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So I finally finished losing everything

I might not be the best person to give advice to you since I'm kind of the opposite.

But what works for me is not to take things seriously and avoid conflict. Not giving a fuck is an underrated art.

The thing that affects my mental state the most is sleep. My energy is completely different depending on how my night went.

Good advice.

I can get angry and upset about things, but eventually I just compartmentalise those feelings and stay positive and enjoy my life.

When I dwell on negative feelings, I eventually get sick of myself and turn it around. Stop taking things too seriously, as you say, is an art form.
 
I feel ya bruh. I currently have nobody. It’s fukkin wild. Past four years and every single good friend I had dropped dead, and I’ve had to put down all of my animals. The death of my last rabbit (on July 4th) broke me finally. Only for a couple days later to wake up to a phone call of another dead friend whose body was, uh, anyways. If I’m not in a rage fit I’m in a crying fit. The mood swings of grief. Got myself into some pickles right now by not functioning right which got me stressing on top of everything else.

Anyways, have an appointment on the 9th with a doctor. I’m angry right now so my optimism is low lmao. I probably need to go stab some things.

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Good luck Mike. Surely things can only get better from here. I guess they can always stagnate too. Hmm. At the very least I hope your casino pizzas are nice xx
Jeez didn't know about all that. Sorry K. We had a friend we were trying to help commit suicide last year. That was fuckin rough. And yeah, as long as there's pizza all hope can't be lost.
 
Part of what makes this fucked up for me, is in 2019 my buddy left his wife and came and slept on my couch for like 6+ months. Really was not convenient for me, and he ended up using my place as a satellite apartment to cheat on his wife. And I took my share of the heat for all that because well it's my friend, I couldn't put him on the streets. Then as soon I'm inconvenient in some way.... bam. Makes no sense to me. Oh well.
Oh well that explains why she hates you.

Take solace in the fact that they'll be divorced someday.

Also, how can they afford the house if you're not there to pay your share? I thought you said they couldn't afford it without you.

Maybe they'll all be living in a box soon and you can give them a nickel when you walk by
 
Some of you are aware of my general situation. About five years ago I moved out here for work with my best and last remaining friend. Great success on the finding work, but not much else is working out.

Anyways the first couple years after I moved here I was living on my own. I was struggling, my friend was struggling, so me and him and his family started renting a house together. We've been doing that for three years now. Well some shit popped off and I ended up moving out. I find the way shit played out pretty unforgivable. His wife is a cunt, and her family are the only people I really associate with other than my friend. So my entire small social circle is gone now.

My pseudo family that I've spent every holiday and special occasion with for the last 5 years. And my best friend since 2007. The only thing that's really been a consistent and stable part of my life for the last 15 years. Gone. I've been through so much loss, abandonment, and betrayal that it's basically no big deal now. Never trust anyone or get particularly close to anyone anymore. But this shit stilll stings. I thought I'd already lost everything I could lose. I didn't think I could really lose the last person that gives a shit about me. I'm more mad at myself for ever thinking I can trust anyone or rely on them in any way. Shoulda known better by now.
I would say simple American thing go to bard hook up get drunk but that got you to this place so maybe go to places where meaningful stuff is discused i dont know you pick wjat tou like
 
Oh well that explains why she hates you.

Take solace in the fact that they'll be divorced someday.

Also, how can they afford the house if you're not there to pay your share? I thought you said they couldn't afford it without you.

Maybe they'll all be living in a box soon and you can give them a nickel when you walk by
Nah she's always hated me I think. Shit prolly didn't help tho ya. They couldn't at the time but he makes a bit more now. Should be enough for them to get by but fuck em it's not my problem.
 
This dude been in this worthless sac of a thread drowning in self pitty feeling sorry for himself for the last 12 hrs and this thread is filled with a bunch of enablers.

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I think it's moreso just a case of when you were having a hard time growing up, the only thing your daddy offered you was dick

Fuck outta here
 
I'm sure it happens here and there but I just find it difficult to imagine a perfectly nice and normal person could get fucked over by every single person in their life.

The people I've met throughout my life who have victim complexes are usually pretty similar. They either have drug addictions and ruin their all their relationships or they have no drive to better their situation and instead they just blame it on their circumstances or the people around them. You can give them a website to apply for a job and tell them you'll put in a good word with management and they still won't do it for one reason or another.

I think you have me blocked because I gave you some real advice instead of just a "there there" pat on the back months ago but maybe it's time for some self reflection and self assessment. What mistakes are you making that have you in this situation and what steps need to be taken to fix it?
 
Some of you are aware of my general situation. About five years ago I moved out here for work with my best and last remaining friend. Great success on the finding work, but not much else is working out.

Anyways the first couple years after I moved here I was living on my own. I was struggling, my friend was struggling, so me and him and his family started renting a house together. We've been doing that for three years now. Well some shit popped off and I ended up moving out. I find the way shit played out pretty unforgivable. His wife is a cunt, and her family are the only people I really associate with other than my friend. So my entire small social circle is gone now.

My pseudo family that I've spent every holiday and special occasion with for the last 5 years. And my best friend since 2007. The only thing that's really been a consistent and stable part of my life for the last 15 years. Gone. I've been through so much loss, abandonment, and betrayal that it's basically no big deal now. Never trust anyone or get particularly close to anyone anymore. But this shit stilll stings. I thought I'd already lost everything I could lose. I didn't think I could really lose the last person that gives a shit about me. I'm more mad at myself for ever thinking I can trust anyone or rely on them in any way. Shoulda known better by now.

Mate, it's life. You saw who your pals and family was the past few years. You saw how corrupt and blatantly evil many businesses, governments, countries, and everything.

I would suggest joining a mma or martial arts clubs. Maybe boxing. Try a coed volleyball or something. Ask girls out. Start dating. Maybe new friends.

It's not your fault. It's a sea of NPCs out here. Your buddy will likely come around after she takes hi. To divorce court.
 
I'm sure it happens here and there but I just find it difficult to imagine a perfectly nice and normal person could get fucked over by every single person in their life.

The people I've met throughout my life who have victim complexes are usually pretty similar. They either have drug addictions and ruin their all their relationships or they have no drive to better their situation and instead they just blame it on their circumstances or the people around them. You can give them a website to apply for a job and tell them you'll put in a good word with management and they still won't do it for one reason or another.

I think you have me blocked because I gave you some real advice instead of just a "there there" pat on the back months ago but maybe it's time for some self reflection and self assessment. What mistakes are you making that have you in this situation and what steps need to be taken to fix it?
Nah I didn't block you. A lot of people are giving advice like I was sleeping on their couch rent free like a loser and that pissed them off. Which would be totally understandable but isn't true.

Like I said before we got a place together I had my own place and was doing my own thing. I didn't ask them, they asked me to get the place with them. And my friend told me privately that they could not afford it without me, so I did feel some pressure to say yes. And living with roommates was cheaper and would let me get debt free sooner, which was my main goal at the time.
 
Nah I didn't block you. A lot of people are giving advice like I was sleeping on their couch rent free like a loser and that pissed them off. Which would be totally understandable but isn't true.

Like I said before we got a place together I had my own place and was doing my own thing. I didn't ask them, they asked me to get the place with them. And my friend told me privately that they could not afford it without me, so I did feel some pressure to say yes. And living with roommates was cheaper and would let me get debt free sooner, which was my main goal at the time.

Your living situation wasn't going to last forever so at some point the band aid had to be ripped off. At this point you've just gotta work on yourself. If you have no roots there, then there are plenty of not so fun but high paying jobs that you could take around the country that might suck but will get you a nest egg quickly so you won't have to worry about rent and bills for a while.

You may be an introvert but your communication on here tells me you shouldn't have a problem making friends. We all need human interaction and your friend and his wife's family aren't your last and only acquaintances in life. Friends, like women, don't just fall in your lap. I've made friends at every job I've been at although I did have one job where I just had nothing in common with anyone and was a bit of an outcast, which I wasn't used to being in any situation. So I can see maybe not liking anyone at a warehouse job but if you're going through multiple jobs and you really don't like anyone enough to be friends with, then maybe you're just too picky or you let things get under your skin that maybe aren't that big a deal in the grand scheme of things?

I dunno man, just throwing stuff out there. I don't like seeing people struggle but at the same time nothing will improve until you point the finger back at yourself and work on you. Ideally you'd want to get to the point where maybe a friend does fuck you over but that's okay because you have a half dozen more anyway.
 
I get that it's my fault in terms of having no other relationships and being 40. Not that some of the other ones went bad. But that I stopped meeting new people and being open to new things as much. I'm
Your living situation wasn't going to last forever so at some point the band aid had to be ripped off. At this point you've just gotta work on yourself. If you have no roots there, then there are plenty of not so fun but high paying jobs that you could take around the country that might suck but will get you a nest egg quickly so you won't have to worry about rent and bills for a while.

You may be an introvert but your communication on here tells me you shouldn't have a problem making friends. We all need human interaction and your friend and his wife's family aren't your last and only acquaintances in life. Friends, like women, don't just fall in your lap. I've made friends at every job I've been at although I did have one job where I just had nothing in common with anyone and was a bit of an outcast, which I wasn't used to being in any situation. So I can see maybe not liking anyone at a warehouse job but if you're going through multiple jobs and you really don't like anyone enough to be friends with, then maybe you're just too picky or you let things get under your skin that maybe aren't that big a deal in the grand scheme of things?

I dunno man, just throwing stuff out there. I don't like seeing people struggle but at the same time nothing will improve until you point the finger back at yourself and work on you. Ideally you'd want to get to the point where maybe a friend does fuck you over but that's okay because you have a half dozen more anyway.
I don't care about having to leave. I wanted to leave anyway, just not so abruptly. It's more losing my only friend. Sucks. But yeah I'm well aware being this introverted is not normal. Shit has been getting worse for awhile but I don't exactly have a magic cure. Always had social anxiety and difficulty being outgoing in any way. And age and baggage and wtf has happened to society in the last ~5 years makes me not even wanna leave the house at all. Much less actively try to engage with people.

Just a couple years ago I was getting girls numbers and trying to make new friends and much more positive in general. Been trying to figure out how to get back to that guy. I had reasons to be excited about life rather than just survive it. I don't know how to get back there. Feels impossible right now. All my energy is going into just keeping my shit together.
 
That living situation was always going to end in tears for you. I'd rather struggle financially for a bit then do something like that.

Get your head sorted then sign up to some dating sites or do some voluntary work in your spare time just to start meeting new people. Being lonely fucking sucks.
 
Oh well that explains why she hates you.

Take solace in the fact that they'll be divorced someday.

Also, how can they afford the house if you're not there to pay your share? I thought you said they couldn't afford it without you.

Maybe they'll all be living in a box soon and you can give them a nickel when you walk by
Maybe she wants to be with her family in one house she does not.need "roomate"
 
No it does not work you got to have sea man certs or what ever

No, you don't. You apply, take drug test, fly to Virginia, you have to float in a pool for 1 minute with a vest on, then they fly you to New York
 
How physically ill and unable to work are you?
 
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