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It's not really the same thing. The talk about overweight women are still beautiful is about how they perceive themselves. Their internal self-esteem. That they shouldn't value themselves based on their appearance. A fat guy can tell himself the same thing -- that his value isn't tied into how he looks. It would be the same thing.
As for the ratings thing - women are more relative in their thinking. So while a guy is going to judge each woman on her individual appearance, women are going to rate men relative to other men.
A guy sees a girl online and says "Would I fuck?", if the answer is yes then she's attractive, even if she isn't the most attractive. A woman sees a guy online and says "Is he more attractive than the last guy I looked it?" If the answer is yes, the new guy is "attractive" and the last guy isn't. If the answer is no then the new guy isn't attractive, only the last guy is.
Well said, but can be summed up as: Men look for suitable mates, while women look for the MOST suitable mates.