Dealing With Depression

I've lost a couple of friends to depression, it sucks.

I've been on a funk lately, but I know how to deal with it at this point
exercise always helps, but I think the feeling of belonging to a "community" is more sustainable in the long term. And by that I mean doing things with people who share a common interest.
 
we all hit those lows at times, best to keep busy with something you enjoy,try not to dwell on things from the past that you can’t change
 
For me it isn't just the boredom, it's the emptiness that creeps in when things I used to love are gone or when people drift away. Places that used to hold memories become reminders of who or what I've lost, and suddenly the whole day feels heavier. It's not silly at all, it's grief for a life that used to exist, and I think that's something people underestimate.

When I reached my lowest point, what helped was finally accepting that I couldn't fix it on my own. I started therapy and later went to Legacy Healing Center. They helped me understand that part of my depression was tied to unresolved loss, not just a chemical imbalance. Getting that kind of support gave me ways to rebuild a life around new routines instead of living in the ghost of the old ones.
 
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Contempt said:
Just find a hobby you enjoy, join a social team sport, go to yoga.
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Is this everyone's go to since I've been here for 18 years? Have you ever been, not just a bit shake it off fed up but really really really don't care if you wake up the next day before?

I've known a few and that advice does fuck all other than patronise them, that their feelings aren't hurting and make them feel even worse.
 
fingercuffs said:
Is this everyone's go to since I've been here for 18 years? Have you ever been, not just a bit shake it off fed up but really really really don't care if you wake up the next day before?

I've known a few and that advice does fuck all other than patronise them, that their feelings aren't hurting and make them feel even worse.
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If some of the examples of things that make him depressed are: "Borders, video rental stores or hang out spots that are gone..." It doesn't exactly sound like serious clinical depression...
 
Contempt said:
If some of the examples of things that make him depressed are: "Borders, video rental stores or hang out spots that are gone..." It doesn't exactly sound like serious clinical depression...
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He's in his late 50s, he's made a point about losing a ton of people too early and friends moving away. He also said in the OP "depression".

So many times on this forum without even really thinking about it just whip out the same cure for all without looking into any of it. Which likely would make it worse.
 
What would anyone be expecting, making a thread on a karate forum? ...a deep personal psychoanalysis from a clinical psychologist?

He said that he gets depressed when he's bored so I suggested some things to keep him busy.
 
That's normal. Yeah doing new could help. But normal to get nostalgy and depression sometimes
 
Contempt said:
What would anyone be expecting, making a thread on a karate forum? ...a deep personal psychoanalysis from a clinical psychologist?

He said that he gets depressed when he's bored so I suggested some things to keep him busy.
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Depression isn’t a keep busy thing ,it’s highly unlikely most actually know what real depression is they think feeling down is depression which is not reality . It’s a severe chemical inbalance in the body that influences one’s behavior,if you can’t fix it it’s most likely a health issue or if one’s on certain medications that cause the effect of being depressed which is probably the worst thing you can feel if you’ve actually experienced it , most don’t really know they think it’s feeling bored or alone .
 
Contempt said:
What would anyone be expecting, making a thread on a karate forum? ...a deep personal psychoanalysis from a clinical psychologist?

He said that he gets depressed when he's bored so I suggested some things to keep him busy.
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He said he's "dealing with depression".
 
fingercuffs said:
Is this everyone's go to since I've been here for 18 years? Have you ever been, not just a bit shake it off fed up but really really really don't care if you wake up the next day before?

I've known a few and that advice does fuck all other than patronise them, that their feelings aren't hurting and make them feel even worse.
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I think it's well meaning. He was trying to be constructive. It's hard for people who don't experience depression to give advice on depression because everyone has been sad at some point in their lives so they think that's what depression is like which is pretty understandable if that's their only reference point imo.
 
Hellowhosthat said:
I think it's well meaning. He was trying to be constructive. It's hard for people who don't experience depression to give advice on depression because everyone has been sad at some point in their lives so they think that's what depression is like which is pretty understandable if that's their only reference point imo.
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He's a mate, I know it was never mean spirited. Just ill informed.
 
Cliche solution, but actually works, jistu. Don't get too much satisfaction from it anymore, not fond of sparring. But sure hits the reset button.
 
I try and do things that take extreme focus and fine motor skills. It is the only thing that actually deactivates my scum bag part of my brain. Like painting, or trying to do sculpts. Riding motorcycles too. Just something you have to turn all your brain power to.

Also, learn to control boredom. Start practicing being still, and not needing to have anything flow into you. If that makes sense.
 
I sleep more… take a couple days to myself.. socialize with family or close friends

Eat more.. make fun of myself.. make light of the situation

The real question is how can it be avoided?
 
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