Difference is that the men usually have a choice, albeit economics may force them to do whatever. But at the end of the day, they can usually choose. Women don't seem to have that luxury, for the most part.
A choice between terrible options is only an illusion of choice. In truth there is almost zero chance for any economic/social progress for a Middle Eastern man, no different from the women. Except through violence (which is why we see lots of it).
The liberalization of the Middle Eastern woman would first require the liberalization of the Middle Eastern man.
In their current state, the men do not believe in liberty, because they themselves do not experience it. There's nothing positive in their lives that they could reflect upon as something which they would wish to share. They can only perpetuate their misery on others.
The society's expectations, rigid and unforgiving, which they are required to live up to as men, leads them to believe that women likewise must be subjected to such expectations, in accord with Islamic dogma.
There can be no such a thing as a liberalization of the Middle Eastern women unless we solve the problems that the men are experiencing. Many attempts have been made, but lack of opportunities, inequality, discrimination, repression, tyranny, have always brought things back to the way they were. Most times, the "secular regimes" which made liberal proposals, always cast off and oppressed some group of men who eventually managed to bring everything back to the Stone Age, if for no other reason but a huge "fuck you" to everyone else.