Social Adult content creators and male loneliness

[ferrisjso]

It's not about logic that's the whole point because it's not porn they are looking for but emotional attachment and they get that by engaging in paid chats with the women after getting close watching their material. It creates an emotional bond they so miss in their lives and its what makes them so easy to manipulate. They pay for the attention the get.

I've considered that. This logically doesn't make sense. Free porn is too diverse theres still too much of that sort of stuff available to justify. Why tf would someone look for emotional connection with someone who wants money from them?

Like if the women were pretending to be interested or giving you false expectations thats one thing. But these girls are clearly selling content to a whole audience. Theres no expectations of any connection to any individual unless they make it up in their head. And it just seems like a super hard sell.

 

[BreatheSherBro]

My suggestion if you are trying to quit OF/porn would be to start by replacing it with another activity. A healthy distraction like going to the gym a lot, or taking long walks. Doing something that requires you to be somewhere were you can't access OF/porn. Actually leave your house for significant periods of time for things other than work.

I think that would do wonders for you. Consider therapy too if you are still struggling, but my number one suggestion would be finding something you can replace it with and requires you to be somewhere were you can't easily access OF/porn.

 

[Fury]

A lot of women are increasingly more picky as well as social media creates an image of a gym toned body guy with expensive car and a lot of women see it as a benchmark

A lot of men who stare at content creators all day have decided they can only date women who look like those and have also destroyed their understanding of how a real relationship works.

Find a hobby, any hobby you enjoy and meet some people. I have a cousin who's super into Sonic The Hedgehog, like way more than a normal person would be with shelves of figures, but he has no problem dating. He pursues his hobby and meets women who may not share the Sonic thing but maybe they're also collecting things nerds, usually pretty attractive though that isn't the point. He doesn't make a lot of money and he's not especially attractive/fit.

The point is stop looking at onlyfans, stop living in a social media cycle and go into the world. Use your money to travel, meet new people and maybe some of them will let you see them naked in person.

It's not your lack of car or great body that makes dating hard, it's being a shut in who's losing a sense of reality.

 

[listrahtes]

Why tf would someone look for emotional connection with someone who wants money from them?

Come on thats as old as mankind. One way or annother you pay for near every relationship and sometimes even a lot more with marriages

If you talk to men why they go to prostitutes / OF etc very very often loneliness is the cause and not really sexual desire. Sex is just the vehicle to get connection as it activates emotional states in your brain. You actualy "feel" a lot during sex.

 

[NoSmilez]

You get customized content. You telling them what you want and they make personalized video for you with your name mentioned. You can also call them live, they charge like $10 a minute or so.

Do you subscribe to a lot of them or you focus on one of them? Do you consider it a substitute for female companionship?

Do you spend enough to be considered a whale? They would invite whales to their live events etc etc.

 

[NoSmilez]

No matter how lonely men are spending money on nudes when free porn is available is simply undefendable. Theres no logical basis for that decision. None.

It’s not just porn. I believe it is the emotional connection and human interaction. They know your name etc etc. They will send you pictures/videos throughout the day. I am pretty sure OP knows all the pros and cons. The validation is too addictive.

I think it’s the same thing as people subscribing to streams and tipping them excessively. There is also a parasocial relationship that sometimes happen.

 

[Contempt]

...definitely sounds like the answer to your problems are like the answer to most problems in life: coke and hookers.

 

[Dogpound2020]

Live by the pork sword

and die by it!

 

[Kardashians]

What's a "normal" guy? What's a "normal" woman?

The definition changes wildly, depending on who you ask.

Fair enough. I think baseline is like, not stupid, not extreme with their politics regardless of which way they lean, doesn’t exhibit shitty behavior, not a pornsick creep, not a pussy, and has a job lol.

 

[Osculater]

I say just pay for a hooker and you can talk about your feelings with her for an hour

 

[ObsoleteSoul]

Stop watching porn and jacking off. Change will come once you do. Seems it has twisted you. It’s not hard once you pass a certain amount of time. Anything is better than your current path.

 

[AGGAMEMNON66]

Just go outside

 

[Streeter]

Church a d having realistic expectations is your ticket here.

 

[Otto!]

Stop spending money on porn. There is enough free content for a lifetime,

 

[BB in Crazy!!!!]

Stop this, this is destroying your future and project that you could do by putting money aside each month, for example, that 50% you put into OF whores could be put in a sp 500 stock market funds. And if i was you i would think of leaving Reddit...this place is an echo-chamber...you will think that there are a lot of people with the same problem but its just an illusion, the real world is not like this.

I think even guys who frequent OF think 50% of your income is a serious problem. That’s not normal at all.

 

[I Am Legion]

Have you considered going Gay? Fat ugly straight women that can't get laid turn lesbian out of necessity all the time. Gay guys will fuck anything, they meet for BJs in woods, public restrooms, parks etc. I think sexually it's probably the easiest community to get laid. I would never do it, but I also am not a porn addict that can't meet women.

 

[Lycandroid]

learn an instrument and join a band, youll have of the most rewarding hobbies out there and you will meet lots of people

 

[FyrFytr998]

Who the fuck pays for porn or Only Fans? A Google search gets your needs met for free.

 

[SuperAlly]

Fair enough. I think baseline is like, not stupid, not extreme with their politics regardless of which way they lean, doesn’t exhibit shitty behavior, not a pornsick creep, not a pussy, and has a job lol.

Worships pseudo celebs like the Kardashians?

 

[Hellowhosthat]

I don't get why people spending large amounts of money on only fans don't just treat themselves to a decent quality hooker a couple of times a month.