UPDATED: Best-man no-showed birthday. RE:Losing all my friends and losing my mind

[iThrillhouse]

need pics of chicks

only have nudes sorry

 

[biscuitsbrah]

I'm pretty sure they just like your friend more.

 

[Clear Winner]

Fucked up situation and sucks for you TS. Sounds like your whole social circle has picked their side, so you have to wonder why they picked them over you.

Not trying to create drama here, but it sounds like there might have been something done by your wife and her friend that you don't know about. The fact that your buddy's girl specifically hated her and not you, sounds like she might know something about her.

A former colleague of mine was in a similar situation where he was ostracized from his social circle because of a year's worth of trouble involving his girl and it turned out that she had slept with one of the guys in the group. Nobody wanted to tell him, but it came out eventually.

Hope it isn't that and the random chick's just a psycho. Good luck.

 

[Rav1nHunter]

I tried to include all major background info...there's really not much else to it surprisingly. The 4 times I've spent with my buddys girlfriend, my wife was by my side the entire time....so if there was some kind of incident where the argument could be made that we needed to be the ones to "make amends" then I would've seen it.... but man this just came out of left field

Buddy with the girlfriend was a groomsmen for me...his roommate was my Best man

so you're right...my wife and I are probably going to be the ones pushed out for taking the stand...

Honestly it doesn't sound like you are losing anyone worth holding onto mate. It's a bad situation but look at it as an opportunity to make new friends.

 

[Psychedelic]

Didn't read any of that shit.

Don't worry. I have your SOLUTION... Listen carefully. I'm only going to say this once.

STEP 1 - Buy POWERFUL + High Quality Over Ear Headphones

STEP 2 -

STEP 3 - Lift some weights. HEAVY.

Fin.





P.S. - Turn up the volume.

 

[original doom]

Fucked up situation and sucks for you TS. Sounds like your whole social circle has picked their side, so you have to wonder why they picked them over you

They dont like op's wife and the only reason op's mates girlfriend is confronting her is because she feels emboldened by them. Or shit i dont know.

Keep in mind your friends or acquaintnaces might just be sitting back and watching the drama unfold.

I dont think your quite as good as friends with some of these as what you may think.

 

[Amerikuracana]

Sounds like a fake story. Also, these group chat friendships and shit are fkn stupid as hell. Grow the hell up around 25 people.

You're married now.. Have kids and grow up. You don't need drama flakes.

 

[OverCoronavirus Pressure]

Need to rant to my late-night mayberrians because I feel like I'm losing my fucking mind here...



Brief TLDR:

a guy I know brought his new girlfriend to a rec-sport league function our friend group was attending. My wife showed up later than everyone else and my buddys girlfriend immediately started mocking her to her face. My wife ignored her and approached my friend and asked what her problem was. Buddys girlfriend went nose to nose with her and then punched my wifes best friend when she came over to break up the situation.


Background:

My buddy's been dating this girl from his work for the past 6-7 months, I've met her on 4 occasions and each time she's progressively gotten more hostile towards myself, my wife, and another couple we are friends with.

the most recent time was for a house-warming/birthday party for the Best Man of my wedding and My Buddy with the new girlfriend... my buddys girlfriend gave me shit for going to a "chain restaurant" with a gift card I had got from work for all the hardwork I'd been doing. She then ignored the 4 people I came with and then quite loudly referred to my wife as a bitch in front of the whole room, then stormed off.

My buddy never once apologized for that incident.


The night of:

So my group of friends plays in a rec-sports league and they throw a big season wrap-up party which is held like down the block from our current house....so for the last like 4 years we've hosted the pre-game party before the wrap-up and we always have a great time.

My wife and I are moving out this month so this would officially be the last pre-game party we'd be hosting as our new landlords might not take too kindly to rambunctious party animals.

So this was like the LAST pre-game for the wrap-up ever ... it was kind of a big deal that everybody came.

of course, my wife and I and the other couple who got shunned at my best mans birthday party dont really want her to come to the pre-game because we've YET to get an apology so we dont know where things stand between us and them.

Soooo we party it up, we leave the house, we go to the bar, and lo and behold my buddy is there with his girlfriend. I'm kind of confused why they went straight to the bar....but in the back of my mind i'm thinking "his girlfriend has a problem with my wife and her best friend for SOME reason and he's too chickenshit to confront the situation"

5 MINUTES OUT:

So my wife enters the bar looking for her best friends guy who's holding her ID. She asks me but I say "haven't seen him" ... so she walks to the next person she see's and asks her.... as she's asking her "have you seen so-and-so's boyfriend I need to grab so-and-so's ID?"

my buddy's girlfriend is between my wife and this other person and starts doing that thing 5 year olds do to their siblings where they emphatically mock how they're talking and roll their eyes.... to my wifes face as she's talking to someone else...

I am witnessing all of this and my wife just turns around and goes "ok...wtf was that?"
and I just go ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

3 MINUTES OUT:

So my wife is fed up. this is two incredibly rude encounters with this woman. and this incident happened like 30 seconds after she stepped foot into the bar. so she goes to my buddy and confronts him about his girlfriends problem with her.

my buddy starts defending his girlfriend saying its my wifes fault or whatever.

as this goes on, this girl then steps NOSE TO NOSE with my wife and states, "i like your husband, and this person and this person, i just dont fucking like you!" quite maliciously.

so my wifes best friend see's this, steps in and tells the girl to back the fuck up, and as she says that, my buddys girlfriend just absolutely slugs her with a cheap shot....

my wifes best friend takes it like a champ and returns an even harder one back.

they separate and thats that.


1 DAY AFTER:

soooo the next day is mothers day, and I text my buddy saying. "I hope you dumped that girl on the way home dude, if my wifes best friend didn't step up, your girl would've hit my wife. And she didn't do shit, your girl has some imaginary problem with her."

obviously the message was wayyyyyyyy longer, but this is already running long. thats the TLDR

I 100% called his girlfriend a cunt and I told him he can't expect me to ever apologize for calling a spade a spade.


3 days later:

Absolutely no one in my friend group who witnessed our friend get cheapshot has asked if she's ok or anything...so I pipe up in our group chat,

TLDR: Pretty embarassed that we're all just pretending nothing happened and condoning what my buddys girlfriend did to OUR friend.

everyone ignores it, and 1 girl actually has the balls to say that my buddy is the one in the rough spot and im rude for making people talk about it in a public forum.


4 days later:

my buddy texts me back fucking finally. and essentially says my wife and her bestfriend deserved it and his girlfriend was in the right to hit her.


So I responded with "wellp so long as your still dating her I can't be your friend anymore. if so-and-so didn't tell your girl to fuck off, your cunt of a girlfriend would've hit my wife...your friend of 15 years."


WEEK LATER:

my buddy has gone on a trip to Vegas with his girlfriend and all the people I called out for condoning his girlfriends actions liked his picture he posted on instagram...


Haven't even heard from the best man of my wedding who IS his roommate and certainly would've talked about everything I said to my buddy. So I'm kind of in this fog of shock as I try to manage this move to a new house and all my friends basically burying their heads in the sand for the sake of hurting their friends feelings...


feel like if one of your friends gets cheapshot by someones brand new girlfriend, the collective mindset should be to openly discuss how that person isn't welcome at group functions/hang outs etc.... but instead they're all playing the "this is an awkward spot for my buddy and we have to respect his decision"






TLDR: The people I thought were friends are showing their true character...and I feel like I'm being treated like a pariah for being honest about a pretty black & white issue

I hate the sound of this. But it sounds like your friends are a bunch of self absorbed shitheads. You're right, and I probably would've gone to jail for punching the bitch in the face.
Don't square up on anyone I care about.

 

[iThrillhouse]

UPDATED OP:

TLDR;

buddy had weeks of knowledge of a surprise party my wife had planned. Needless to say he no-showed, didnt have courtesy to even tell me he wouldn't be making it...my wife asked him the evening of the party if he was coming, but he ignored responding to her and gave me his shpeel the following morning on why he couldn't make it.

 

[blaseblah]

Way too much information, simple solution. Stop inviting this woman to events and make it clear to your buddy that she isnt welcome.

Also why the fuck are you obsessing over who liked who's Instagram picture? Grow up dude.

 

[Byron Pechorin]

Stop hanging out with trash?

 

[TheTimeIsNotNow]

Pussy is a hell of a drug

 

[TrippleOG]

Stop saying " my buddy" jfc

 

[HARRISON_3]

 

[GhostZ06]

I hate the sound of this. But it sounds like your friends are a bunch of self absorbed shitheads. You're right, and I probably would've gone to jail for punching the bitch in the face.
Don't square up on anyone I care about.

This...



What the fuck is wrong with your people? Sound like a bunch of asshole shitheads

 

[Boomslang]

I've seen this before. Your buddy and your wife have history that you don't know about, but your buddy and his girlfriend do know. And she doesn't like it.

 

[ChucksGlassJaw]

You guys sound like drunks acting like drunks, tbh.

 

[Yellowking]

Why are you so dramatic? You know what the appropriate response is? It's to say "so what", take the wife to dinner and dick town and find some new friends. Not writing a novel on an internet forum about being jilted by friends or ex friends or whatever

 

[IIIIIIII]

holy shit. when your post is as long as the threadstarter's, you know you have problems in your life.

 

[Cubo de Sangre]

My only guess is that the buddy's gf is way hotter than TS's wife so the group considers her a more valuable asset.