Help I think I'm getting divorced

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saugeye killah

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My wife and I have agreed in principle to getting divorced today. I'm really overwhelmed and have no idea what step to take first though. We have a daughter who's 13 and I have a step son from her who's 19. We've lived in this house we've been renting for almost 8 years and have deep roots laid down here. We have a TON of stuff, just to start with.

Also I live in Colorado where the cost of living is skyrocketing. The whole thing is really intimidating. On one hand I'm kind of "excited" (I guess) to be "free", but I'm really scared of change too if I'm being totally honest. We have almost nothing in common and I haven't been attracted to her for nearly 10 years. She's really dishonest with money and makes next to nothing at her job, so whenever I let her have my card I only get it back when I throw a fit because I discover it's in the red with a bunch of overdraft fees, etc....

I don't even know where to start. Holy shit, I'm scared. What's the first step?
 
Welcome to the party pal. Are you amazingly lucky and it's going to be an uncontested divorce with no custody battle, or do you need to lawyer up and prepare for war?
 
You should probably get a lawyer. Don't believe anything she says about it being amicable. She's gonna hose you as bad as she can just like every other woman in the world.

I did work for a guy who lost everything in a divorce. Except his horses. He had a ranch which she got. So he was homeless with two horses and she wouldn't even let him keep them at the ranch.
 
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Welcome to the club. Figure out who is going to move out until the divorce is finalized. Don't try to stay together in the house only problems will ensue.

Get a good attorney so you don't get shafted. Avoid a mediator, they suck ass.
 
Mike said:
Welcome to the party pal. Are you amazingly lucky and it's going to be an uncontested divorce with no custody battle, or do you need to lawyer up and prepare for war?
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I really don't know yet to be honest. Her attitude will change from hour to hour I imagine over the next several months.
 
saugeye killah said:
My wife and I have agreed in principle to getting divorced today. I'm really overwhelmed and have no idea what step to take first though. We have a daughter who's 13 and I have a step son from her who's 19. We've lived in this house we've been renting for almost 8 years and have deep roots laid down here. We have a TON of stuff, just to start with.

Also I live in Colorado where the cost of living is skyrocketing. The whole thing is really intimidating. On one hand I'm kind of "excited" (I guess) to be "free", but I'm really scared of change too if I'm being totally honest. We have almost nothing in common and I haven't been attracted to her for nearly 10 years. She's really dishonest with money and makes next to nothing at her job, so whenever I let her have my card I only get it back when I throw a fit because I discover it's in the red with a bunch of overdraft fees, etc....

I don't even know where to start. Holy shit, I'm scared. What's the first step?
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1st step?

Don’t get divorced.

Did you not declare vows to one another at your wedding? Did you promise “in good times and in bad”?
 
Damn, 10yrs like that? I guess you stayed because of your daughter?

No way you can work it out?

Oh snap, this ninja above me is really ripskater.
 
saugeye killah said:
I really don't know yet to be honest. Her attitude will change from hour to hour I imagine over the next several months.
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Rough. Are either of you seeing other people yet? How long have you been on the rocks?
 
Smok3r said:
1st step?

Don’t get divorced.

Did you not declare vows to one another at your wedding? Did you promise “in good times and in bad”?
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Ok captain save a ho. Better hope the other person doesn't say fuck it, I don't care about the vows one day.
 
Welcome to Sherdog marriage counselling.

Please take a seat over there.

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Sorry to hear about it. If there is absolutely no hope then find a good lawyer and good luck.
 
Did she at least use your card to buy you an iPad?
 
1. Be assertive
2. Get a lawyer
3. Clearly state what you want and make sure it's realistic
4. Begrudgingly agree to equitable terms of monetary disbursement
5. End the relationship as the "good guy"



6. Cyanide
 
The relationship is over start bringing strange women home even if she is there.
 
1) Sell everything you have
2) Launder the money into an offshore account
3) ???
4) Fuck yeah I'm a free man!
 
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