Dealing With Depression

Not sure if you just want to vent or if you’re clinically depressed and wondering how other people get through it.

Either way cheers fella. I know what you mean. I still have dreams where I’m back at my old house my parents used to live at, it’s sold and mums gone. That neighbourhood has nothing for me now. My old high school was torn down, doesn’t exist anymore. The new world bulldozes the old, and on we go.
That saddens me when monuments of my past are literally now gone. Like BTTF when Doc Brown says erased from existence.

Mono No Aware. Youth is truly wasted on the young. I would have done so much more when I was a young carefree teenager knowing what I know now. You think you will live forever and a year feels like an eternity. Im 53 now, time is flying so fast its scary. Already through half my life. Wish I had more time, a priceless commodity that no one can buy regardless of how much money they have.

I envy most other species that go through their lives blissfully unaware of their mortality. 😞
 
What I've noticed as family and friends of family have gotten older is that everything has wound down. Not just just their lives but their presence in mine. Part of the vibrancy of life, social gatherings, moving to new places, parties, has been extinguished. Chunks of life is deleted like a SIMs game incrementally. Step by step.

I have a half brother that I never grew up with. Cousins that I was very close to that are doing their own thing and that I grew apart from.

Friends I grew apart from too....

I'm a well known ageist on these boards and I feel the best part of my life was in my early teens. I was a better person in my 20s too. I'm more emotionally flat these days.
Completely understand your point of view
 
It usually hits me when I'm bored.

Most of it comes losing family to early in life, friends moving away and silly as this may sound to some of you but things I used to like to go to like Borders, video rental stores or hang out spots that are gone bother me a little bit.

Do any feel like this some times.

No.

Get more fresh air. Be more active. Exercise. Cleanup diet. Meditate. 🧘 take up new hobbies. Make new friends. If you aren’t already, date. Cleanup your diet. Lift. Lose weight. Everyone is fat these days.

A new hobby will reinvigorate you. I recently took up cycling a few years ago. I love it. I took up hiking took. It’s great.

The nature of life is change. Embrace it. People die. Friends leave, get married or die. The scamdemic showed you how corrupt everything is and how few people you have in your life. Be grateful for those people.

Pray 🙏 find God. Submit to something greater than your self. If you are suffering, consider getting help. Find a Dr Peterson, Orion Taraban, Dr Shawn T Smith - pro male docs vs these hacks at the APA that deem masculinity toxic. It should be a short stint with actionable advice for you to implement and keep it moving.

Good luck buddy.

Edit - also dial in sleep. JRE 1109 is a fire 🔥 podcast with Matt Walker - sleep specialist. Get your sleep on point.
 
Sometimes I dont know im depressed.

I realize I have a problem when im looking forward to sleeping too much. Then im like OK. Got to do somethin about that.

Sometimes you got to just look at things from a different angle, and work from that.
Always remember my step dad used to sleep a lot and my Mum telling me its a sign of depression. I guess people would rather sleep more to escape some of the harsh realities of life. Not saying that was your scenario ofc.
 
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Always remember my step dad used to sleep a lot and my Mum telling me its a sign of depression. I guess people would rather sleep to escape some of the harsh realities of life. Not saying that was your scenario ofc.
It's something like that, indeed.

But it wasn't altogether conscious.

It would take a min to realize where I was at.
 
That saddens me when monuments of my past are literally now gone. Like BTTF when Doc Brown says erased from existence.

Mono No Aware. Youth is truly wasted on the young. I would have done so much more when I was a young carefree teenager knowing what I know now. You think you will live forever and a year feels like an eternity. Im 53 now, time is flying so fast its scary. Already through half my life. Wish I had more time, a priceless commodity that no one can buy regardless of how much money they have.

I envy most other species that go through their lives blissfully unaware of their mortality. 😞

 
It usually hits me when I'm bored.

Most of it comes losing family to early in life, friends moving away and silly as this may sound to some of you but things I used to like to go to like Borders, video rental stores or hang out spots that are gone bother me a little bit.

Do any feel like this some times.

I know the feels, especially after my parents passed a few years ago. And unfortunately I haven't been as diligent with my routines as I should be. Need to get back to that. When I'm consistent with those everything is better. I don't have to do all of these all the time, but if I can do even half of them half of the time I do really well in general.

More:
Good sleep
Regular exercise (both weights and cardio (Level 2 cardio and HIIT)
Stay well hydrated
Clean eating (avoid highly refined carbs and saturated fats, get more lean protein and lightly process vegetables)
Meditation
Affirmations
Visualizations
Gratitude and Blessing Others
Productivity practices (To-Do style lists, and Calendar)
Learn and implement skills that will improve your life and benefit others.
Set and work on worthy goals.
Find activities that you enjoy which will naturally lead to making new friends in person.
Be of service to others.

Less:
Social media
TV
Music or pop culture slop with drama or negative messaging.
 
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