Are affairs/open marriages/cheating almost normal now?

Hate to say it, but infidelity is common now. If you can think of more that one person you know that’s a cheater or has cheated, then you know it’s common place now.
 
When I was 18 / 19 or so and was going out more regularly, I was shocked by the behaviour of girls at the bar.
You could chat up a girl and spend the evening in a bar/club dancing and flirting with them, buying them drinks all night and having them kiss you. Only to be told at the end of the night "oh I have a boyfriend, can't give you my number sorry".
Also, I have been out before where my friends partners are out without their fellas, was surprised how these women would still act like they're single. Ok they might not kiss some random dude or exchange numbers. But they will let guys buy them drink and chat to guys who are clearly after them all night.
 
Don Quixote said:
Hate to say it, but infidelity is common now. If you can think of more that one person you know that’s a cheater or has cheated, then you know it’s common place now.
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It's always been common. If anything there's less cheating now, with young people having less sex than at any point in recent history. There just isn't as much of a stigma against having multiple partners as there used to be.
 
I'd wager more people cheat than not and many that don't cheat only do so because they are lazy/complacent and don't have easy/better options.
 
I think it's just a case of people realising that there's more than one way to do this. I understand it not being for everyone, but I wonder if those that are adamantly negative towards the idea actually thought about the pros or even talked to someone in one of these relationships, would they come to a rational understanding?

Naramie said:
I see these people on Tinder and Bumble every now and then. I'm like these sad fucks. You're telling me you're gonna do all that work courting/marrying a chick, put food on the table, roof over her head, buy her shit and then let some nobody come and plow your chick like it's cool while you're stuck there footing the bill. LOL HAHA! Fucking idiot!
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The type of person you described is probably not the person aiming to be in one of these relationships.

Rdude92 said:
Well it's no surprise considering it's normal in America to have casual sex with the opposite gender on a day-to-day basis. The culture there kinda..promote promiscuity and that negates the traditions of a normal marriage life.
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Guess you've never met European women.
 
WandySaku2 said:
I think it's just a case of people realising that there's more than one way to do this. I understand it not being for everyone, but I wonder if those that are adamantly negative towards the idea actually thought about the pros or even talked to someone in one of these relationships, would they come to a rational understanding?
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The vast majority of people never seriously question the traditions and social norms they were brought up with. Religious dogma is responsible for the idea that monogamy between a man and a woman is essentially the only acceptable relationship. The problem is that there's literally no reason to believe that's the case. Monogamy is good if that's what you want, it's also cool to have an open relationship if that's what you want too, as long as everyone is informed and knows what they're getting themselves into. It's not for me but I'm not judging anyone who wants to go that route.
 
Pugilistic said:
Cheating has always been around. Always. Don't kid yourself with thinking that morals are "declining these days." People back then were just more sneaky about it because of the social stigma.
Open relationships seem to be a new development and I welcome it. At least you're honest about it.
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Yea I think the only change is that it's much easier to do it. Towns aren't so small anymore so no worry of running into someone you know. Can find\reconnect with old flings much easier.
 
OCEANCIDAL said:
The vast majority of people never seriously question the traditions and social norms they were brought up with. Religious dogma is responsible for the idea that monogamy between a man and a woman is essentially the only acceptable relationship. The problem is that there's literally no reason to believe that's the case. Monogamy is good if that's what you want, it's also cool to have an open relationship if that's what you want too, as long as everyone is informed and knows what they're getting themselves into. It's not for me but I'm not judging anyone who wants to go that route.
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Why does everyone have to be informed?
 
GSP vs Conor in 2019 said:
I’m a happily married father of 3 and have noticed a trend amongst my friends, conversations they have about others, people I’ve spoken with during work through my business and on holiday as well as seeing first hand and I feel there is a huge amount of couples/individuals who either habitually cheat on their spouse, have open marriages/swingers or have affairs with people (especially those in the same line of work or on holiday) am I blowing this out of proportion? Is it the same as it ever was? Wtf is going on?
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I don't think this is anything new. I think you just realize it's prettt common once you're older.
 
The older I get, the more gross casual sex sounds to me.

The chicks that you meet out there who would actually bang you are the same ones that have banged a hundred other dudes in the past few months. The chances of getting an STD are increasing rapidly. And even if you don't get an STD, just the idea that you're number 101 so far this year is gross.

Just imagine all the greasy idiots and degenerate drug users that have been in that pussy before you. It's like washing your dick in the gutter.
 
Amerikuracana said:
It's the world you get when women have more say than guys.

The stuff needs to at least stay behind the curtain more. Women of the West don't love their husbands too often, because they got plowed way, way to much by way, way to many different guys to ever respect a man for marrying them. Plus, if a woman gets caught cheating, the man isn't allowed to even slap her. They will never say it publicly to foil their advantage, but women find this funny, and probably almost even sad. Hero-cops will save the day.

Guys cheat as well, and are changing with the times. People in the West get married too old, after too much whoring; men and women. I had a women that never cheated on me, but she turned on me in different ways because of her chemical imbalance. Now that I know 90% of women are a joke (I would have guessed 60%, before I got back out there) I realize I didn't appreciate her loyalty enough. It was rare.

In conclusion, with all the porn and bs, young people aren't associating sex with LOVE. Women have these primtive views on sex, like it's just acceptable drug use, when it used to be used to bond people together. That wasn't sexy enough, I guess. I guess gross, meaningless, "F me F me yeahh yeahh yeahh!" same crap over and over with strangers is somehow sexier? No.. It's not actually.
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Show me on this teddy bear where they hurt you.
 
Fedorgasm said:
The older I get, the more gross casual sex sounds to me.

The chicks that you meet out there who would actually bang you are the same ones that have banged a hundred other dudes in the past few months. The chances of getting an STD are increasing rapidly. And even if you don't get an STD, just the idea that you're number 101 so far this year is gross.

Just imagine all the greasy idiots and degenerate drug users that have been in that pussy before you. It's like washing your dick in the gutter.
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""Fk me Fk me Fk me Fk me yeeeeaahhhhh fk that p**** uhhhhhh"" with dead eyes, and a look that says "Is this even good for either of us? It's really overrated. Sex isn't. Even dirty sex, but doing it with a used up by 28 total slut loser stranger is just a waste. I guess it's exercise, but it can get you sick, so it's not as good.
 
Bubzeh said:
My girl says if she finds a blonde hair in my car, she'll cut my balls off. So I'm not taking risks.
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You’ll have to stick to brunettes then.

Mine says she’ll cut my dick off. I called her on that though, cause she enjoys it too much.
 
Cheating yes...but actually allowing another dude to bang your girl is a mental disorder...
 
Ive been married for 19 years. I have never cheated on my wife and she has never cheated on me. Our sex is extremely intense and fulfilling, lustfull even.

The secret to not getting bored with the same woman for 20 years? I never mastrubate or fantazise to or about any other women than my wife. To the best of my ability I avoid looking at other women sexually or noticing them sexually. I discipline myself sexually. This leads to intense lust for my wife every single time we have sex.

I know this works because I have done it both ways with my wife, thought of other women, fantasized, porn ect. Every one of these acts diminishes the intensity I have with my wife. The lack of them intensifies it.
 
Ottawaguy said:
I don’t know how couples could do open marriage though. Seems like a sure path to divorce! My wife and I have been together for 31 years and I’m happy to say that I never jumped the fence.
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You're missing out bro
 
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