News I'm watching the Johnny Depp defamation case

[fingercuffs]

Why defuq did you hang out with him for 3 years?
It should have been over after the first "beating the living hell out of you"?

WHY THE FUCK?!!

I was 16 when we got together, I did';t really know much about anything. After a while he told me he would kill me if I left him so till I got myself a decent job and a bit of confidence I was pretty much trapped. I was lucky that he only burned my house down and I wasn't in it.

 

[fingercuffs]

Glad to hear justice was served. My mom was abusive to my father and got the house, the kids, the money AND called him the abusive one like Amber inverting reality on Johnny. Her mother in turn was abusive to my grandfather and I think her and her sisters learned that abuse and were abusive to their husbands as well - all my aunts are abusive to their husbands too, like it was a learned love language. I grew up seeing female on male abuse normalized and in turn gravitated to woman that were abusive too. Took me a long time to break the cycle and get in a good relationship. It’s a vicious cycle that often can never end, and many men just accept being abused as part of life and are afraid to admit that they are abused.

I know there are women that are abused, but I just have not seen it in up close first hand in my life. It’s probably also owing to the fact that a husband berating his wife or physically laying hands on her in public looks really, really bad, where as a woman verbally undressing her husband may be seen as tasteless but not as bad. A man that abuses his wife is known as a wife beater - a career ending stigma - but a woman is simply known as a tough bitch, not to be messed with. Sadly, in both cases, abusive people seek sensitive empaths, and it is like a cocktail of gas and fire - all one does is take and hurt and all the other does is give and get gaslighted.

Both should be met with the same contempt. When I finally had the bollocks to leave my ex, his dad came to my place of work blaming himself because he used to beat my ex's mum. If anything, if he'd seen that, why would he inflict it on me? I wouldn't treat anyone like that if I'd seen it first hand.

My dad was a mental abuser to my mum and I, but he never laid a hand on us. And she didn't on him.

 

[fungi]

I was 16 when we got together, I did';t really know much about anything. After a while he told me he would kill me if I left him so till I got myself a decent job and a bit of confidence I was pretty much trapped. I was lucky that he only burned my house down and I wasn't in it.

Truly sad and fucked up!

16 is old enough to have some sense.

"Fool me once... = beat me once...", imho.

Where were your family? Nobody intervened?

I can't wrap my mind around that sort of shit.

 

[GeneTunney7]

I was 16 when we got together, I did';t really know much about anything. After a while he told me he would kill me if I left him so till I got myself a decent job and a bit of confidence I was pretty much trapped. I was lucky that he only burned my house down and I wasn't in it.

People always say “why did you stay”, but before you realize the person is abusive you are trapped. A sociopath never shows you their true colors until it is too late and they have you on lockdown. Johnnie talked about this and how Amber seemed too good to be true, and slowly the goal post moved until she eventually became abusive all the time and no love. Empaths wilt in those scenarios where as an abusive narcissists power levels grow and they are at home. It was deeply telling that Johnnie locked himself in a safe space whereas she was the one trying to break in and invade his space. Truly abused people, as she claimed, do not end up breaking down doors, they are the ones locked in on the other side.

 

[fingercuffs]

16 is old enough to have some sense.

"Fool me once... = beat me once...", imho.

Where were your family? Nobody intervened?

I can't wrap my mind around that sort of shit.

There was only once he hit me where I couldn't cover it up with clothing. I got in from a work Christmas party a bit tipsy and he gave me a black eye. I was too ashamed to tell anyone till a week or so before I left him. I ended up hiding behind a sofa of the couple who I told the woman. She said she had her suspicions when I had to tell people I got mugged to explain the black eye.

My mum knew nothing about it till I asked her and my step dad to move my stuff to another house when I had the bollocks to leave him. Also elped that I had a knight in amrour who fell for me pretty much overnight. Sadly, there weren't things such as stalking laws at the time so as much as I reported him nothing happened. The day he got let out of prison the police gave me a mobile phone with one button 999 because they felt they'd let me down.

 

[GeneTunney7]

My dad was a mental abuser to my mum and I, but he never laid a hand on us. And she didn't on him.

Ah ha. Just like Johnnie gravitated towards an abusive narcissist like his mother, and just like I did as well, you too inadvertently ended up with an abusive person like your Dad. This just proves how important parenting is and having a loving relationship before you bring kids into it. Many relationships are terrible but have kids anyways, and by doing that you are condemning your child to repeat your mistakes.

 

[fungi]

There was only once he hit me where I couldn't cover it up with clothing. I got in from a work Christmas party a bit tipsy and he gave me a black eye. I was too ashamed to tell anyone till a week or so before I left him. I ended up hiding behind a sofa of the couple who I told the woman. She said she had her suspicions when I had to tell people I got mugged to explain the black eye.

My mum knew nothing about it till I asked her and my step dad to move my stuff to another house when I had the bollocks to leave him. Also elped that I had a knight in amrour who fell for me pretty much overnight. Sadly, there weren't things such as stalking laws at the time so as much as I reported him nothing happened. The day he got let out of prison the police gave me a mobile phone with one button 999 because they felt they'd let me down.

Why the fook would you cover such shit up?



We all do stupid shit, but shit like that should never be tolerated, not ever!

FUCK!!!!!

 

[fingercuffs]

People always say “why did you stay”, but before you realize the person is abusive you are trapped. A sociopath never shows you their true colors until it is too late and they have you on lockdown. Johnnie talked about this and how Amber seemed too good to be true, and slowly the goal post moved until she eventually became abusive all the time and no love. Empaths wilt in those scenarios where as an abusive narcissists power levels grow and they are at home. It was deeply telling that Johnnie locked himself on a safe space whereas she was the one trying to break in and invade his space. Truly abused people, as she claimed, do not end up breaking down doors, they are the ones locked in on the other side.

Please remember again, I think Amber's a piece of shit liar. And I'm with Johnny on this 100%.

See I didn't help myself. I knew I would get a kicking for it, he was of far less intelligence and in an argument I'd come out with words I knew he wouldn't understand knowing he would get frustrated and the only way he would win was by punching me.

The worst though, he would lock me in. If he realised he wasn't winning the argument he would lock me indoors. I ended up throwing a chair out of a window because I couldn't get out, he left me for hours on my own.

 

[Bob Gray]

Depp is almost 60 though. How much of his career dip was because of a supposed tarnished reputation vs. a decline already underway? He literally hasn't been in anything good since the late 2000s, well before he met her.

Doesn't matter if anything he was in was good, it matters whether or not he was getting paid. The pirates movies were making bank and he was their main star. The fantastic beasts .movies may not be as big as pirates but I'm sure he was getting a pretty nice paycheck for it and would have gotten another one of the third movie if they didn't ax him.

The quality of what he's been in has no bearing on the money he would have made doing them.

 

[fingercuffs]

Why the fook would you cover such shit up?



We all do stupid shit, but shit like that should never be tolerated, not ever!

FUCK!!!!!

You're the therapist out of the two of us!
You feel completely belittled and worthless. It really was me getting a decent job, I used to cook every night while he sat around doing fuck all on the dole and one night I cooked dinner for myself which I ended up wearing when he threw it at me. It was a turning point, then me telling my friend what he'd been doing that was the turning point.

Pretty sure work didn't believe my story of getting mugged but what else could I have said?

 

[fungi]

You're the therapist out of the two of us!
You feel completely belittled and worthless. It really was me getting a decent job, I used to cook every night while he sat around doing fuck all on the dole and one night I cooked dinner for myself which I ended up wearing when he threw it at me. It was a turning point, then me telling my friend what he'd been doing that was the turning point.

Pretty sure work didn't believe my story of getting mugged but what else could I have said?

Glad you got out in the end.
If you have daughters/nieces/etc., always tell them to walk out the first time it happens. And always speak up.

P.s. I've hit a woman (my cousin) in the past, but it was self-defense. Literally. We don't talk anymore.
And I would do that again, if necessary.

 

[fingercuffs]

Glad you got out in the end.
If you have daughters/nieces/etc., always tell them to walk out the first time it happens. And always speak up.

P.s. I've hit a woman (my cousin) in the past, but it was self-defense. Literally. We don't talk anymore.
And I would do that again, if necessary.

My knight in shining armour and I got pregnant but didn't work out. He was an amazing, kind, wonderful man who only knew me for a month before the house went up in smoke.

Don't think for a second that I would ever put up with anything like that again. Dad left my mum for another woman and my step-dad is her ex husband. It was a trying time, we moved and I was rebelling to begin with. Wish I could take it all back being he was so beneath me.

 

[Alphaboy]

No.. I fucked up. At least Amber and Johnny got divorced. Jada keeps torturing Will

Oh, gotcha. Lol

 

[fungi]

My knight in shining armour and I got pregnant but didn't work out. He was an amazing, kind, wonderful man who only knew me for a month before the house went up in smoke.

Don't think for a second that I would ever put up with anything like that again. Dad left my mum for another woman and my step-dad is her ex husband. It was a trying time, we moved and I was rebelling to begin with. Wish I could take it all back being he was so beneath me.

Well, hope life is good to us, to you and me and everybody else.
We all have suffered enough.

 

[fingercuffs]

Well, hope life is good to us, to you and me and everybody else.
We all have suffered enough.

I may dwell on it, but it was 30 years ago. I've got the polar opposite relationship now.

 

[sherdogwantedtonamemekiki]

I was 16 when we got together, I did';t really know much about anything. After a while he told me he would kill me if I left him so till I got myself a decent job and a bit of confidence I was pretty much trapped. I was lucky that he only burned my house down and I wasn't in it.

Lol, I always thought you were a dude that really liked Peter Steele.

 

[Sirwastealot]

Depp is almost 60 though. How much of his career dip was because of a supposed tarnished reputation vs. a decline already underway? He literally hasn't been in anything good since the late 2000s, well before he met her.

He's been a lot of movies in the 2010s, good and bad.

I'm sure his lifestyle, age and other things played some factor, but this scandal almost wiped him out of mainstream hollywood.

Some of his notable movies since 2010s, i had to look it up: Alice in wonderland, Black mass, Rango, Rum diary, two Pirates movies (4 and 5 i think), 21 jump street, Transcendence, Lone ranger, Murder on the orient express. And of course the fantastic beasts movies which are a huge hit and he was taken out directly because of this scandal.

Pretty much nothing since 2019 though.. coincidence?

 

[surgeyou1]

Heard breaks the hot vs crazy scale. Deranged bitch.

 

[fingercuffs]

Lol, I always thought you were a dude that really liked Peter Steele.

LOL. I do really like Type 0 though.
@Tachy

 

[sherdogwantedtonamemekiki]

LOL. I do really like Type 0 though.
@Tachy

Their songs are hit and miss for me. I respect Peter more than the band, because of the story I heard where he beat the shit out of someone trying to rape a woman.