Relationships Does anyone regret having kids?

So what's the over/under of how many kids at once we are talking about here...?
 
Probably a lot more do than openly talk about.

I guess the best way to avoid that would be to try build a happy and fun life with your gf and kid.

One kid for two people in their thirties should be quite manageable, so just do a good job of it and you'll be fine.
 
Anyone of sound mind and understanding would be regretful for condemning another to this cruel world based chiefly upon suffering.

The first thing a baby does once born is cry, and as such the stage is therupon set.
 
I regret having mine during active drug addiction. Wish I would have straightened up before he was born
 
BearGrounds said:
Anyone of sound mind and understanding would be regretful for condemning another to this cruel world based chiefly upon suffering.

The first thing a baby does once born is cry, and as such the stage is therupon set.
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I bet you're a hoot at parties.
 
Yes its literally the worst thing that will happen in your life.
no sleep
no money
no hobbies
no free time
no sex
You will look and feel like shit due to lack of exercise and crappy diet

ignore anyone who says positive shit its lies. Be prepared. Enjoy the gestational period as its the last chance youll have to enjoy anything
 
sirtapsalot said:
Yes its literally the worst thing that will happen in your life.
no sleep
no money
no hobbies
no free time
no sex
You will look and feel like shit due to lack of exercise and crappy diet

ignore anyone who says positive shit its lies. Be prepared. Enjoy the gestational period as its the last chance youll have to enjoy anything
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Are you speaking from personal experience?
 
No. Parenting and fatherhood are hard, but I don’t regret it at all. I had been with my wife 9 years before we had our first kid, and I was 30 years old, so I felt ready.

Parenting responsibilities can interfere in my leisure time or my sex life, but I still don’t regret it.
 
Probably the ones who had kids really young where they couldn't afford to even support themselves, then the kid grows up and attacks them with random stuff around the house and police is called.
 
Being a parent is no ordinary task, but a lifelong task.

I thank God that I'm still single and free, no worries to think about.
 
koolinkunming said:
Dude, you’ll have no free time now. When you get home from work she’ll be so happy you’re there to help. Yeah say bye bye to free time.
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If you caught up in this situation OP then yea you might regret it. My wife isn't like this and we both give each other free time but yes my free time has dropped quite a bit. I just want to play video games anyways so I just have to wait until he gets a little older and I'll get that free time back.
 
Omegaboy13 said:
When I had my first kid, I was devastated. Most of my leisure activities require immense amount of time dedicated to them (backpacking, fly fishing, hunting, distance running, etc). I thought my life was going to be over and I got into a bad depression. However, I never let my depression regarding my thoughts on this out because my wife had bad post partum. I sucked it up and took care of everything like we're supposed to.

As a man, I think its sometimes hard to have an instant connection with a baby right when they pop out of their mother. After all, we didn't carry them around for months and months with lots of ingrained biological cues and signals every hour of every day like mom does. Then after, mom breast feeds and really only has a connection with mom via that.

First child felt like an alien that had invaded my space. Over a short time, that changed. For me, at 3-4 months or so I got over my own selfishness. I really began to love being a dad. Now, my wife and kid(s) are visiting grandma and grandpa and I'm laying on the couch wishing they were here and counting the seconds when I get to see that little turd run towarda me in the airport.

I guess what I'm saying is that everything you feel is going to be normal. Take things in stride and love that baby. I'm back to doing all the things I love now that my daughter is older. I did have to give a few things up or modify them in the first few years. Now, however, backpacking, fishing, etc are much more fun because I get to teach those things to my daughter.
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Glad I wasn't the only one that felt like that. Took me a long time to feel that connection. I thought there was something wrong with me and was like my dad who left when I was young.
 
Most would never admit it.. not even to themselves let alone others..
 
Not for one single second. The key is having a partner you can count on. I find most that say they regret it suck at parenting, or are selfish, and or are usually with a loser partner that offers no support.
 
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