Relationships Does anyone regret having kids?

No one has actually said it, but I certainly see it on some peoples faces. I hear it in their voices and see the stress in their eyes. Also, when they mainly speak negatively about whats going on, its a tell tale sign.

Also, anytime people with kids talk about how good it was back in the day constantly, its another give that they are not truly happy in the present.
 
TeenageMutantLesnarTurtle said:
I dont regret it, but it is fucking tough work. The stress and limitation of it all put my relationship under more strain than it had ever been under, bearing in mind we were together 14 years before we had kids too.

I have 3 and a 4th on the way, all within 5 years. Its non stop chaos. In the grand scheme of things I still wouldnt change it though. Little shitheads.

Oh btw, if you plan on getting old, you will 100% regret NOT having kids eventually. It'll be a miserable life when you get old enough to start losing your independence and seeing everyone around you die. Being around the next generations of your family in your final years will be one of the few things you have left.
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Damn. You don’t hold back lol.

Yes first few years of parenting are brutal. Congrats on the fourth.
 
Ezekiel 25:17 said:
No one has actually said it, but I certainly see it on some peoples faces. I hear it in their voices and see the stress in their eyes. Also, when they mainly speak negatively about whats going on, its a tell tale sign.

Also, anytime people with kids talk about how good it was back in the day constantly, its another give that they are not truly happy in the present.
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Yea the whole “you can see the stress in their eyes” spiel that childless adults say about us. It is damn stressful and we are not denying that. I don’t think anyone denies that. One things for sure , we love our kids and don’t regret them. You might regret not having kids though.

I thought the whole “ when you come home and your kid runs up to you” was also a cope…. Until I heard my little ones tiny feet run across the tiles whenever I put my key in the door - that is a drug ! Once the first brutal 2 years are out of the way , you want to do it again !
 
RichardHarrow said:
Yea the whole “you can see the stress in their eyes” spiel that childless adults say about us. It is damn stressful and we are not denying that. I don’t think anyone denies that. One things for sure , we love our kids and don’t regret them. You might regret not having kids though.

I thought the whole “ when you come home and your kid runs up to you” was also a cope…. Until I heard my little ones tiny feet run across the tiles whenever I put my key in the door - that is a drug ! Once the first brutal 2 years are out of the way , you want to do it again !
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Its not for everyone much like success or a rockstar life isnt for everyone. I have met people who I wished would adopt me they were such amazing parents. I have also met people who I hope would not become parents cause itll either rob them and/or the rest of us of great things to come, or rob the kids of having a stable parent around.

You have to have the time. Cant pawn everything off on daycares and babysitters/nannies.
 
Ezekiel 25:17 said:
Its not for everyone much like success or a rockstar life isnt for everyone. I have met people who I wished would adopt me they were such amazing parents. I have also met people who I hope would not become parents cause itll either rob them and/or the rest of us of great things to come, or rob the kids of having a stable parent around.

You have to have the time. Cant pawn everything off on daycares and babysitters/nannies.
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Not sure I agree with the rock star parallel. It’s biologically innate in us, even primordial to produce, not to play strings on the acoustic lol.

However yes there is a huge part of the populace that should avoid producing.

Irony of it all - it is precisely ( from what I gather anyway) individuals and thinkers akin to yourself that should be having children that are not having children and in generations to come the idiots will far outnumber the good folk which will in turn deter the good folk from producing which will result in a major dilemma. If it isn’t happening now that is.
 
Certainly there are, like my dad who left when I was a kid and who I never saw or spoke to again. He did the same thing to my two half sisters from a previous marriage as well. Shout out to all the good, loving parents out there.
 
Once you get over the initial “I don’t have a fucking clue what I’m doing” phase, kids are great.

Also, gotta laugh at all the “wah wah wah, no free time” comments, well no fucking shit, did people think they wipe their arses day one.
 
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chardog said:
Waiting to be financially sound is a mistake for many as biology and time don’t wait. If the opportunity presents itself, just go.
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This this is true but it's not for everyone. My kids are practically adults now but me and my wife and still young enough that she can pop out a third one if we want too.
 
Ezekiel 25:17 said:
No one has actually said it, but I certainly see it on some peoples faces. I hear it in their voices and see the stress in their eyes. Also, when they mainly speak negatively about whats going on, its a tell tale sign.

Also, anytime people with kids talk about how good it was back in the day constantly, its another give that they are not truly happy in the present.
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The world is not short on people that make poor decisions. People that have mental health issues, substance abuse, personality disorders or are irresponsible with money, should not have kids. Obviously, those are huge factors where the kids aren't the underlying problem but it's easiest to blame kids.

The general lack of responsibility today is shocking, but even worse is the fact that being irresponsible is so acceptable. If you accept being irresponsible, you should not have kids. Many parents start out lacking responsibility but having kids beats it into them but if you accept irresponsibility that's a much bigger problem.
 
Not everyone should have kids. But everyone should do something altruistic. Whether you volunteer, foster/raise animals, be a part of other people's children's lives (aunt, uncle etc)...I think it is healthy to live and do things for others when you can.
 
lowlife said:
Certainly there are, like my dad who left when I was a kid and who I never saw or spoke to again. He did the same thing to my two half sisters from a previous marriage as well. Shout out to all the good, loving parents out there.
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Little did he know he could have been the proud dad of a Sherbro. His loss.
 
Contempt said:
Get a puppy instead... less work.
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My daughter turns two next month lol
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Love my kid. Absolutely hate his mother.

Dealing with family court and department of child services for child support and the like absolutely makes you regret having kids though.
 
I'd be interested to hear the responses with this question posed in Asian countries like Japan or South Korea where the birth rate is dropping like a stone. I'm sure the people that do have kids don't regret it for the most part, but it seems like they have a unique attitude about having kids in the first place. It could be that they don't want to regret having them so many avoid it all together.
 
I regret NOT having kids. Now it's too late. I spent my life making as much money as possible and now that I'm a millionaire, what's the fucking point of it all? I've run out of things to buy, I've run out of things to do.
 
I Am Legion said:
Not everyone should have kids. But everyone should do something altruistic. Whether you volunteer, foster/raise animals, be a part of other people's children's lives (aunt, uncle etc)...I think it is healthy to live and do things for others when you can.
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For those of us that were too fucked up to have kids, this is a great idea. It's fun to be selfish but we need to contribute and find fulfillment somewhere; helping the less fortunate or having some kind of charitable cause you believe in brings just as much good into the world as raising a decent human, imo.
 
Richmma80 said:
I regret NOT having kids. Now it's too late. I spent my life making as much money as possible and now that I'm a millionaire, what's the fucking point of it all? I've run out of things to buy, I've run out of things to do.
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Find a cause you believe in and focus your energy there, there is more to life than reproducing.
 
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