Wives who love their kids more than their husbands.

[Bay Area]

The other day, I was at a hotel, and I see this couple with this cute toddler. The wife was making these baby noises, letting the kid walk around the hotel, even playing with the kid on the floor. The husband was basically by himself at a distance keeping to himself. This went for the duration of my stay there. The same mother walking behind her kid, making baby noises, picking the kid up in the air, playing with the kid on the carpet with toys.

I wanted to tell her to give the kid a break, and attend to your husband. But this is the problem with the family unit in my opinion. Wives love their kids more than their husbands. Soon as the baby is born, the hard working husband gets tossed to the side and neglected. Wives don't worship their husbands. The kid is on a pedestal instead of the husband. It grinds my gears to no end. Anyone else feel this way?

discuss.

 

[BisexualMMA]

If you expect it to go any other way, you'll be surprised worse than Schaub if he fights Cain.

 

[choke you]

You'll be happier if you mind your buisness and don't worry so much about what other people are doing.

 

[Bay Area]

If you expect it to go any other way, you'll be surprised worse than Schaub if he fights Cain.

Its the husbands fault. He isn't putting his foot down. He isn't telling his wife that this is unacceptable behavior.

 

[BisexualMMA]

Its the husbands fault. He isn't putting his foot down. He isn't telling his wife that this is unacceptable behavior.

I think at this point his options are limited to being ignored for the rest of his life, or giving her 65% of his income for the rest of his life.

 

[Dogstarman]

That's the way it is works. It is supposed to be this way. If my wife neglected our children I would have thought something was wrong with her. The dad on the other hand could have gotten more involved instead of just sitting there if it bothered him at all. I doubt it did if he was sitting there drinking his coffee and reading the paper.

 

[Cuzcatlan]

That's the way it should be.

 

[Brampton_Boy]

If my wife loved me more than my kids, I would think something is wrong.

Your child should always supersede all other things in your life.

 

[Horse Style]

Alright, TS is just a troll now that is dying for attention. What a dumb topic.

 

[leto1776]

The kid is a toddler. It basically needs attention every waking moment, or else it'll do something to hurt itself. The dad is probably still getting his at night. Besides, maybe the dad should have gotten involved, as well.

 

[EvilDDS]

The husband wants to be more distant than that, keep watching and you'll see him further and further behind

 

[Cyke_out]

If my wife loved me more than my kids, I would think something is wrong.

Your child should always supersede all other things in your life.

100% disagree.

The spouse should always be your first priority. A happy, well adjusted relationship is better for the children.

 

[Bay Area]

That's the way it is works. It is supposed to be this way. If my wife neglected our children I would have thought something was wrong with her. The dad on the other hand could have gotten more involved instead of just sitting there if it bothered him at all. I doubt it did if he was sitting there drinking his coffee and reading the paper.

Are you saying the wife is supposed to cherish her kid more than her husband? Im not talking about neglecting the kid.

 

[Brampton_Boy]

100% disagree.

The spouse should always be your first priority. A happy, well adjusted relationship is better for the children.

Well, I'm not married and have no kids, so my opinion probably doesn't carry alot of weight.

But to me, prioritizing your kids and loving your spouse are not mutually exclusive things. When I think of how I was raised, I knew, without a shadow of a doubt, that my parents loved my siblings and I more than they loved each other - it wasn't even close.

However, they did/do love each other, and have sustained their relationship with the mutual understanding that their kids (and now grandkids) are their #1 priority.

Observing my parents taught me not only how to love and respect a spouse, but what it means to live your life for another person and love without condition.

When (if) I have kids, they will be the most important thing in my life, bar none. There will be nothing that comes close. I want a partner who will feel the same way.

 

[The Diplomat]

Are you saying the wife is supposed to cherish her kid more than her husband? Im not talking about neglecting the kid.

Yes. Child is always number one. That's not to say that anyone should "pick favorites" and treat the other miserably, but it's completely natural for the mother to give more attention to her toddler than the grown man who could play with the kid, too.

 

[Bay Area]

If my wife loved me more than my kids, I would think something is wrong.

Your child should always supersede all other things in your life.

incredible.

At what age does this cease? Or does this way of thinking last into adulthood...

 

[scorpipede]

The other day, I was at a hotel, and I see this couple with this cute toddler. The wife was making these baby noises, letting the kid walk around the hotel, even playing with the kid on the floor. The husband was basically by himself at a distance keeping to himself. This went for the duration of my stay there. The same mother walking behind her kid, making baby noises, picking the kid up in the air, playing with the kid on the carpet with toys.

I wanted to tell her to give the kid a break, and attend to your husband. But this is the problem with the family unit in my opinion. Wives love their kids more than their husbands. Soon as the baby is born, the hard working husband gets tossed to the side and neglected. Wives don't worship their husbands. The kid is on a pedestal instead of the husband. It grinds my gears to no end. Anyone else feel this way?

discuss.

no kids I'm guessing.

Been married. Now happily divorced. Problem was that when my kid was born I realized that I didn't love my wife. In fact I'd never loved any other person save for perhaps my parents when I was a child. There should be a different word for how we feel about our spouses and significant others. And pizza too. Yep, I said it. We don't feel about pizza how we do about our children. It's just not the same.

Maybe boneless buffalo wings but not pizza.

 

[Cool Hand Luke]

As a married man of 12 years with 4 kids, I fully recognize that my wife's love for my kids is different that her love for me. Her love for our kids is resolute and forever, her love for me is different. This is motherhood.

 

[scorpipede]

That's the way it is works. It is supposed to be this way. If my wife neglected our children I would have thought something was wrong with her. The dad on the other hand could have gotten more involved instead of just sitting there if it bothered him at all. I doubt it did if he was sitting there drinking his coffee and reading the paper.

most likely enjoying his "me time".

 

[Brampton_Boy]

incredible.

At what age does this cease? Or does this way of thinking last into adulthood...

I think it depends on the person, and the dynamic of the relationship you share with your spouse and chidlren. There isn't a right and wrong answer.

If my spouse was feeling neglected and resentful of the fact that I prioritize my children, then there is an issue that needs to be addressed. The subsequent conflict can end up being detrimental to the child.

However, ideally, you find a partner that shares a similar value set. I know with all my heart that I am comfortable playing second fiddle in a relationship. I wouldn't resent my wife for wanting to spend all of her time with the kids, if anything, I would love her more.