Social Is it normal in life to feel invisible as a man?

I don't know really. I had a lady coworker of mine, who is in her twenties and who I find attractive, tell me I look handsome today. Yesterday a different coworker, who is also in her twenties and who I also find attractive, told me she likes what I did with my hair and that it's cute. Keep in mind when I went out of my way to comb my hair so that its not a mess, nobody really said anything, unless I shaved. When I shaved they would say I look so young. Now that my hair is a mess, they compliment me.
 
It's ok everyone feels invisible to a degree, it depends in your perspective.

But you are definitely not alone. I've heard rock singers and guys like Robin Williams feeling lonely and invisible when they are among thousands of people adoring them.

So it really comes down to you and how comfortable you want to feel regardless of the lack of interaction.
 
May or may not be related but even if I am doing well generally speaking, I think we are living in such a bogus world where it's so hard for a young person to own their own house. This is a worldwide trend. It's messed up. No matter who you talk to, everyone agrees it's way harder to own a house now than it was 30 years ago. You can go through the rabbit hole and find out why, and there are many legit reasons but it doesn't change the fact that we are stuck like this for maybe another decade until someone brings up a solution for this mess.
 
It's your ego.

All the external stuff is just your translating and interpretation and you can actively choose how you perceive it so go get some shit done and realize you are always alone and it's fine. If you think you feel the need to have validation from others then seek it out but in the end (not the end, like the end of life but the end like ultimately) it's futile and mostly, if not entirely superficial.

Good, real friends are valuable in a lot of ways though so if you want that then reach out to the ones that matter to you. Maybe they're feeling the same way you are.
 
You need to find new friends and get new experiences, thats loneliness creeping up and boredom (i went through something similar back in day)

In your position i would get holiday work visa to australia and spend a year there but thats just me lol
 
You need to find new friends and get new experiences, thats loneliness creeping up and boredom (i went through something similar back in day)

In your position i would get holiday work visa to australia and spend a year there but thats just me lol
Yeh come over here boys you're all welcome

TS, you are invisible. As a young man, especially post college /high school /uni you are not really meaningful.
In your high school or college days you ascribe meaning socially and that environment gives itself and yourself inherent meaning. There is also a deadline, a time limit, on that experience, which flavours it.

Post that - youre just a drone. You don't do anything special for society because you haven't got there yet. You don't have anything extraordinary to offer (unless you do)
Why should your experience be anything other than ordinary?

So you gotta recalibrate your expectations to find happiness. Dint just waste your life away
 
I'm in my mid twenties, and, maybe I'm just having a bad week, but recently I can't help but feel like I feel very invisible when I'm going through life. I do have friends, but most of them live aboard now or are too busy to meet up and do things together.

Nobody really seems to interact with me besides cashiers or librarians when I go to collect books from the library. Even in the BJJ clubs I'm in it feels like most people don't really mix with each other beyond a name only basis.

Does anyone else feel this at times? I've read through US-centric forums like reddit, and there is strong undercurrent from the answers that this is what most men experience when they go through life.

It doesn't help your dating prospects. Ran threw, some other man's kids. Arm tattoos over weight bull rng in nose. Just gross.

Read Marcus Aurelius meditations. Exercise, pray, diet, active meditation, etc work on purpose and a path to mastery.

The time spent in retrospect today was in a ditch or war once upon a time. You are suppose to be with family, wife and kids. But your demographic is out being the pin cushion and looking for a bail out after thirty.

Old saying something like idle hands is the devils playground. Solitude and self reflection is great but too much will destroy you.

Your in a search for meaning and purpose. A great start would be from a place a gratitude. Health, family, friends, food, shelter, water etc. Start here.

A lot of Young people 18-40 are in heart condition and disease mysteriously??? It can always be worse bro. Join a mma gym or Co Ed sports team like volleyball. Have something that fuels you.
 
It's your ego.

All the external stuff is just your translating and interpretation and you can actively choose how you perceive it so go get some shit done and realize you are always alone and it's fine. If you think you feel the need to have validation from others then seek it out but in the end (not the end, like the end of life but the end like ultimately) it's futile and mostly, if not entirely superficial.

Good, real friends are valuable in a lot of ways though so if you want that then reach out to the ones that matter to you. Maybe they're feeling the same way you are.
You ain't wrong. The ego is a mofo.

Then again, look at the quality of life for men age 25? I had a house by then. My block is a million plus. The job market is garbage and if he was trying to get on say fire fighting, he's fucked but you got affirmative action and people who can't pass fitness gifted the job? Mass immigration flooding the job market and free housing but insane rent fees for TS. The quality of life is far lower and if those prcks keep starting wars, things are going to get worse.

Gratitude is so important. I agree with you to focus on the controllables. Have something to aim for.
 
TS yes. Absolutely normal.

You leave your late teens and early 20's which will likely be the most social years of your life, with relatively low responsibilities, and move in to mid and late 20's where many are starting their first 'career' job and/or starting a family and they need to prioritize those things, while maybe you do not yet and thus you notice their absence.

I was lucky to be in a career path (tech) in my mid 20's to early 30's in a cosmopolitan city, and we attracted similar aged people who all made great money, were mostly single and needed new friends for social outlets in the new town (to most of us) we worked in. So those years for me where not just a continuation of the University type (early 20's) socialization but an expansion on that.

But for most others they will see massive shrink in their ability to socialize as part of a group and you need to really focus on that if you want that still. Your bjj club should provide a bit of that but i bet most their treat bjj as simply their new exercise like going to the YMCA to work out and then back to the family. But join other 'interest' clubs such as hiking, kayaking, cycling, poker, chess, etc you can find, if that is what you want.

Check out the MeetUp App and see if there are active groups in your areas. When my job had me jumping cities for extended stays i used MeetUp all the time, as the usual people on it are transplants from other areas of the country or outside the country, who are looking for new social groups to mix with. My main thing was going on Comedy NIght outings with Meetup groups, and the drinks before or after. I also would do hiking, cycling and other such Meetup outings.
 
You're looking at this from the wrong angle..

You're not alone...

You're free.

You have the options to do what you want when you want. You can join a book club, travel, train, and adventure to your heart's desire. If you're looking for companionship, (and I'm being serious here) look into a tabletop gaming group.

It'll be a bunch of people just chatting and having fun. I've made some amazing friends that way. Keep an open mind and I'm rooting for you.
A local business here called Fistful of Cards started a year ago with tabletop type games and already has a thriving community.
 
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