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The guy that quit his job over a Girl is back with a new Story (UPDATED)

xFeeLPaiN

xFeeLPaiN

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Some of u may remember this thread:
http://forums.sherdog.com/threads/g...ed-feelings-and-quit-job-heartbroken.3151857/

well im back and this time i seek for sherdogs advice.


Basically I started studying at a university this week and first day i was late because the train had a delay.
As i got out of the train and was walking to the uni some girl chatted me up. Turns out we study the same thing and are even in the same term (semester) group. We been hanging out yesterday and today and get along extremely well. However i dont think i would GF her because

1.) she smokes
2.) she likes to party / get wasted
3.) Her parents are divorced

Ive read that these are Red flags when it comes to relationship material. But anyway heres the question:

On friday theres going be a city ralley where people from my semester group and people from other groups will be guided through the city that the University is in (with going to bars, doing alcohol related challenges etc.) by students who are about to get their degree.
The girl asked me if i´ll be there and I said nah since i dont really drink because of fitness and she said she wants me to be there because she knows no1 else. Would it be Beta if i go there just for her?

PLEASE HELP (also i dont care that much about this girl and would only smash I guess)

dont think cliffs are needed since its short.

UPDATE EDIT: ok so basically this morning when me and the girl were taking part in a lecture she kept on asking me if im really not going to the city rallye alcohol thing and i kept on denying because i dont drink anyway. She seemed kinda dissapointed and messaged me a few more times on whatsapp saying she would need some1 to drive her home but whatever knowing my bad luck this would have ended bad anyway so i just stay at home
 
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know one believes your story wierdo.

John Wayne was a :eek::eek::eek:.
 
Depends on how hot she is and how bad you would like to smash. If you think she'll be around later if you don't go then I wouldn't go. Chances are there will be soo many hot chicks at the bars that night and you'll be tied to her if you go.
 
please delete, double post
 
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Would it be Beta if you go to a pub crawl with a girl who seems to want you to bang her after a few drinks? I've heard of way more Beta shit than that.

You seem to be hung up on things like Alpha / Beta and "reading" that things are relationship red flags rather than finding out what works for you. A girl smoking is only a red flag if you don't like being around smokers. I don't date women that smoke because I hate kissing women with cigarette breath. That's about it.

The most fucked up women I've ever dated were pretty evenly distributed between divorced parents and not divorced.

If you want to go to this pub crawl, do it. If you don't then don't. If you want to bang this girl, then this sounds like a good chance. If you don't want to bang her and also don't want to go out drinking that night, it sounds like a wasted evening for you.
 
Is divorce rare in your country or something?

Smoking is gross though. When I was younger I dated a couple smokers just because I would have put up with anything to get laid at that point in my life...but now in my 30's I just don't think I could do it. I'd make too many comments about how bad they smell and it wouldn't last long.
 
BisexualMMA said:
Would it be Beta if you go to a pub crawl with a girl who seems to want you to bang her after a few drinks? I've heard of way more Beta shit than that.

You seem to be hung up on things like Alpha / Beta and "reading" that things are relationship red flags rather than finding out what works for you. A girl smoking is only a red flag if you don't like being around smokers. I don't date women that smoke because I hate kissing women with cigarette breath. That's about it.

The most fucked up women I've ever dated were pretty evenly distributed between divorced parents and not divorced.

If you want to go to this pub crawl, do it. If you don't then don't. If you want to bang this girl, then this sounds like a good chance. If you don't want to bang her and also don't want to go out drinking that night, it sounds like a wasted evening for you.
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thanks for the advice brah and yea what im
thinking is like: she knows that i dont want to go there but if i show up on friday she might think " look at this weak guy doin as i told him * instant friendzone *
 
xFeeLPaiN said:
However i dont think i would GF her because[...] Her parents are divorced
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that's moronic. first two are legit if you aint about that life, but not dating someone because their parents are divorced? i mean i could see that population being shifted towards being less successful at relationships for a number of reasons, but not so much so that i would blatantly be prejudiced against them.

you need to stop worrying so much about being beta. it sounds really stupid. if you wanna bang this chick and you think it'll happen, then go. if not, dont.
 
Wtf?? You're not going to marry the girl- go out and have fun. She might be totally cool. Dont be such a tool, you fool.
 
xFeeLPaiN said:
thanks for the advice brah and yea what im
thinking is like: she knows that i dont want to go there but if i show up on friday she might think " look at this weak guy doin as i told him * instant friendzone *
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My guess is that whether she friendzones you will be based more on how you behave in this and other settings than whether you show up to those settings. If you want to avoid the friendzone, just have a good time and don't be her manservant. Unless you have the impression that she's asking you there to be her wingman, I think it's fair to operate under the working hypothesis that she's interested.
 
"Her parents are divorced"

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Your red flags sound pretty paranoid. Look out for craziness or extreme daddy issues if anything
 
Between your last thread and this thread, you're already Beta, TS. Now that you know, you can embrace it and not worry about things too much.
 
No, I'm sure you made it clear that you are cool when you were explaining that you don't party cause it affects your fitness program.
 
xFeeLPaiN said:
Some of u may remember this thread:
http://forums.sherdog.com/threads/g...ed-feelings-and-quit-job-heartbroken.3151857/

well im back and this time i seek for sherdogs advice.


Basically I started studying at a university this week and first day i was late because the train had a delay.
As i got out of the train and was walking to the uni some girl chatted me up. Turns out we study the same thing and are even in the same term (semester) group. We been hanging out yesterday and today and get along extremely well. However i dont think i would GF her because

1.) she smokes
2.) she likes to party / get wasted
3.) Her parents are divorced

Ive read that these are Red flags when it comes to relationship material. But anyway heres the question:

On friday theres going be a city ralley where people from my semester group and people from other groups will be guided through the city that the University is in (with going to bars, doing alcohol related challenges etc.) by students who are about to get their degree.
The girl asked me if i´ll be there and I said nah since i dont really drink because of fitness and she said she wants me to be there because she knows no1 else. Would it be Beta if i go there just for her?

PLEASE HELP (also i dont care that much about this girl and would only smash I guess)

dont think cliffs are needed since its short.
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How old are you and Where are you from?

I'm asking, sincerely, because your flaccid approach towards women is distinctly un-American.

I'll know how to respond to the OP after I have more information.
 
Also, going to a pub crawl when you don't drink is retarded.
 
lol at the the no divorced parents criteria

Yea, just go with her. Who cares if you drink or not.
 
Fugazy said:
How old are you and Where are you from?

I'm asking, sincerely, because your flaccid approach towards women is distinctly un-American.

I'll know how to respond to the OP after I have more information.
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22, Germany
 
you know how i know you're gonna fuck something up, and your mind isn't in the right place for this? you made this thread. the fact that you're worried about, "making a mistake" in front of this girl, is the reason why she won't ever be attracted to you. guys should not give a shit as to how they are going to come across with girls. the less you give a shit, the better your chances are.

if YOU want to go, then go. if you don't want to go, then don't go. or how about this? invite her to something else? take charge of this. stop freaking out and acting like a scared girl.
 
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