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What are some of the reasons your serious romantic relationships ended?

SmilinDesperado said:
Insecurity killed my last relationship.
I'm not the lovey dovey type, or the type to send constant texts, and give you 2 hour phonecalls. Its just not me. And she was wanting that because that's what she does/was used to.

She always wanted me to "prove" my love, and she would do the same by buying me shit, and doing things for me, or just constantly telling me her feelings. No matter how many times i told her that i don't need anything, she'd still do it.
I know your worth, otherwise i wouldn't be with you. And you should know your worth to me, otherwise, i wouldn't be spending all this time with you.
The onus to "fix" things was always on me as well. As i said, I'm not much for talking on the phone, but it's not like I would ignore a call from her...but she doesn't call, she wants ME to call her to prove my love. It was just silly childish stuff. If you want to talk to me, then just call. There comes a certain point in a relationship where you get to know a person and you have to just accept who theywere

She also didn't seem to understand the value i give towards my friends and alone time. I need my dude time and my alone time. And i think it's equally important for her to have her girl time.
But that would turn into an argument that i cared more about my friends than i did her.

She was a sweet girl, but that shit got old. Im dating an older chick now. SO much less drama and bullshit.
Haven't even had as much of a single argument or gotten attitude out of her in the 3 months we've been dating so far
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how old are you now?
 
Jimmy Jazz said:
I mean have you allways not liked monogamy and if so why?
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I'd assume you have a favorite flavor of ice cream. But can you imagine having to eat nothing but that exact same flavor every day of your life until the day you die?
 
90 50 said:
I think his was trying to hard to get attention with the bad boy vibe to get chicks.

He now has neck tats and is in prison so there’s that too
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weird. any guy that cut in my school was seen as an emo bitch boy. far from the bad boy type.

lol neck tattoos. ew
 
Dave4TheHorde said:
I'd assume you have a favorite flavor of ice cream. But can you imagine having to eat nothing but that exact same flavor every day of your life until the day you die?
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I can understand that bro. But honestly I wouldnt want to spend my life as the sultan of a harem as opposed to having just one woman. but i can see where you are coming from.
 
Pugilistic said:
It think it was rather justified in her case, not mine. She had some serious issues with trust and had some very negative projections about our future together. I'm someone who needs to reassurance and validation (something I'm working on) from my partner and if I don't get it, I assume she doesn't love me. But I was too much of a coward to leave her so instead I tried to get that validation by fucking other women, which of course ended up justifying her mistrust.


Similar thing happened with this one girl who is probably the most amazing person I've ever met. We dated for a bit but never became girlfriend and boyfriend. She had to go back home because her father got cancer and she wanted to be there as he was dying. When he eventually died she went on this trip to find herself.
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Damn.
That is really similar. It was also cancer for my ex
It sucks when it ends that way. Completely out of your hands. I do wonder how it would have gone had that not happened at that time..
The story of how we finally ended up breaking up is long, but the night that we did ended up with me fighting 2 Nigerians in an alley in Shinjuku in the winter.
#memories
 
Jimmy Jazz said:
yeah i understand. thats hard sometimes. for me at least I am kind of a negative person. but at least I understood a large part of who I am as a person.
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I'm predominantly a negative person. But I keep it inside, so as to not disturb those around me.

I cannot stand to see nice people troubled. So sometimes I unload it here, in threads like this, where it is the topic for discussion.

What I mean by focusing on what was gained, is that I learned how to avoid bad women. Any sign of crazy, and I'm ghost.
 
BearGrounds said:
I'm predominantly a negative person. But I keep it inside, so as to not disturb those around me.

I cannot stand to see nice people troubled. So sometimes I unload it here, in threads like this, where it is the topic for discussion.

What I mean by focusing on what was gained, is that I learned how to avoid bad women. Any sign of crazy, and I'm ghost.
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what kind of crazy stuff do you mean? like thinking you are cheating all the time?
 
Jimmy Jazz said:
oh ok. so you don't plan on getting married of having children?
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Not interested in either.
I have a good life and job that allows me to travel, and I live between 2 places now, so it's not really the most ideal situation for a normal family life.

I'm not staunchly against it though...it wouldn't ruin my life to get married or have a kid. But i have no desire to do either. If the right chick came along with a similar thinking style as me, or maybe she was so awesome that she made me change my views on a few things. ..it could happen.
Current lady friend isn't interested in kids or marriage. (Though i don't believe her on the marriage part)
I could get married to a cool chick, but marriage and kids are usually a package deal..and the latter im a lot more iffy on than the former
 
Jimmy Jazz said:
what kind of crazy stuff do you mean? like thinking you are cheating all the time?
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Yea, that's a surefire sign of projection.

Any woman that accuses you of cheating, unnecessarily, is either cheating herself or fantasizing about it.

Walking papers get issued for that.
 
BearGrounds said:
Yea, that's a surefire sign of projection.

Any woman that accuses you of cheating, unnecessarily, is either cheating herself or fantasizing about it.

Walking papers get issued for that.
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yeah I've met a few women were insanely jealous and then admitted to being very promiscuous. I mean technically I guess you could say that doesnt mean they are cheater but tbh its annoying.
 
BearGrounds said:
Yea, that's a surefire sign of projection.

Any woman that accuses you of cheating, unnecessarily, is either cheating herself or fantasizing about it.

Walking papers get issued for that.
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That's a pretty big claim to make.
I think that's more likely of men than women.
For girls, i think it's either they have been burnt in the past, are easily jealous, or they have a very simplistic view of men, i.e., '"men are dogs, and will grab that bone if you throw it in front of them"
Of course girls cheat as well, but i don't think their reasons are usually as base as mens. Guys usually cheap because an opportunity presented itself and we were horny.
 
SmilinDesperado said:
That's a pretty big claim to make.
I think that's more likely of men than women.
For girls, i think it's either they have been burnt in the past, are easily jealous, or they have a very simplistic view of men, i.e., '"men are dogs, and will grab that bone if you throw it in front of them"
Of course girls cheat as well, but i don't think their reasons are usually as base as mens. Guys usually cheap because an opportunity presented itself and we were horny.
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I used to think that but not as much anymore. With instagram and facebook girls are receiving lots of attention from different guys and in american culture at least more women are viewing cheating as a means of sexual empowerment and independence. It seems like a knee jerk response to attribute it to emotional needs to make it seem deeper or gloss over the base aspects of it but it is what it is. It kind of fits in with the stereotype of women being more refined than men but it seems kind of self serving to me.
 
She was from another country, had to go back to take care of her family for a while her mom was sick. Realized how homesick she had been and decided to stay. It sucks, especially after being together 2 years, having discussed marriage and starting the process of keeping her here long term but ..I guess it is what it is.
 
SmilinDesperado said:
That's a pretty big claim to make.
I think that's more likely of men than women.
For girls, i think it's either they have been burnt in the past, are easily jealous, or they have a very simplistic view of men, i.e., '"men are dogs, and will grab that bone if you throw it in front of them"
Of course girls cheat as well, but i don't think their reasons are usually as base as mens. Guys usually cheap because an opportunity presented itself and we were horny.
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Good luck with your questionable women.

I'll continue to give them their pink slips when I come across them, while holding out for one that carries herself without such a pathetic level of completely suspect insecurity.
 
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