Do you think "young love" is real love?

[Spam On Rye]

Write a play about it ?

Romeo and Juliet probably

 

[Brampton_Boy]

It can be emotionally impactful.

But I don't understand at all what they are "appealing" and what you are deciding to do or not do?

Like, rule "well, you failed the course with an awful performance, but since you broke up with your s.o. during the semester, we're going to give you this nice consolation 'C'"??????

That's insane.
Maybe in extreme cases - like a clearcut rape or highly abusive relationship - I could see maybe a "withdrawn - no credit or grade" or maybe even a refund.
But ordinary single person dating experiences?

Normally students who have legitimate extenuating circumstances will have an opportunity to rewrite an exam, or be given additional term papers. If the student did particularly poorly, we will allow students to drop the course without having it appear on their transcript.

Failing a class can be pretty detrimental - depending on the faculty, it can result in program expulsion. Plus, having an F on a transcript could potentially hinder admission to graduate school or other continuation programs.

 

[scoopj]

Thank you for sharing your perspective.

I didn’t mean to suggest that young love is as deep or layered as the love that grows over decades of shared life and challenges.

My point was more about how young love feels just as real to those experiencing it, even though it’s shaped by the intensity and lack of perspective that comes with youth.

I completely agree that love in a long-term relationship develops a profound depth that comes from years of mutual effort, understanding, and growth.

Right on and well said.

 

[Contempt]

Now the love between a man and his pitbull, on the other hand...

Or a pitbull and tasty, tasty children...

 

[Lycandroid]

of course, an animal who chases his own tail can show love

 

[William Huggins]

Welcome to the land of limerence.....

The ancient Greeks had 7 words for love.......

True love transcends and passes through the different forms of love, if you think it's going to stay on that butterfly stage forever it will not that comes and goes........

 

[Osculater]

Welcome to the land of limerence.....

The ancient Greeks had 7 words for love.......

True love transcends and passes through the different forms of love, if you think it's going to stay on that butterfly stage forever it will not that comes and goes........

"Love is fickle and fleeting"

 

[Damo321]

Young sweet delicious love is the best, I only realised this like TS whilst working as a tutor at a university, students in my experience benefit from a deep education!

 

[Long Dark Blues]

Man, that honeymoon phase is just all gas.

Burns bright in the hearts of young lovers.

That is pure love.

I think it's the opposite for us 40+, we don't know what that pure kind of love is anymore. Ours is more obligation than pure love.

 

[Leonard Haid]

Man, that honeymoon phase is just all gas.

Burns bright in the hearts of young lovers.

That is pure love.

I think it's the opposite for us 40+, we don't know what that pure kind of love is anymore. Ours is more obligation than pure love.

Interesting take, but I don't entirely agree. Love grows deeper over time, establishes itself as true love after storms are weathered, after commitment is proven despite difficulties, after many bumps in the road, and reinforced by all the good stuff over the years. My wife seemed to love me even more after I, for example, was so kind and generous to her mother, who just popped over unannounced to our home for the day. These things add up over time.

While I don't dispute how common your scenario is - the obligation more than love scenario - I think that the love that has survived into the 40s and beyond is deeper and stronger than any young adult can comprehend.

 

[NoSmilez]

If it's a STEM or class for professional school then you should be harsh. You aren't helping them when you do them a solid.

 

[TheTickG]

Some context: I sit on my university's academic appeals committee - every semester, students who have failed a course have the opportunity to appeal the decision and explain their extenuating circumstances. Some are absolutely valid, i.e. they were seeking medical treatment for cancer etc. However, others are based on things like difficult breakups or relationship issues.

I am sitting here reading some of their appeals, and my knee jerk reaction is to say "You are a teenager, what could you possibly know about real love?".......but am I forgetting what it was like to be that age? I am 40 now, more than half my life removed from being in their shoes. I am trying to think back to what it was like to be 19 and in love and trying to compare it to what it feels like to be in an adult long term relationship. The feelings are definitely different, but I'm unsure whether being young somehow diminishes the magnitude of the feeling and how it can impact you.

What say you Sherdog? Is young love "real" love? Should I go easy on these students, or condemn them to a no credit? (I am actually really reluctant to do this under any circumstance).

Unless there's death involved, they should fail. Being able to succeed even when feelings are bad is something they need to learn.

If there's death involved, maybe they should still fail. Depends on the death.

 

[IIIIIIII]

i don't think young love can exist. young people, "falling in love" to me is more about experiencing extreme feelings of attraction mislabeled as love. loving something in my opinion requires having created something special that has endured over long periods of time. anything young doesn't contain that.

 

[KeepingItReal]

Wow, that was the perfect post. Question answered!

No, no, no, the perfect post was the first response to your thread.

 

[chardog]

Yes it’s real

And

Love is blind

Also real.

When you’re older, you might have different standards of what you’re willing to put up with, however it doesn’t mean the young don’t have that natural intuition either.

 

[mozfonky]

Some context: I sit on my university's academic appeals committee - every semester, students who have failed a course have the opportunity to appeal the decision and explain their extenuating circumstances. Some are absolutely valid, i.e. they were seeking medical treatment for cancer etc. However, others are based on things like difficult breakups or relationship issues.

I am sitting here reading some of their appeals, and my knee jerk reaction is to say "You are a teenager, what could you possibly know about real love?".......but am I forgetting what it was like to be that age? I am 40 now, more than half my life removed from being in their shoes. I am trying to think back to what it was like to be 19 and in love and trying to compare it to what it feels like to be in an adult long term relationship. The feelings are definitely different, but I'm unsure whether being young somehow diminishes the magnitude of the feeling and how it can impact you.

What say you Sherdog? Is young love "real" love? Should I go easy on these students, or condemn them to a no credit? (I am actually really reluctant to do this under any circumstance).

I think "love" the way it's marketed to us worms it's way into our brains and gives us all kinds of delusions. Like a native american woman said, it's in every song, every movie, she was going back to her tribal sexual lifestyle which is you have sex with who you want to. I thought it sounded wierd but I don't know if my tribe was like that or not. But I found it interesting. So, no, don't blame the kids, they've been given all this bullshit by us then they find out how it doesn't really work so easy, especially when you're both young and immature. I've been a victim of it too, I don't know if it's a realistic goal but that doesn't stop us from trying.

 

[chardog]

i don't think young love can exist. young people, "falling in love" to me is more about experiencing extreme feelings of attraction mislabeled as love. loving something in my opinion requires having created something special that has endured over long periods of time. anything young doesn't contain that.

Infatuation is the term, and i think it can morph into love. It doesn’t take a whole lot of time to fall in love if you’re actively spending time together.

 

[IIIIIIII]

Infatuation is the term, and i think it can morph into love. It doesn’t take a whole lot of time to fall in love if you’re actively spending time together.

lol, yes i know the term infatuation. see, i think you just admitted it in what you've said. it can morph, meaning it's not love at the time. time was exactly my reason for denying it being love. it requires time for it to become love, over time.

 

[mozfonky]

Normally students who have legitimate extenuating circumstances will have an opportunity to rewrite an exam, or be given additional term papers. If the student did particularly poorly, we will allow students to drop the course without having it appear on their transcript.

Failing a class can be pretty detrimental - depending on the faculty, it can result in program expulsion. Plus, having an F on a transcript could potentially hinder admission to graduate school or other continuation programs.

my ma died right in the middle of a UW quarter, sure it was difficult but I made it to class although I wasn't as focussed during that quarter. but, I was 37 and I know you can't stop everything if you have a problem. No one cares I know that much. I think an advisor suggested I get rid of one of the grades but it wasn't that important to me so I kept it. I never believed in academia and of course a death like that just brought out the worst in me, meaning, no phony answers on tests to please the profs. That was a constant problem, they didn't like how blunt I was about things and they would beat me up over it gradewise. That was a constant problem, you have questions and you want answers, I'm not giving them anything sugarcoated and it was either the teacher loving me or hating me. I was in no state of mind to answer in a way they'd find satisfactory. It's also the reason I decided to get my BA and stop school at that point. Made no sense to have to be a kiss ass to get a good grade, which is what it really boiled down to.

Anyway, yes, there are times when you can be incapacitated, that's just life. I don't know if something as silly as a failed relationship as a kid should really count, but the way the young are, it don't take much to totally derail them today.

 

[THEfightsAREfixed]

were the couples in the special ed class growing up experiencing "true romance" ?

(lets keep in mind they are retarded)