Anyone else not a fan of parties?

In my entire life, I've probably had a relationship with 1 person who would have enjoyed that sort of club scene.

Even the crowded house/apt party yelling at each other over loud music deal doesn't do anything for me.

You should probably gradually develop new friendships with people that suit your tastes better.
 
Dislike bars and ragers but like get togethers.

Girl I'm diggin likes em both. Not a good mix
 
Parties got boring for me before I even turned 21. I still pop into one every once in a while but usually don't stay long.

Bars and clubs I'm just not into at all. Call me cheap but I'm not into spending extra for an environment I enjoy less.
 
spikemma said:
Dislike bars and ragers but like get togethers.

Girl I'm diggin likes em both. Not a good mix
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My wife likes dance clubs sometimes so I have to compromise.
 
I don't like clubs either but I appreciate that they exist, if only for me to be able to brand people with certainty to the end that I know we would never get along.

That isn't an insult or anything. There are just people who don't mesh with others. A clubber - I know we'd both want to kill each other eventually.
 
Cajun said:
My wife likes dance clubs sometimes so I have to compromise.
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Ah you got a wife okay. Girl I'm talking to rolls in circle of friends who go to bars and pool halls. I'm chilld as fuck but I just figure if I'm gonna spend 4 per shot I'll stay in with people and hang. Kinda a simple dude
 
I'm 20 and pretty much in the same boat. Sometimes the amount of people is just overwhelming for me. Different story if I'm on drugs tho.
 
TheCanadianGuy said:
I'm a younger guy, most of my friends enjoy house parties and going downtown to the bars on the weekend, most only recently hit the legal age. But I just can't get into it.

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House parties aren't so bad, depending on who's place it is and what the crowd is like. Sometimes I can just chill with some people, chat, and have a decent time but I don't overly enjoy it. Other times, if I barely know anyone, I'll awkwardly wander around and keep to myself. Those suck.

I actually do enjoy going to the bar, but usually the more restauranty-ones, where you can grab a burger and sweet potato fries, drink some beer and play pool with your buddies. I don't care for watching MMA at bars, too many arrogant fucks who think they know the sport well because they saw one Brock Lesnar fight.

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As for the younger-targeted club bars...I fucking hate it. I'm so out of my element. Blasting the top hit songs of the week (not good...), bright lights, crowds, drunk assholes, and ditzy chicks.

You've got all these dudes approaching you like "BRO, I'M SO WASTED, HIGH FIVE!", which to me just screams "ACKNOWLEDGE MY EXISTENCE!". The girls will dance around seductively (and usually unsuccessfully) and sing along to the shitty songs, trying to find a cute guy. Which I guess can be good if you just want to get some, but awkward if you're just there to chill and someone starts trying to coerce you to dance and grind. I know for a lot of people you just get so drunk that you stop giving a fuck, but I don't get that drunk. I usually puke before I get that drunk. I just can't consume enough alcohol to lose all inhibitions.

To me, the people all kind of just blend in and act like one of two stereotypical characters (1) DRUNK GUY, and (2) DRUNK GIRL.

I don't mean to talk down to these people, to each his own. I just find it surprising that nobody really feels the same way. All my friends are dumbfounded at my indifference to partying and talking to girls at parties. I'm interested in women, but I can't bring myself to yell into someone's ear over loud, pounding music to engage in a boring ass conversation in the hopes of getting somewhere. I prefer to just talking to girls at college, having a decent conversation, getting coffee. Not saying one is better than the other, but I'm more comfortable with the latter.

What say you Mayberry? Do you party bro?
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TS no offense bro but you sound wicked beta and not a lot of fun to be around, the whole fun of parties/bar nights is meeting new people, getting drunk, and doing crazy stuff that you'll regret tomorrow

If you're not even going to try to have fun you should just stop going and get a new group of friends who are into weekly book circles or something like that
 
TheCanadianGuy said:
I'm a younger guy, most of my friends enjoy house parties and going downtown to the bars on the weekend, most only recently hit the legal age. But I just can't get into it.

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House parties aren't so bad, depending on who's place it is and what the crowd is like. Sometimes I can just chill with some people, chat, and have a decent time but I don't overly enjoy it. Other times, if I barely know anyone, I'll awkwardly wander around and keep to myself. Those suck.

I actually do enjoy going to the bar, but usually the more restauranty-ones, where you can grab a burger and sweet potato fries, drink some beer and play pool with your buddies. I don't care for watching MMA at bars, too many arrogant fucks who think they know the sport well because they saw one Brock Lesnar fight.

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As for the younger-targeted club bars...I fucking hate it. I'm so out of my element. Blasting the top hit songs of the week (not good...), bright lights, crowds, drunk assholes, and ditzy chicks.

You've got all these dudes approaching you like "BRO, I'M SO WASTED, HIGH FIVE!", which to me just screams "ACKNOWLEDGE MY EXISTENCE!". The girls will dance around seductively (and usually unsuccessfully) and sing along to the shitty songs, trying to find a cute guy. Which I guess can be good if you just want to get some, but awkward if you're just there to chill and someone starts trying to coerce you to dance and grind. I know for a lot of people you just get so drunk that you stop giving a fuck, but I don't get that drunk. I usually puke before I get that drunk. I just can't consume enough alcohol to lose all inhibitions.

To me, the people all kind of just blend in and act like one of two stereotypical characters (1) DRUNK GUY, and (2) DRUNK GIRL.

I don't mean to talk down to these people, to each his own. I just find it surprising that nobody really feels the same way. All my friends are dumbfounded at my indifference to partying and talking to girls at parties. I'm interested in women, but I can't bring myself to yell into someone's ear over loud, pounding music to engage in a boring ass conversation in the hopes of getting somewhere. I prefer to just talking to girls at college, having a decent conversation, getting coffee. Not saying one is better than the other, but I'm more comfortable with the latter.

What say you Mayberry? Do you party bro?
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I was very much the same way. Went through a couple years of going to parties and clubs hating it all the while. You echoed all the sentiments I felt

Then I just started hosting my own small kickbacks and told all my friends if there's more than 10 people don't bother inviting me
 
Find an place this is more you. A place with strobe lights and a DJ blasting the top 30 club songs so loud that you can't hold a conversation wasn't for me either.

My place of choice was an Irish Pub. Awesome food which you will never get at a club, music, but not to the point where you can't hold a conversation, and some pool tables. Sometimes a live band too. A good place to just relax, and you can still get shitfaced if you want to.

I would go to other places. Sometimes I'd go to a club if I knew a girl I was after would be there, and then try to get them to leave and go to the pub. The night sometimes started somewhere else, but we'd always end up at the pub.
 
What really bothers me is that now that I'm in my late 20s and most my friends around that late 20s early 30s range I always convince myself parties will be much more enjoyable. But it's always the same stupid high school like drama and BS going down it baffles me.
 
It's cool if that's not your thing but no need to pretend drunk girls are trying to dance and grind with you.
 
It all depends on what mood I'm in and who I'm with
 
Never liked parties. I like to go to the bar with friends every once in a while.
 
EliteHandSpeed said:
TS no offense bro but you sound wicked beta and not a lot of fun to be around, the whole fun of parties/bar nights is meeting new people, getting drunk, and doing crazy stuff that you'll regret tomorrow

If you're not even going to try to have fun you should just stop going and get a new group of friends who are into weekly book circles or something like that
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Maybe his idea of fun isn't 'getting drunk and doing crazy stuff'.

You are aware people's idea of fun may be different to yours right?
 
Sounds like your anxiety kicks in, just grab some beer & have a good time bro. Don't take yourself too seriously, just go with the flow. Just blend in, instead of trying to stand out.
 
Loved bars/house parties when I was young and single. Now that I'm older, I'm not much of a fan anymore.
 
I fucking love house parties. There's hooking up, there's conversations, there's a keg and people do keg stands, there's at least one girl crying somwhere, there's that one bedroom where are the shady kids are doing drugs, theres beer pong....

I feel like after about age 24 most people stopped having really good house parties too ofter so the once a year there still is once i make sure to check it out
 
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