Kumi Kata
Tai Sabaki
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Tai Sabaki
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Nage Waza concepts
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Seoi Nage...a little more advanced, but not much.
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