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So I work in a private institute where I teach children English. Some of you might get confused because I've mentioned in other threads how I teach adults. Well I do both. In the institute, I have a female coworker who's fairly good looking, but vain and I'm starting realize, a bit unstable in the head. When I first started working here, I felt pretty good about it because I work with a really good friend of mine, along with some people I've hung out with before. Going to work was like going to hang out with friends. This chick in question was also cool, although we weren't really close.
Then, a few weeks ago, all of the sudden the mood seemed to have changed. This woman started to randomly give me and my buddy shit. For example, we'd be talking in the break room and she'd come in make "joking" comments about us being virgins or some shit. I think this started because my friend and I would talk about chicks. I guess she didn't like how we'd "always" talk about girls. I didn't think much of it and maybe thought of it was jokingly ribbing.
Then I noticed she would avoid the break room when we were there. If we happened to be in the same space, she'd start using very aggressive body language, like slamming the books on the table loudly, exaggerated sighing, giving me looks, etc. All the employees would hang out and shoot shit in the break room but now that's been happening less and less. She'd also ignore me or just scowl at me now, instead of saying hi to me like she used to. There's a certain tension in the air. On occasion she'd comment on how we always talk about girls, even when we're talking about something completely different. I also had a few odd incidents that made it apparent that she has a problem with me.
Perhaps I'm reading too much into it, I thought. What really bothered me was that I started hearing shit from the students, who range from 8-10 years old. We teach some of the same group of kids, and those kids would come to my class and tell me the other teacher was saying how "I (Mr. Pug) messed things up." If I did, I didn't hear anything about it from her or anybody else. It's strange I'd hear it from the kids.
Then most recently the kids told me she was talking about how I'm weird and disgusting, how she wants to punch me, and how she's going to get me fired. Hearing that kind of stuff from children is pretty fucked up. So well, I had to confront her about it. I asked her if she has any issues with me, that I feel hostility from her and that I've been hearing things from the students. She basically just told me kids just talk shit and make shit up, which is true, but the nature of the stuff they say is usually very different. Kids' idea of talking shit is to joke about how I'm a big poo poo head, not deliberately inciting conflict between adults. It's also curious how only the students that we share are the ones talking this kind of shit. The conversation ended with me telling her, "if you have any problems with me, you can just tell me." She just replied okay and that was that. I don't quite believe her but ostensibly, she has no problem with me.
What's strange about this is that, I don't get why she has a problem with me. I always try to maintain friendly vibes with people. I don't talk shit about people nor do I like to say anything negative. I can't imagine I directed anything offensive to her since we barely talked to each other in the first place. I racked my brain and I can't seem to figure out what I did wrong. Especially now since I gave her an opportunity to air out her grievances if she has any. From my perspective she just decided to one day not like me just because. She seems like the type of insecure chick who wants attention and drama (once she was read out loud a text from some dude she was having drama with to the other employees). On top of this I'm getting a colder reaction from some of the other female employees, which might be me reading into it too much, but it's only specifically with the chicks she's closest with.
Usually I can ignore this kind of shit and not let it bother me if it was any other environment, but this is at work. I have to see her regularly and my work is the more connected with her's than with anybody else. While it sucks that I won't be getting back the friendly vibe at work, I can just ignore it. But I'm also thinking if I should take some precautions. She could potentially sabotage my work (she might already have been talking shit about me to the students), maybe spread negative rumors about me to other employees, and more importantly to the management. Worse case scenario, she might try to fuck me over somehow and blame me for something fucked up. I don't know her that well, but she gives off a crazy enough vibe that I wouldn't put it past her. My friend suggested I preemptively mention this to management.
Sorry for the long post, but anyone experience this kind of situation? Am I reading into it too much and there's no real issue?
In before this thread turns into a woman bashing thread
In before filling the room with uppercuts.
Cliffs:
1. Female coworker at an institute all of the sudden is giving off vibes she despises me
2. Been hearing from children how she talks shit about me
3. Confronted her and she plays dumb
4. Am I reading into it too much?
5. Or is she plotting to get me fired?
Then, a few weeks ago, all of the sudden the mood seemed to have changed. This woman started to randomly give me and my buddy shit. For example, we'd be talking in the break room and she'd come in make "joking" comments about us being virgins or some shit. I think this started because my friend and I would talk about chicks. I guess she didn't like how we'd "always" talk about girls. I didn't think much of it and maybe thought of it was jokingly ribbing.
Then I noticed she would avoid the break room when we were there. If we happened to be in the same space, she'd start using very aggressive body language, like slamming the books on the table loudly, exaggerated sighing, giving me looks, etc. All the employees would hang out and shoot shit in the break room but now that's been happening less and less. She'd also ignore me or just scowl at me now, instead of saying hi to me like she used to. There's a certain tension in the air. On occasion she'd comment on how we always talk about girls, even when we're talking about something completely different. I also had a few odd incidents that made it apparent that she has a problem with me.
Perhaps I'm reading too much into it, I thought. What really bothered me was that I started hearing shit from the students, who range from 8-10 years old. We teach some of the same group of kids, and those kids would come to my class and tell me the other teacher was saying how "I (Mr. Pug) messed things up." If I did, I didn't hear anything about it from her or anybody else. It's strange I'd hear it from the kids.
Then most recently the kids told me she was talking about how I'm weird and disgusting, how she wants to punch me, and how she's going to get me fired. Hearing that kind of stuff from children is pretty fucked up. So well, I had to confront her about it. I asked her if she has any issues with me, that I feel hostility from her and that I've been hearing things from the students. She basically just told me kids just talk shit and make shit up, which is true, but the nature of the stuff they say is usually very different. Kids' idea of talking shit is to joke about how I'm a big poo poo head, not deliberately inciting conflict between adults. It's also curious how only the students that we share are the ones talking this kind of shit. The conversation ended with me telling her, "if you have any problems with me, you can just tell me." She just replied okay and that was that. I don't quite believe her but ostensibly, she has no problem with me.
What's strange about this is that, I don't get why she has a problem with me. I always try to maintain friendly vibes with people. I don't talk shit about people nor do I like to say anything negative. I can't imagine I directed anything offensive to her since we barely talked to each other in the first place. I racked my brain and I can't seem to figure out what I did wrong. Especially now since I gave her an opportunity to air out her grievances if she has any. From my perspective she just decided to one day not like me just because. She seems like the type of insecure chick who wants attention and drama (once she was read out loud a text from some dude she was having drama with to the other employees). On top of this I'm getting a colder reaction from some of the other female employees, which might be me reading into it too much, but it's only specifically with the chicks she's closest with.
Usually I can ignore this kind of shit and not let it bother me if it was any other environment, but this is at work. I have to see her regularly and my work is the more connected with her's than with anybody else. While it sucks that I won't be getting back the friendly vibe at work, I can just ignore it. But I'm also thinking if I should take some precautions. She could potentially sabotage my work (she might already have been talking shit about me to the students), maybe spread negative rumors about me to other employees, and more importantly to the management. Worse case scenario, she might try to fuck me over somehow and blame me for something fucked up. I don't know her that well, but she gives off a crazy enough vibe that I wouldn't put it past her. My friend suggested I preemptively mention this to management.
Sorry for the long post, but anyone experience this kind of situation? Am I reading into it too much and there's no real issue?
In before this thread turns into a woman bashing thread
In before filling the room with uppercuts.
Cliffs:
1. Female coworker at an institute all of the sudden is giving off vibes she despises me
2. Been hearing from children how she talks shit about me
3. Confronted her and she plays dumb
4. Am I reading into it too much?
5. Or is she plotting to get me fired?
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