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As I believe I might have told you before, this is the mother of your child and your child's best interests rest with her and you having a good relationship.
Now, the back story you intimate here suggests you may have had little choice but to head down this route. Taking that as read let's not look at what's been done, but what can be done.
First port of call is to talk to her. It's your primary interest that she be of sound mind and together and you may have power to influence this. If finances are a driving force in her current problems you can alleviate by offering to give back the child support, for now, until she's on her feet more. Giving back what you'd likely never see, trading for more in the future is just good business sense but it also aligns with your child's best interests.
I don't think you should get super involved or anything but it's worth asking if there's anything you can do to make things easier.
The visitation will be happening at her elder sisters, whether that is a safe environment is for you to determine.
I recommend not talking about her to others.
Bottom line, she will always be the child's mother and for the child's sake you should try to support her.
That is my opinion.
Now, the back story you intimate here suggests you may have had little choice but to head down this route. Taking that as read let's not look at what's been done, but what can be done.
First port of call is to talk to her. It's your primary interest that she be of sound mind and together and you may have power to influence this. If finances are a driving force in her current problems you can alleviate by offering to give back the child support, for now, until she's on her feet more. Giving back what you'd likely never see, trading for more in the future is just good business sense but it also aligns with your child's best interests.
I don't think you should get super involved or anything but it's worth asking if there's anything you can do to make things easier.
The visitation will be happening at her elder sisters, whether that is a safe environment is for you to determine.
I recommend not talking about her to others.
Bottom line, she will always be the child's mother and for the child's sake you should try to support her.
That is my opinion.