Who is right?

Wrath of Foamy said:
I do not wish to just throw her out on the street... I also believe that she loves me in her own way
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Bro, it's over. You don't have to hate each other to break up. And she doesn't have to poop on your bed before you kick her out.

You keep waiting for some line to be crossed that will make this an easy decision, but that probably won't happen.

The relationship isn't working for you anymore. That's it. You don't need another excuse. Just tell her she can't live there anymore.

You can't wait for her to get on her feet financially because it will never happen. She's not getting promoted or on her way to making more money. And she likely doesn't handle the money she makes now very well.

So if you say she has 3 months to save to for her own place and then she has to leave, I guarantee at the end of 3 months she won't have enough money and she will be suspiciously nice to you so you don't kick her out.

You've gotta just rip off the band aid. Buy her a ticket to Thailand if that's what it takes. Pay for her first months rent at her new apartment if that's what it takes. Better to pay a one-time expense to get her to move out than to have her be a drain in your finances and soul forever.

You have to do this. By staying together you're both preventing each other from moving on. There might be the perfect woman for you just around the corner and your going to miss out because you're still living with this chick.

Same for her. Maybe her perfect man is back in Thailand and the longer she stays with you the more she misses out on her chance to meet him.
 
Seriously, what is this water buffalo shit about? I have zero point of reference, nothing on Sherdog nor Google.

I didn't meet her in Thailand. I met her here. She got her visa when she married an Englishman. That didn't work out, she went a bit mad apparently afterwards, settled down to a modest life and met me quite a few years after. She's spent half her life here, but she has fallen out of love with the country. Said that it's massively gone downhill. I don't entirely disagree.

We have been getting on better over the past couple of days, so I'm hesitant to bring it up again. I think that she wants to quit her job entirely, be supplemented by her other income and split her time between Thailand and England, though I'll be respectably moving on when she does and I think she understands this too. I'll help her with this, of course.

Truth be told, I don't see myself being with another woman, at least for a while. I've realised my faults over the last few years and I know that I am fundamentally different to others, and I'm not really willing to go two feet into society, just work, go home and do a bit of travelling in between. I'd actually quite like to be alone for a while, to be honest.
 
Wrath of Foamy said:
Seriously, what is this water buffalo shit about? I have zero point of reference, nothing on Sherdog nor Google.

I didn't meet her in Thailand. I met her here. She got her visa when she married an Englishman. That didn't work out, she went a bit mad apparently afterwards, settled down to a modest life and met me quite a few years after. She's spent half her life here, but she has fallen out of love with the country. Said that it's massively gone downhill. I don't entirely disagree.

We have been getting on better over the past couple of days, so I'm hesitant to bring it up again. I think that she wants to quit her job entirely, be supplemented by her other income and split her time between Thailand and England, though I'll be respectably moving on when she does and I think she understands this too. I'll help her with this, of course.

Truth be told, I don't see myself being with another woman, at least for a while. I've realised my faults over the last few years and I know that I am fundamentally different to others, and I'm not really willing to go two feet into society, just work, go home and do a bit of travelling in between. I'd actually quite like to be alone for a while, to be honest.
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They are insinuating that the girl is indeed Thai, or some Southeast Asian, as they always lie and ask for money from their foreign boyfriends. They say the family buffalo is sick, or their grandparent needs surgery. Basic incel/passport bro jokes.

Take some time for yourself. It is important when leaving such a long relationship. Grow yourself. You most likely will be better off in the long run for it. Of course there are no guarantees in life.
 
Me personally I would have let it go and let her not pay me anything if it will allow her to save money and leave quicker. Why would I want this continued headache\stress in my life over $200 a month? I'd pay that much just to get her out of my house quicker.

I suspect maybe a part of you doesn't want her to leave either as you more than anyone should be trying to help her save and leave ASAP.
 
Stopped reading at "partner" I hate that term. Just fucking say boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife.
 
IDGETKTFO said:
Stopped reading at "partner" I hate that term. Just fucking say boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife.
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Whoa whoa whoa. Settle down there, boyfriend. It's not that big a deal.
 
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