Who's in therapy?

I see a psychologist, this would be the fourth one in my lifetime I think, most of the others I didn't really commit too, have had chronic depression and anxiety disorders for as long as I can remember as well as OCD, never reached my full potential and am somewhat dysfunctional with my diet, alcohol and drug use but I've done okay considering, have my hobbies, have social circles, have a well-paying job and own my own property, now being upgraded to see a psychiatrist for a potential ADHD & spectrum disorder diagnosis.
 
I'm in the process of choosing a therapist and for some reason I'm not liking the male options. I think I might have trouble opening up to a dude. And God forbid I actually cry in front of him. Eeeeww.

So I thought I'd pick a female, but then I remembered hearing that it's common for a patient to fall in love with their therapist.

That sounds like a problem I don't need, especially as a married man.

So now I'm trying to find an old ugly female therapist. But it's hard because I have low standards. Which is probably something I should talk about in therapy.

And I know I'm supposed to be completely honest in these sessions, but what if she asks why I chose her? I can't say "it's because you're ugly"

I think I'm doomed
Find an older woman. Like as old as possible. If you see her as more of a grandma type then the chances of you falling for her are slim. Unless you're into the GILF thing.
 
There's time I wonder why do we even have therapy - shouldn't we be talking about how we feel to our loved ones instead? Ah, maybe nature's therapists aren't there anymore.
The sad reality is that your loved ones would use the info you spull out against you. Usually if your close ones are genuinely good people who selflessly love you, you don't need therapy.
Also sometimes you need a look from outside.
 
I haven't fallen in love with anyone other than my wife. But I read that when you're baring your soul and innermost thoughts to a therapist, and they don't judge you, and they help solve your problems, and they support you, etc. that it can be intoxicating and that's why people fall in love with them.

I've been to marriage counseling and didn't fall in love with the counselor though. Probably because she didn't take my side.

But in a 1x1 counseling session they're much more likely to be on your side. Tell you everything's ok, as she sits next to me, and places her hand on my thigh, and reminds me how everything that happens is that room is confidential... Then she leans in closer...

BRB!
Wank before the session, problem solved.
 
I know one therapist; was my buddies fiancée.

He blew his brains out with a 12 gauge so I am a little apprehensive to validate their existence. That and life is going pretty well at the moment.
 
I did it for a while. It was helpful.

I had an older unattractive female therapist. The older the better imo, just because they can draw from a wealth of experience, and have likely encountered real people that have dealt with similar things as yourself, and they can tell you what has/hasnt worked. It’s nice to know that you aren’t the only person that has experienced something and felt certain ways about it.

I’ve had a male and female psychiatrists. They primarily focus on medication, but you still end up talking to them a bit over time. Both sexes have their benefits. It’s generally easier to open up to females, but there’s also something comforting about another male being non-judgmental and commiserating with you.

A lot of people choose telehealth sessions these days, but if it’s possible for you, in-person is significantly more helpful in my opinion. The mental benefit of dedicating your time to going to a particular setting where the sole focus is your mental health just cannot be matched by sitting in your house looking at your computer.

Agreed on most points. Though I've actually found it easier to open up to an older male about the heavy stuff, than a female who is only slightly older than me.
 
Nah man you don't want to fall in love with your therapist. If she loved you back then her professional reputation would be shot, and you'd always respect her a little less for violating ethical standards.

But the more likely scenario is that she just shoots you down because she's not risking her career, and now you have all the pain of loving someone you can't have.

It worked for Will Ferrell in Step Brothers so give it a shot.
 
In sherdog were all expert therapist, psychologists. Just share your deep down feelings with us. We'll solve it.
Of course, us sherdoggers are super talented, we're 50% analyst and 50% therapist, we're like is own personal anal-rapist... wait :eek:
 
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