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You need to get into importing/exporting, my friend
You need to get into importing/exporting, my friend
my boss says if I quit he loses the restaurant and I cost everyone their jobs .
Tell the boss you made a doctors appointment because your hand is having nerve issues related to being over worked. The dude is running your health into the ground because it's cheaper than hiring another good guy to back you up. Fuck him.
Then take the day off and go apply at other restaurants where the owners know what they are doing.
I moved back to Tulsa for " a month" to help my mother with bills. She lost her business, her car and she was going through a divorce so I moved in (my sister got rid of her beautiful apartment and moved in to the same house with her son to help as well) my mother says is I move out she loses the house, my sister says if I do I'm ruining my nephews life, my boss says if I quit he loses the restaurant and I cost everyone their jobs .
What would my Sherbros do in this situation?
I agree with all this adviceYou need to be careful about how much you help your family. Your mother lost her business so she needs help from both you and your sister to keep her house? If this is a temporary situation and she has a plan, that's one thing, but if she doesn't then maybe she simply cannot afford the house.
Also, thirty days with no time off is unacceptable unless you are extremely well compensated. Look for something else. If your boss tells you that his business cannot survive without you, your pay should reflect that. If his business needs you to work endlessly on slave wages to survive it's a bad business and you need to get out of dodge.
Taking care of yourself isn't selfish. You owe nothing to the business and you're doing what you can for your family. It's important to take care of yourself, build a better life, so if your family needs your support down the line you're better situated. Don't sacrifice your future to the present unless it's ABSOLUTELY necessary. Saving a house may not be absolutely necessary.
Do whatever you have to do.So I share my personal life on here a lot. If you don't know I'm the head chef of a noodle bar in a swank part of town. My boss is clueless, underpays me, and I work my ass off every day to send out the best food I can , as head chef the success of this restaurant means just as much to me as the owner.
But it's been over a month since I've had a day off. Three times a week my right hand basically quits working now, and my body is in so much pain I can't train BJJ. I've not done stand up in a month, just too exhausted.
I moved back to Tulsa for " a month" to help my mother with bills. She lost her business, her car and she was going through a divorce so I moved in (my sister got rid of her beautiful apartment and moved in to the same house with her son to help as well) my mother says is I move out she loses the house, my sister says if I do I'm ruining my nephews life, my boss says if I quit he loses the restaurant and I cost everyone their jobs .
What would my Sherbros do in this situation?
Uhh I have 4 weeks off a year and I'm pretty happy, so going without more than a weekend off for a few months at a time isn't out of the ordinary. Basically a week off every 3 months if I want to plan it like that.
Are you saying you haven't had even a single weekend off in a month, or just a personal holiday / vacation day? Are you getting stat holiday's off?
Ask him for a day or two off a week. Train a sou chef to cover for you on your day(s) off. Your life and health are worth more than any job.
I was going to suggest something more along the lines of being incredibly selfish but I guess this would fall under that category as well.
Bro, WTF? Listen, blood is thicker than water and all that but where are your family member's going with that guilt trip shit? Ruin your nephew's life? are you his dad all of a sudden? So what, you moving out of your mother renders his life what exactly?
I know you mentioned you moved in to help with bills, and I'm guessing the same applies to your sister?
First things first though...tell your manager you want a rise. If he refuses leave. He can't lumber you with the responsibility of others. Tell your mum to find work, asap. That the honest truth. And lastly tell your sister to do her part too and that doesn't include guilt tripping you.
Btw...please tell me you get paid by the hour.