shes just gas lighting. They do this a lot. Its why they always have never ending causes where for example they can always complain that America is racist or sexist.
That's an empty argument and a copout. Rather than legitimately defend your claim, you're saying that someone else is gaslighting us. Sounds like projection to me. Seems more like there isn't this "pressure" you're alluding to and whenever presented with someone wishing there actually was pressure, you're going to saying they're pretending so they can trick us.
Sometimes it's simpler than that. There isn't a pressure for women to become careerists. The simple reality is that things cost money and if women want things (clothes, a car, a place of their own to live) they need to work, just like men. Otherwise they are completely dependent on some 3rd party (husbands, parents) to buy it for them.
To that end (buying things), women have had jobs forever. Secretaries, teachers, maids, scientists, etc. The only thing that has changed is that women can now climb the ladder in the companies they work for, just like men could. And it shouldn't surprise anyone that once the barriers to women maximizing their potential were reduced or removed, many women chose to maximize that potential.
If we want women to focus on their home lives and their children then the work world has to change to make that possible. Because women have always wanted to advance their careers, it was the social barriers that prevented that, not an internal unwillingness to do so.
Last point since people often don't know this. In Medieval Europe, many households didn't want have their wives raising the children. They were considered too flighty to be left in charge of kids. Men raised the kids, either in the father's trade or the wealthy would hire tutors to teach the kids what they needed to know. Ideally, the kid was fostered out to the trades before they turned 10. And even then, women worked. Either their own jobs or they managed their husband's businesses. Because even then...people needed money to buy the things they needed.