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So when you're talking about switching schools, how you do it matters. This goes back to the 'long term business relationship' thing. If I have a supplier I've used for years and I just drop him with no notice and switch to one of his competitors, he's going to be justifiably pissed. That's dirty pool. But if I go to him and say 'Jim, these are the things that aren't working for me, can we figure something out or is this just the way it is' and he's not willing or can't change the problematic aspects of our relationship then I'm totally justified in telling him openly that I'm moving my business to someone else. Same thing in BJJ. I would never just leave my gym with no explanation, talk shit about my old team, etc. That's just disrespectful in any realm. But if something is wrong at my gym, I talk to my teacher about it and he either can't or won't make the changes I need to be happy, I'm totally justified in moving schools. Just do it openly and respectfully like an adult. In my experience most people are fine with that sort of thing. I recently got a new job and I told my coach that I'd not be able to teach anymore and that I'd probably only be at the gym 2x a week and would pick up sessions at a gym we're friendly with close to my job. He was totally cool with it, because I gave him good reasons and I addressed the issues openly. If I had just stopped teaching, stopped coming as often, and not offered to start paying the normal student rate he'd probably have been pissed and he'd have been right to be mad because that's a poor way to handle such a situation.