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Hey guys. I originally posted this thread "Do I have a chance with this girl?"
I got good feedback and advice from you guys and so my strategy was to basically just be a polite, friendly customer to her and not try to ask her out anymore although I did compliment her again and she seemed okay with it.
For some reason, the thread got moved to the off topic. Nothing against the off topic but it's not as active as Mayberry and I don't get the same advice there as I do here. It's more like "kvolcom" replies and stuff like that.
So, I continue to go here all the time and she always says hi to me and makes eye contact and smiles. I recently told her that her hair looks nice down and she said 'thanks, I don't normally get to'
She came in wearing shorts for the first time ever yesterday and she looked unbelievable, like the epitome of human beauty. I was avoiding eye contact because I didn't want to seem too desperate but she said hi to me by name and she gave me the best smile I have ever gotten from her which has me questioning things a lot like she is definitely sending me a signal.
Things were on the fence for awhile with her sometimes being more aloof but recently she has been nicer and more open to me and accepting compliments from me. I think I might have won her over a little by joking around a couple times about taping some wine bags they started selling to your body with an iv. The other day I was talking to her young coworker about his training and the gym and I told him that he would have to get a bigger shirt if he keeps training. She smiled at that too.
I have these great interactions with her now and I feel almost dizzy with happiness when I think about this beautiful young lady smiling at me and letting me compliment her.
So, back to reality. I am under no illusion that I have this in the bag or anywhere close, but it seems like I am in a good position right now. What I'm afraid of is falling prey to what I think of as 'the illusion of needing to take action'
Like, maybe I try to step things up again and ruin the vibe and she goes cold on me. I know that it's hard to know what is going on for sure based on my own biased account of these events but yesterday was a total mind fuck because of the way she looked at me and held eye contact for so long and so directly with that sweet beautiful smile. I've been pumped up with adrenaline ever since then. I have never felt like this about any women in my life. My body is still surging with adrenaline and she's all I think about all day.
I am completely done with all habits that I think could potentially hurt my chances as I still did smoke pot after work occasionally and this has all recently happened in spite of that but I remain convinced that stopping could help my chances so I am done with that. I also went to jiu jitsu tonight after work and I will probably go to the gym after I finish hanging up my laundry. Just because me being in shape can only help.
I feel crazy right now guys. I've never liked a woman this much and don't want to mess it up. I'm starting to feel scared like what if she stops working there or meets someone better but I realize that I don't have control over those things so it is pointless. But I feel like I want to offer to hang out with her as just her friend or something but that's stupid because why would I put myself in the friendzone. Or just to compliment her on her legs and inquire about what sports she plays because she's obviously very physically fit. But I don't want to mess anything up because I feel like I have a chance with the woman of my dreams and I am scared to mess it up and I don't think fear is not going to help with this.
Since I posted a long dear diary novel, I will offer another picture of what she looks like. She looks kind of like the pet shop girl from Deuce Bigalow but way, way hotter and brunette, but it's not just brown. It's like a beautiful wavy chestnut thing going on and it's completely natural.
I got good feedback and advice from you guys and so my strategy was to basically just be a polite, friendly customer to her and not try to ask her out anymore although I did compliment her again and she seemed okay with it.
For some reason, the thread got moved to the off topic. Nothing against the off topic but it's not as active as Mayberry and I don't get the same advice there as I do here. It's more like "kvolcom" replies and stuff like that.
So, I continue to go here all the time and she always says hi to me and makes eye contact and smiles. I recently told her that her hair looks nice down and she said 'thanks, I don't normally get to'
She came in wearing shorts for the first time ever yesterday and she looked unbelievable, like the epitome of human beauty. I was avoiding eye contact because I didn't want to seem too desperate but she said hi to me by name and she gave me the best smile I have ever gotten from her which has me questioning things a lot like she is definitely sending me a signal.
Things were on the fence for awhile with her sometimes being more aloof but recently she has been nicer and more open to me and accepting compliments from me. I think I might have won her over a little by joking around a couple times about taping some wine bags they started selling to your body with an iv. The other day I was talking to her young coworker about his training and the gym and I told him that he would have to get a bigger shirt if he keeps training. She smiled at that too.
I have these great interactions with her now and I feel almost dizzy with happiness when I think about this beautiful young lady smiling at me and letting me compliment her.
So, back to reality. I am under no illusion that I have this in the bag or anywhere close, but it seems like I am in a good position right now. What I'm afraid of is falling prey to what I think of as 'the illusion of needing to take action'
Like, maybe I try to step things up again and ruin the vibe and she goes cold on me. I know that it's hard to know what is going on for sure based on my own biased account of these events but yesterday was a total mind fuck because of the way she looked at me and held eye contact for so long and so directly with that sweet beautiful smile. I've been pumped up with adrenaline ever since then. I have never felt like this about any women in my life. My body is still surging with adrenaline and she's all I think about all day.
I am completely done with all habits that I think could potentially hurt my chances as I still did smoke pot after work occasionally and this has all recently happened in spite of that but I remain convinced that stopping could help my chances so I am done with that. I also went to jiu jitsu tonight after work and I will probably go to the gym after I finish hanging up my laundry. Just because me being in shape can only help.
I feel crazy right now guys. I've never liked a woman this much and don't want to mess it up. I'm starting to feel scared like what if she stops working there or meets someone better but I realize that I don't have control over those things so it is pointless. But I feel like I want to offer to hang out with her as just her friend or something but that's stupid because why would I put myself in the friendzone. Or just to compliment her on her legs and inquire about what sports she plays because she's obviously very physically fit. But I don't want to mess anything up because I feel like I have a chance with the woman of my dreams and I am scared to mess it up and I don't think fear is not going to help with this.
Since I posted a long dear diary novel, I will offer another picture of what she looks like. She looks kind of like the pet shop girl from Deuce Bigalow but way, way hotter and brunette, but it's not just brown. It's like a beautiful wavy chestnut thing going on and it's completely natural.
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