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seems like this would have been posted before, but i did not see it.
I'm approaching the age where if i am going to have children, i should make it happen. however, i am just not sure that i want any. i am a VERY generous person materially, but i am extremely selfish with my time. i enjoy being independent, and i know that having kids would change my ability to be that way, dramatically. with that said, i do often enjoy being around kids, and there are things about being a parent that would seem very fulfilling.
so my question is from those who may have had a similar experience, do you think i'd regret such a decision, to not have children? and no need to point out that this would vary from person to person; that is obvious.
there are also studies like this that pop up from time to time:
http://www.npr.org/sections/13.7/20...ign=npr&utm_term=nprnews&utm_content=20150821
I'm approaching the age where if i am going to have children, i should make it happen. however, i am just not sure that i want any. i am a VERY generous person materially, but i am extremely selfish with my time. i enjoy being independent, and i know that having kids would change my ability to be that way, dramatically. with that said, i do often enjoy being around kids, and there are things about being a parent that would seem very fulfilling.
so my question is from those who may have had a similar experience, do you think i'd regret such a decision, to not have children? and no need to point out that this would vary from person to person; that is obvious.
there are also studies like this that pop up from time to time:
http://www.npr.org/sections/13.7/20...ign=npr&utm_term=nprnews&utm_content=20150821
couples in Germany who have recently had a first child report overall life satisfaction declines that are, on average, substantially greater than those reported by people who have experienced the death of a loved one, divorce or unemployment.
Maybe the thing is that being a parent gets better so fast that we sort of forget how hard it was at first.