I speak too loudly

[Koya]

My wife kept telling me I speak too loudly. my sister sometimes told me that too. I always dismissed it as rubbish.

But today I was meeting with a group of long time friends in a restaurant and they made me the remark.

I have to speak loud for my job. I have to be assertive. Or else I wouldn't even be in that position. But now has it become a trait of myself in everyday life ?

I'd like to tone it down a bit but I don't even realize that I'm loud. To me it's just speaking.

Anyone has had this problem ?

 

[fungi]

Spoiler

Have the same issue.
My relatives regularly tell me to speak in lower volume

 

[Koya]

Spoiler

Have the same issue.
My relatives regularly tell me to speak in lower volume

Should have figured hhh.

Ever managed to tone it down ?

 

[fungi]

Should have figured hhh.

Ever managed to tone it down ?

No(

I naturally have a loud voice.
It requires constant awareness to keep it toned down. Almost bloody impossible.

 

[Leonard Haid]

Seems like at long last you now realize it, so what's the problem? Just stay conscious about it, which shouldn't be too much of a stretch because you know it's an issue.

 

[Cole train]

What exactly is too loud

Usually you can hear me screaming across the building when i misstype a letter in microsoft excel

 

[AGGAMEMNON66]

Fill that fucking room with uppercuts and they’ll forget all about how loud you talk


Start doing this at work too. It’s time to take the next step.

 

[IIIIIIII]

My wife kept telling me I speak too loudly. my sister sometimes told me that too. I always dismissed it as rubbish.

But today I was meeting with a group of long time friends in a restaurant and they made me the remark.

I have to speak loud for my job. I have to be assertive. Or else I wouldn't even be in that position. But now has it become a trait of myself in everyday life ?

I'd like to tone it down a bit but I don't even realize that I'm loud. To me it's just speaking.

Anyone has had this problem ?

i'm not sure about your background, but i had a mother growing up who spoke very loudly. she and my dad would argue, and both tried speaking over the other. so i would speak loud as well to be heard. even to this day when i speak with my mom, it's a bit like that. i let her vent, then i chime in when necessary. i know now how incredibly frustrating it can be to converse with someone like that.

 

[sleepwalk]

 

[Swiftie]

 

[Krixes]

I have a buddy that basically yells when he talks. It's pretty annoying but he also gets super close when he talks. People who invade your personal space when talking drives me nuts. I don't wanna feel your spit. You're good TS. Just say it, don't spray it.

 

[Kowboy On Sherdog]

Damn Right

 

[Koya]

I have a buddy that basically yells when he talks. It's pretty annoying but he also gets super close when he talks. People who invade your personal space when talking drives me nuts. I don't wanna feel your spit. You're good TS. Just say it, don't spray it.

Oh no I don't do that. I hate it when they get in your face. Like bro have some self awareness keep your distance I'm going backwards for a reason.

 

[Koya]

i'm not sure about your background, but i had a mother growing up who spoke very loudly. she and my dad would argue, and both tried speaking over the other. so i would speak loud as well to be heard. even to this day when i speak with my mom, it's a bit like that. i let her vent, then i chime in when necessary. i know now how incredibly frustrating it can be to converse with someone like that.

Yeah kinda the same. Mostly it was my dad tho, my mother always was quiet. My dad takes all the space everywhere he goes. Don't you dare tell me I'm like him. I'm not. I'll fight anyone about that lol.

 

[Osculater]

That's pretty much me but I try to lower my voice depending how quiet it is vice-versa

 

[Halifax]

My wife kept telling me I speak too loudly. my sister sometimes told me that too. I always dismissed it as rubbish.

But today I was meeting with a group of long time friends in a restaurant and they made me the remark.

I have to speak loud for my job. I have to be assertive. Or else I wouldn't even be in that position. But now has it become a trait of myself in everyday life ?

I'd like to tone it down a bit but I don't even realize that I'm loud. To me it's just speaking.

Anyone has had this problem ?

If you think your speaking is bad, you should take a long look at your posting

Spamming twitter fake news and yelling "atrocity" loses its flair after a week

 

[nonoob]

What can add to speaking too loudly ?​

Hearing loss, Type A personality, and alcohol use can all contribute to it.

Ya know how I know that ? Half a century of living life with all 3.

 

[AFanNotAFighter]

My wife kept telling me I speak too loudly. my sister sometimes told me that too. I always dismissed it as rubbish.

But today I was meeting with a group of long time friends in a restaurant and they made me the remark.

I have to speak loud for my job. I have to be assertive. Or else I wouldn't even be in that position. But now has it become a trait of myself in everyday life ?

I'd like to tone it down a bit but I don't even realize that I'm loud. To me it's just speaking.

Anyone has had this problem ?

If I have trouble hearing someone because of distance or they talk too softly or there's side noise I raise my voice because I assume they are experiencing the same thing. So many times I've been told I'm yelling.

I used to work with a gal who talked loudly and whenever we were in a meeting and she was loud I would say: "Kim. You're yelling" and she would tone it down.

Sometimes people are very passionate about what they are talking about and turn up the volume.

 

[Bobby00]

Some people are just loud like you say you dont notice it. My mom is the same. Some say its due to not having been heard in childhood i personally just think your trying to annoy everyone.

 

[mozfonky]

My wife kept telling me I speak too loudly. my sister sometimes told me that too. I always dismissed it as rubbish.

But today I was meeting with a group of long time friends in a restaurant and they made me the remark.

I have to speak loud for my job. I have to be assertive. Or else I wouldn't even be in that position. But now has it become a trait of myself in everyday life ?

I'd like to tone it down a bit but I don't even realize that I'm loud. To me it's just speaking.

Anyone has had this problem ?

Some of my friends and acquantances do, I don't think they are aware of it at all though. Probably something learned in childhood. My best friend is the total opposite of me, loud as hell, that's probably why we get along because that annoys most people. However, his dad is loud I notice and very aggressive, high strung. When you're quiet like me, it can be embarrassing because although he may be oblivious to how loud he is, no one else is. I've seen him intimidate people but he's not trying to, he's just being himself.

The other guy I know is a prince, wonderful guy but just always yapping, loud, distracting (I work for him) and his wife is always telling him to quiet down. Yes, it is aggravating dealing with that all the time, it's not normal for us to have someone shouting like a drill seargent even if they aren't meaning to come across that way. Barking is how it comes across.