You'd be singing a different tune if you met this guy in real life. You can't question my loyalty because I'm not the only guy who's given up on this guy but I'm the one who stuck it out the longest. A couple guys I know who are pretty darn good at picking up chicks offered to legit coach him and he turned them down because he's afraid of making changes, even positive ones, in his life.
The difference is, if a girl or a bunch hate on a buddy, I back my boy. PERIOD!
There is a guy I know, he is jacked and good looking. Some girls will hate him on but, its because they thing sex with him translates to white picket fence, ring, and babies. Women will talk shit. He holds no grudge and meditates before going to get more girls. There is no realm of possibility where I would ditch him or not have his back. If a woman is not going to talk to me, snub me because he is my friend, she could kill herself for all I care. fuck not given. I support my boy.
Fear is natural. Its what i experienced prior to my first DMT trip. Then, your entire world goes fucking lucid-dream like. The following hit, everything goes tunnel vision, and all you can hear is a resonance all around you. And then, there is just darkness. Void. Pure presence. And then, there is the light and you come back in awe. The first thought that comes to mind isn't about petty worries like what people will think of you or your friend. Its not about your haircut or workplace politics. NOTHING MATTERS. Nothing. At least, not in the way you are going through life. Its like dying and being born again. None of this shit we dwell on really matters.
Gary Vee talks about shifting focus and getting into the lanes that highlight your talents in order to be successful. I guarantee you, when you look back on your life when sitting on your death bed, none of this shit will matter. I highly recommend you meditate, focus on presence, and shift your undivided attention towards the shit that which truly matters.
We could experience WWIII. It could all end in a blink. Go get girls. Go mingle. Don't preach to your buddy nor any of your friends to him. Lead by example. I have always found value in Eastern philosophy. I have a guru, sifu, sensei, etc. whatever you want to refer to him. Ask a question. You get given a question. The answer is then left for you to figure out for yourself in order to build those neural path ways.
I don't know this dude but, if I were to guess, likely comes from a single mother house hold or has a father figure that urinates from the seated possession. He needs a good masculine role model. Be that. Abandoning him and checking out is cowardice. When you stand, don't wobble. Make a statement of purpose and act accordingly.
You have a shared history with this dude. That same creepy title women give him, he will deem them in a few years. I am removed from high school and college by a decade. Many of the girls that were cheerleaders wouldn't fit into their outfit today. Social media is blowing up with ass pics and semi nudes. Female ego knows no bounds today and society preaches there is no wrong they can do.
If he can't get laid, show him how its done. If after all your best efforts, he still wont change or even try, take a miss before moving on.
