Single for so long...

[MMA since 1993]

In my lengthy experience, threads like this seldom go anywhere.

Everyone is gonna keep repeating clichés like: "act confident" and "groom yourself".

And chances are OP already does them or knows to do these but refuses for whatever reason.

If you have no friends or social skills either lower your standards (I only date chicks that look like Margot Robbie) or get some friends and a social lifelife.

You can't eat your damn cake and have it too!

If he does all that and he still has trouble getting a girlfriend, then he may just be elite level ugly.

 

[Mike]

I will say that if you continue on your path of singlehood it'll eventually become normal and you'll stop worrying about it.

This. It's really the combo of a long time single and getting older at the same time. I don't even feel lonely most of the time anymore. It's like I've given up completely, even subconsciously.

 

[Mike]

I don't understand how anyone can be single if they don't want to be.

Just date a 3 until you find a 4 that's willing to fuck you.

Then date the 4 until you find a 5, then upgrade.

Rinse, repeat.

Um. Well. Some people think that's fucking gross. Like, a lot of people. I have a hard time putting up with the bullshit of a girl I'm in love with. Cannot imagine putting up with bullshit from a 3.

 

[FierceRedBelt]

This. It's really the combo of a long time single and getting older at the same time. I don't even feel lonely most of the time anymore. It's like I've given up completely, even subconsciously.

I'm getting old and I can still smile, crack a stupid joke, and laugh at myself. I don't know many men over 30 who can do that.

 

[Mike]

I'm getting old and I can still smile, crack a stupid joke, and laugh at myself. I don't know many men over 30 who can do that.

Post thirty, really closer to 40, and divorced crowd here. I still do all the same things I've always done, have a great sense of humor, laugh a lot. Wouldn't say I'm happy, but it's not constant misery either. I was watching a standup special earlier, and the guy touched on depression. Said when you're younger you have all this anxiety about relationships and friendships and your career and etc.


Then you get old, and most of that shit probably didn't go how you wanted but your still here. And that becomes enough. Like, the funny version of that where it doesn't sound like I'm typing with a gun in my mouth, but you get what I mean.

 

[Jimmy McGill]

become transgender

isnt that wrong advice ? shouldn't you have told him to date one, if going the trans route?

isn't the love for mentally ill guys with tits, just dudes who couldn't get a real 8 if they had a $100 bill tied to their dick ?

 

[Jimmy McGill]

I don't understand how anyone can be single if they don't want to be.

Just date a 3 until you find a 4 that's willing to fuck you.

Then date the 4 until you find a 5, then upgrade.

Rinse, repeat.

easy to type and post a reply like this, but everyone thinks they deserve better than a 3, even if they really don't, nobody wants to start there and play the trading up game, when they can see similar looking guys, who have game, easily pick up 6 & 7's...…...

 

[facePuncher7]

Thread is more just a rant of frustration. Been single now for three years and it’s driving me crazy. I tried online dating, tinder, bumble to no avail as I can’t find a girl that suits me. Suppose the reasons for unintended bachelor hood- few friends to go out and party with, I’m super introverted, high standards. Anyways not sure if anyone can give advice to solve this issue but my current action plan is watching as many videos of pick up artists, pushing myself to talk to strangers daily and going to Toastmasters.

Keep in mind that they are "pick up artists", not "healthy long term relationship artists".

 

[Fedorgasm]

easy to type and post a reply like this, but everyone thinks they deserve better than a 3, even if they really don't, nobody wants to start there and play the trading up game, when they can see similar looking guys, who have game, easily pick up 6 & 7's...…...

True. Just like how I want to walk into a BJJ gym and mop the floor with everyone. But that doesn't happen. Everyone's gotta start somewhere.

LOL at guys that haven't been laid in years, yet think they're too good for a 3 or 4.

 

[Jimmy McGill]

True. Just like how I want to walk into a BJJ gym and mop the floor with everyone. But that doesn't happen. Everyone's gotta start somewhere.

LOL at guys that haven't been laid in years, yet think they're too good for a 3 or 4.

its nothing like rolling or being a novice at it,...…... with younger men, I think many of them avoid 3 & 4's because they'd be laughed at by their friends, for banging fat jenny, or that chick with the big ear, or left tit a D cup & right tit a B.


Also I believe, young women or your young 4's & 5's are constantly told they re hot AF by random online guys, gives them a bit of an ego.

i'm just glad for once i'm old and past my prime, I don't even want the whiney cunts to make me a sandwich

 

[AznTrojan]

fuck the apps.. go out and talk to random women and fail few dozen times... practice makes perfect.. you'll get over your inhibition and figure out what works and what doesn't...

 

[Fatt Hughes]

Sorry, but you're too late. All the girls are dating black guys now. You can thank Black Panther for that

 

[Khabibs Tiramisu]

If you meet a girl you like, just keep staring at her with red eyes and an emotionless face. Chicks like that stuff you know

 

[boingyman]

Being single for long periods of time is fine if you're at least dating/getting some during that timeframe. Even if you're not pornhub is your friend.

 

[UFC=Pride]

Have confidence in yourself women can sense desperate from a mile away.

 

[mooseman17]

I know you’re just looking to vent but these threads are so hard to give proper advice without actually knowing the background of the individual. Theres a big difference if you’re a good looking guy with a good career that can’t find a partner or an unmotivated basement dwelling hermit who works on call at a convenience store, in terms of advice.

I don't understand how anyone can be single if they don't want to be.

Just date a 3 until you find a 4 that's willing to fuck you.

Then date the 4 until you find a 5, then upgrade.

Rinse, repeat.

I would constantly do this in NHL 99. Trade a guy that’s 60 overall for 62 overall and slowly inch up until all of my shit players became were traded for stars. So this is basically sage advice.

 

[MikeMcMann]

I don't understand how anyone can be single if they don't want to be.

Just date a 3 until you find a 4 that's willing to fuck you.

Then date the 4 until you find a 5, then upgrade.

Rinse, repeat.

I can never do that and honestly thought that was basically a chick thing as I've heard women say that but never a guy.

If I'm not attracted to and fully into a woman I could not have a relationship with her. Heck I struggle to even just bang them and walk away if I'm not really attracted to them.

 

[loyalyolayal]

Idk man, the best, most productive, drunkest part of my life was when I was single.

 

[Organic Damage]

Have confidence in yourself women can sense desperate from a mile away.

I wonder if there is a desperation pheromone. Or is it just body language and non-verbal signals?

I want to discover the "whiff of confidence" pheromone so I can make a body spray and retire a gazillionaire.

 

[ralphc1]

Treat women like crap, berate and beat them. It seems to be what they really want.