At what point do you cut off friends?

[Bolshevik***]

I don't have any friends.

i respect that.

 

[MortalWombat]

I like the word "languish".

 

[SafyreSchool**]

I will cut off a friend if I feel like they're trying to be the "dominant" friend.

I don't need to have the last word on things, or control where we go and when, but some people do, and if I feel like they're evolving into that, I just stop hanging out with them.

 

[Lost]

I'd say if you can't stand talking to them because they have the personalities of children.

 

[Fat Abbot]

I know its hard... sometimes you just gotta face reality. My mother always told me you would be lucky if you ever met enough real friends as you had fingers on one hand.

That's being generous.

My father said that if you have 1 real friend the day you die, you're lucky.

I don't keep acquaintances as friends, if you drift apart from someone there's a reason behind it, best to keep them in the past.

 

[TheGauntlet7**]

...Not for a reason like they are a douche or screwed you over .

What I mean is friends that you no longer speak with regularly, lost touch with or no longer communicate with.


Sometimes people change, move on, drift away & that's understandable but when it gets to a point where you're the only one who reaches out on holidays etc.. is it time to stop?

One thing I noticed is as I get older (30's) my circle of friends is definitely becoming smaller but the relationships become closer. I also wanted to confess that I do not Facebook. Obviously its the way most people keep in touch & stay in the loop but I'm not one of them. I have my reasons and they're all drama related so I steer clear of the website. I only keep contact with people through my phone via text or calls. Sometimes a person doesn't reciprocate. I'm not offended by it but I feel if that person cant take a moment out of their life to keep in touch after awhile I wont bother with them anymore.

So Mayberry at what point do you let go of friends you no longer speak with?

I can kinda relate to what you're saying. I barely keep in touch too. The way I see it, just keep the door open, call them during the holiday and ask if they want to get together for drinks; If they walk in, welcome them. But you don't have to walk out the door to pull them in.

 

[Phantomill2k2k6]

Life is about change and i'm also one who doesn't like to be pestered so i usually let it go but when it's been too long or unacceptable i then cut off.

 

[Diktaattori]

Only time I cut off people, is when they're scumbags. Other than that I just goes naturally, there's buddies that I haven't talked to years, but sometimes bump into and hangout.

 

[x fifty 1ne]

I have friends that I won't speak to for months or some case it could be a couple of years but when we find ourselves at a function together like a wedding or something we just pick up where we left off.

I don't go out of my way to keep in touch with people for the sake of keeping in touch.

This. Through age people just take different paths in life. Sometimes those paths cross again and everything is still the same....only an older face.

 

[ThatBJJGuy]

...Not for a reason like they are a douche or screwed you over .

What I mean is friends that you no longer speak with regularly, lost touch with or no longer communicate with.


Sometimes people change, move on, drift away & that's understandable but when it gets to a point where you're the only one who reaches out on holidays etc.. is it time to stop?

One thing I noticed is as I get older (30's) my circle of friends is definitely becoming smaller but the relationships become closer. I also wanted to confess that I do not Facebook. Obviously its the way most people keep in touch & stay in the loop but I'm not one of them. I have my reasons and they're all drama related so I steer clear of the website. I only keep contact with people through my phone via text or calls. Sometimes a person doesn't reciprocate. I'm not offended by it but I feel if that person cant take a moment out of their life to keep in touch after awhile I wont bother with them anymore.

So Mayberry at what point do you let go of friends you no longer speak with?

Hey man great thread. Im like you mid 20's and over the past couple of years people stop making effort to stay in touch or return messages. It's really annoying and frustrating. people i thought were my close friends end up not being.

My stance now is if they havent bothered after 1 year they can go fuck themselves. It's their loss. they lost a good friend. I'm nothing but a good friend and help people out but when they dont return the favor they can go fuck themselves. Had to cut a few people out this year also. I deleted facebook too....I am not a +1 on your friends list. I am not some random e-friend ....so you stay in touch and hang out or take a walk. I'm finding a lot of people befriend you to use you and when they dont need you they ignore you. So I'm not as giving as I once was. I don't go out of my way anymore when I don't have too to help people out.

It sucks but whatever....go make some newer and more awesome friends not bottom feeders.

If they don't attempt to contact you then chances are they weren't a close friend to begin with.

I guess i have no good friends then. :-(

 

[Benoco]

My stance now is if they havent bothered after 1 year they can go fuck themselves. It's their loss. they lost a good friend. I'm nothing but a good friend and help people out but when they dont return the favor they can go fuck themselves. Had to cut a few people out this year also. I deleted facebook too....I am not a +1 on your friends list. I am not some random e-friend ....so you stay in touch and hang out or take a walk. I'm finding a lot of people befriend you to use you and when they dont need you they ignore you.

Some people like to ring regularly, talk on the phone and shit. I'm more of a "see you when I see you" type guy. I would never ring anyone other than to arrange meeting them somewhere and if I miss a call I wouldn't return it just for a chat, it's just not me. I have plenty of great friends I haven't spoken to in over a year, made no effort to and I'm sure when I see them it'll be cool.

I find that the vast, vast majority of people who ring regularly love talking about themselves and absolutely dominate the conversation to the point where you can find yourself humoring them and watching the clock. In fact every single person who rings me regularly is like that. I only just realised that now.

 

[SammyPops]

It usually just happens organically. No need to cut them off.

 

[KOCowboy]

when the juice isnt worth the squeeze

 

[lion paw]

Some friends were just too immature to keep around.Others,just randomly talk to them and went into different cliques.

 

[ModernMatt]

When moving to another city/town.

 

[ManiacTroll]

When they find out I banged their girlfriend

You obviously chose your name well.

I really dont know, I didnt really lose contact with any of my good friends. That just kept going automatically, never was much of an effort.

 

[Bubble Bath]

Just cutoff from my best friend from jr.high/high school. Honestly our relationship was not that great for a while after jr.high. We basically grew up with nothing in common. I felt like we shouldve cut off in high school, but I was stupid not too. But I know when I need a helping hand he'll be there though. I'll do the same.

 

[marioh]

I just cut off a friend.
Guy gets married, i hardly hear from him, and the last 2 times i do, he's looking to borrow money. Didn't even have the decency the last time via a phone call, instead was a text. Fuck him.

 

[Ralph Wiggum]

I don't really force communication with people, never works out when I do. Friendships kinda naturally evolve for me. The only time I actively try and cut a friend off is when they do me more harm than good. And although that may sound selfish, I'm a very tolerant easy going person. so you have to be kind of a huge asshole to get cut off by me. Could only think of 3 friends I made a conscious effort to avoid.

 

[Shawn91111]

I cut them off when they don't reciprocate phone calls, emails etc. When im the one who always initiates etc. If they aren't holding up their end, why bother.