Thread for lonely f******

[Versez]

Sorry we'll speack french a bit.

Bé je fais ça presque tous les soirs. Minimum 4 pintes (0,5 litres) de bières fortes, parfois 6-8, une bouteille de whisky ou de rhum. Et je tourne aussi au valium ... C'est un carnage.
D'où le fil que j'ai lancé, ça va vraiment pas très fort et j'avais besoin de parler - et aussi d'ouvrir un espace pour les gens proche de ma situation d'une manière ou d'une autre, un "man safe space" : )

Des bises cousin d'outre-atlantique et le meilleur pour toi

Force à toi mon ami. J’ai 36 ans et je suis sans copine non plus. Je vient de retrouver un boulot après plus d’1 an sur la sellette. Ça fait du bien de retrouver une routine. Tu vas voir une fois qu’on décroche un taff le reste semble suivre à sa propre vitesse. , avant ça j’ai picolé à chaque week-end pendant 1 an 12 bière style a 4-5 % et ensuite des bloody cesar ( c’est pas mal canadiens )

 

[Versez]

Everybody has a problem they are working through. Some are just bigger problems than others. None are insurmountable.

Take control back bud, you got er.

You owe me a fight soon bro.

 

[AngryWeasel]

Everybody has a problem they are working through. Some are just bigger problems than others. None are insurmountable.

Take control back bud, you got er.

Sure, I agree. And thanks.

But I intended to open a space for lonesome sherbros that are on the verge of ... whatever.

I hope it'll work. I donk think I am the only lonely fucked up sherbro ...

 

[Long Dark Blues]

I have my pants on, commando style.

Don't move much, just drinking and smoking watching tv by the fireplace. Animals documentaries.

I'm a fuckup. 40 years, alcoholic, no career, no woman. Bad spiral.

Aside from the fact it is Tuesday night, drinking by the fire while watching animal documentaries sounds awesome.

That's exactly what I did Saturday night

I'm also in my 40s, but I'd say I'm more of a drunkard rather than an alcoholic.

 

[Natural Order]

Sure, I agree. And thanks.

But I intended to open a space for lonesome sherbros that are on the verge of ... whatever.

I hope it'll work. I donk think I am the only lonely fucked up sherbro ...

Yep, good call. And no question many Sherbros going through similar things.

When you say lonely, are you specific to women? Or no friends in general? I did see somebody mention, and very important.....you need to separate yourself from those engaged in the same behaviours if you want any chance of success at overcoming some of these demons. And of course that would normally make somebody in your situation even more lonely, having to throw away the only company you have. But it has to happen. You have to remove yourself from the environment to even begin the process. Just know that as you regain your health, you'll likely regain new friends with much more positive things going on in their lives.

All the best pal. Chin up and keep your stick on the ice.

 

[Natural Order]

You owe me a fight soon bro.View attachment 1133469

You said you were coming in September. I told you to DM me when you got here and I'd send you my address. You can come over and I'll fight you in front of my family. One part of my 3 acres is a perfectly flat, open space, perfect for a donnybrook.

My kids know I'm an animal but I want to show it to them in practice. My wife can film and we can have some brews afterwards. Might even cook you a ribeye while you nurse your swollen eyes with some frozen peas from my freezer. We'll post it all up here for the lads here. Win/win.

Don't be scared homie.

 

[AngryWeasel]

Force à toi mon ami. J’ai 36 ans et je suis sans copine non plus. Je vient de retrouver un boulot après plus d’1 an sur la sellette. Ça fait du bien de retrouver une routine. Tu vas voir une fois qu’on décroche un taff le reste semble suivre à sa propre vitesse. , avant ça j’ai picolé à chaque week-end pendant 1 an 12 bière style a 4-5 % et ensuite des bloody cesar ( c’est pas mal canadiens )

Mec les bières dont je te parle sont à 7--10 degrés ^^

Le dernier boulot que j'ai fait c'était en maison de retraite ... Putain d'enfer, des fiches de travail avec les tâches à faire au quart d'heure, la pisse, la merde, le vomi, le sang, les "fous" ( ceux qui hurlent, ceux qui sont violents ) les repas à gérer tout ça en sous effectif, même les anciennes détestaient le job et voulaient toutes se barrer ... fuck that shit comme ils disent. Fais mes 2 mois et j'ai pas ressigné. Parti en bons termes quand même, c'est déjà ça.

Bref. Un bloody cesar c'est un bloody mary ou rien à voir ?

 

[AngryWeasel]

Thank you sherbros, I had more responses that I tought possible and got some insights from it.

Let this thread be open to everybody.

It was about me this time but its for everybody that need to talks.

 

[Frank_Drebin]

Yep, good call. And no question many Sherbros going through similar things.

When you say lonely, are you specific to women? Or no friends in general? I did see somebody mention, and very important.....you need to separate yourself from those engaged in the same behaviours if you want any chance of success at overcoming some of these demons. And of course that would normally make somebody in your situation even more lonely, having to throw away the only company you have. But it has to happen. You have to remove yourself from the environment to even begin the process. Just know that as you regain your health, you'll likely regain new friends with much more positive things going on in their lives.

All the best pal. Chin up and keep your stick on the ice.

just to add, leaving your current friends doesn't make you a bad friend or disloyal. let them know that you'll always be a friend but you won't be a part of their lives as long as they continue their self-destructive habits.

 

[Natural Order]

just to add, leaving your current friends doesn't make you a bad friend or disloyal. let them know that you'll always be a friend but you won't be a part of their lives as long as they continue their self-destructive habits.

Great elaboration.

And always remember that you take a chance getting up in the morning, crossing the street, or sticking your face in a fan.

 

[wlu.29]

I have my pants on, commando style.

Don't move much, just drinking and smoking watching tv by the fireplace. Animals documentaries.

I'm a fuckup. 40 years, alcoholic, no career, no woman. Bad spiral.

I don't know how cold it is where you are, but everyday try to go outside for at least a walk, build up to a jog then run.

It might make you feel better healthier and then you might start making better choices.

 

[TheNinja]

For anyone lonely. Go volunteer. You’d be shocked how good it makes you feel. And you may even meet like minded generous caring women too. Help at a food bank. Animal shelter. Boys and girls club bring a big brother (not while drunk though ). Sign up to help clear the local nature trails of trash and overgrowth. Deliver meals to elderly and shut ins.

 

[Jesus X]

the world is a lonely place so you're not alone.

We are Born alone...we die alone.

 

[Kardashians]

Sure, I agree. And thanks.

But I intended to open a space for lonesome sherbros that are on the verge of ... whatever.

I hope it'll work. I donk think I am the only lonely fucked up sherbro ...

you're certainly not. plenty of us here are depressed and/or mentally unstable.

it's a goddamn wonder im not cutting my arms open tonight. my period has been mellow and i dont trust that at all. usually i lose my whole goddamn mind and, well, spiral out in bloody fashion. uh. well, extra bloody i suppose lol.

 

[Kardashians]

For anyone lonely. Go volunteer. You’d be shocked how good it makes you feel. And you may even meet like minded generous caring women too. Help at a food bank. Animal shelter. Boys and girls club bring a big brother (not while drunk though ). Sign up to help clear the local nature trails of trash and overgrowth. Deliver meals to elderly and shut ins.

id also recommend volunteering. i started out at a local charity a few years ago, it helps the community in so many great ways. the people i volunteered with help me to change my life, offered support in several ways, and became wonderful friends. makes a huge difference. also keeps you busy, and when you get home youre too tired to get up to any trouble.

i left for a couple years, and returned last year for a paid position. still enjoying the people i meet there.

 

[Wrath of Foamy]