Is it petty to hold grudges?

[AGGAMEMNON66]

Depends on the reason. If someone broke trust then I’d say there’s a good reason to always be leary of situations involving that person.


When someone shows you who they are, it’s information you now have to inform you on interactions with them.

 

[Takes Two To Tango]

Life is too short to hold a grudge, just move on and you'll feel a lot better.

But don't forget about what happen of course. I just don't want to burden myself by feeling anger or resentment of some kind.

 

[UberHere]

In general yes, but it is dependent on lots of variables.

 

[blaseblase]

Don't let anyone else stay rent free in your head.

 

[RoastBeast]

Worst part is when you see the person you've been holding a grudge against years later and they're cool to you and you can no longer be mad at them.

 

[jx820]

It depends. There are grudges it makes sense to hold. Your handsy uncle, your ex-wife's "friend" who you didn't have to worry about, that kid from Harvard who stole your idea and started Facebook. You take those grudges to your grave with you.

If you're bitter because 15 years ago you thought some other kids would have more opportunity than you, and that turned out not to be accurate anyway... You may just need to sit down with a shrink. You're still wrestling with an inferiority complex and it's not helpful.

I can't even imagine how I'd know if a former co-worker had fallen on hard times.

 

[ferrisjso]

Holding grudges makes society a better place as it forces everyone to treat everyone better. One of the reasons I hate thanksgiving. But grudges are not good for the individual but it depends on your feelings. If you feel a grudge in your heart you feel a grudge in your heart and if you don't you don't. Grudges aren't really a choice you either have them or you don't.

To me its much easier to let grudges go at times of your life your doing well when your not you focus on all the people who wronged you. But theres some grudges it doesn't matter how things are going you'll never let it go.

 

[Streeter]

From a person who is fsmous for holding long grudges - Yes! It's definitely petty and dumb . That and patience are the 2 greatest flaws I got and have been working on em for a while.

Rhere are outliers of course but most of time holding grudges is dumb - forgive and forget is many times better for everyone

 

[boingyman]

Need pics of your wife and the accountant before I give my opinion.

 

[BEATDOWNS]

It is very unhealthy and that person is essentially winning living rent free in your head and likely not ever even thinking about you so why do it. Trust me I am not perfect and have to follow my own advice at times and just let things go.

 

[BEATDOWNS]

From a person who is fsmous for holding long grudges - Yes! It's definitely petty and dumb . That and patience are the 2 greatest flaws I got and have been working on em for a while.

Rhere are outliers of course but most of time holding grudges is dumb - forgive and forget is many times better for everyone

I always say I don't have patients! I ain't no fucking Doctor. lol

 

[BEATDOWNS]

I didnt read. But its never ever a good thing to hold a grudge. It hurra you way more then the other person.

being hurra'd is the worst.

 

[Renard]

The girl's behaviour is pretty common for teens & young adults. I think it's because they get told repeatedly by their teachers and parents that if you don't get a higher education, don't succeed at life, you'll end up a loser working an unskilled job at McDonalds. Adults try to get them riled up so they study more. So when the teens see an adult doing unskilled work, they think OMG that idiot literally ruined their entire life and is probably retarded and definitely inferior to me, etc. Even though that's completely hypocritical of them to think considering most teens are living at their parents' and have never achieved anything nor ever had to deal with a challenging situation.

 

[nonoob]

Yes it would be petty to contact this person to gloat.

True AF.​

Holding a grudge ONLY Hurts the one holding it, negative thoughts aren't healthy.

 

[chardog]

Being petty is great.

I was madly in love with this good little Christian girl in high school and she friend-zoned me and went on to date this total loser, he was dumb, ugly, and according to her he pretty much raped her and took her virginity. She dumped him but never reported it.

The guy just had no redeeming qualities so it really hurt that she chose him of all people over me.

Well fast forward 20 years and she tracks me down online, tells me that she's married with 2 kids, and just filed for divorce because her husband can't stop cheating. She's a little flirty, hinting that she should've dated me back in high school. And asks me if I'm married.

So I reply by going on and on about how great my wife is and how solid our marriage is. Just piling it on and making her feel worse about her situation.

It was petty, but she made me feel bad so I had to return the favor. Who the fuck does she think she is, calling me out of desperation to raise some other dude's kids. Fuck that.

you lil dipshit, that loser was me

Not sure I would say petty, but it is unproductive. Best to let it go and drop those folks and not concentrate your attention on them whatsoever.

not even mad at folks that borrowed money and never paid back

 

[Mujeriego]

Thats not true. Feeling jealous is normal and it has nothing to do with gender. Letting that jealousy influence your decisions and behaviors isn't.
Technically, every emotion is a survival tool; good tool, bad master. My best guess is Pettiness/jealousy can spur motivation. Using negative traits in a positive way can be a good thing as long as you are open and understanding of the detriment too much of the negativity can cause to you and those around you. Anger is a great motivator too.

Shut up broad.

 

[Aurelian]

True AF.​

Holding a grudge ONLY Hurts the one holding it, negative thoughts aren't healthy.

Very much so. I actually respect people more if I know they are capable of letting something go and not letting it affect them. Doesn't mean they have to be nice or anything, but just not go out of their way to do harm.

 

[Satur9]

you lil dipshit, that loser was me



not even mad at folks that borrowed money and never paid back

Indeed.

“If you let someone borrow a hundred bucks and never hear from them again, it was probably worth it”

 

[plataoplombo]

Not petty at all. You got a right to feel the way you feel. As far as saying shit to her, just let it go and take pride that you're doing better than her.

 

[Belaya Smert]

All successful people become preoccupied with spending as much time as possible focused on revenge.