Should People Only Attempt To Date People In Their Own “League”?

[das omen]

Was having a discussion with a chick the other day about one of our mutual friends whom just happens to be inexperienced socially to go along with being on the heavy side and hasn't had any success with the girls he was interested in, but I still encourage him to go on move on and make an attempt with other girls. I told him that you need to cast a broad net and just accept being turned down as progress as it desensitizes you to rejection.

The chick on the other hand, strongly believes that our mutual friend should date or attempt to date women in his own league. I’m not exactly sure who would qualify to be within the same league among our mutual friends to date this guy. She didn’t mention it, but perhaps the chick might consider me to be higher up on the attractiveness scale than our friend that my philosophy of “If you see a pretty girl, just talk to her and if she happens to be single, ask her out or move on” probably may not apply to him.

What say you Sherbros? Should, say a guy who is about a 2/10 even attempt to flirt/ask out a 8/10? I say yes. If anything, the more social interactions the guy has whether he chats up a 3/10 or a Boise 5/10 the more he builds up that “Speech Skill” that will help him in future interactions. Or he should just stay in his own lane which is of course, the other alternative.

 

[Fluffernutter]

I married up.

We're happy.

 

[Pliny Pete]

Never understood this whole ranking bullshit but it sounds pretty fuckin stupid
If you see a broad you wanna poke go up and holler at her, if she shoots you down who gives a fuck, go up to the next one and try again

 

[Bobby Boulders]

I date up or not at all.

Best believe I'm gonna make it worth my while.

 

[Milgrim]

Hell no! Why should I stick with slobs and uglies?

 

[Ogata]

League as in looks or money/status?

I would kind of agree to an extent. For example, if I succeed in my online business which will allow me free time to pursue my interest in martial arts/boxing and fitness, then yes, I too would like to meet a female who is in the same league.

By that I mean, not the best looking people but good, well built physiques who have financial freedom from the rat race or 9-5 grind and have the same hobbies makes us in the same league.

This is better because she will have her money and her free time. Thus, no one is mooching off on anybody and we both look meh but have good physiques/cardio.

 

[das omen]

Never understood this whole ranking bullshit but it sounds pretty fuckin stupid
If you see a broad you wanna poke go up and holler at her, if she shoots you down who gives a fuck, go up to the next one and try again

Only brought up the ranking system to illustrate the chick’s point. I’m 100% in agreement with you.

 

[Graves The Elder]

my credo has always been 'opposites attract'.
figure it out

 

[Curmudgeon]

Ts is a socially awkward virgin that creeped out a convience store clerk

 

[Graves The Elder]

Oof

 

[peytonlucy]

Definitely look above your level. Women tell everything about you to other women. Use that to your advantage.

 

[mushishi]

Girls are all about telling guys to stay in your lane. But it's ok for them to move up a few steps to get a man. They've been conditioned to think that handsome, rich dudes will do anything for them, and that's what they deserve, based on the shows they watch.

Guys are all about get in where you fit in.

In your friend's case, maybe he needs to wash up and iron clothes. Basic stuff like that.

 

[Necromantic]

It took a few years of decomposition but Brittany Murphy is finally in my league.

 

[Graves The Elder]

tomb raider much?

 

[ToxicShocker]

Never understood this whole ranking bullshit but it sounds pretty fuckin stupid
If you see a broad you wanna poke go up and holler at her, if she shoots you down who gives a fuck, go up to the next one and try again

Problem is I only wanna fuck chicks with pornstar bodies. Or under 10 lbs of excess flab. So im a six trying to match 7+. I couldnt fuck a fatty if I tried

 

[Kraysla]

Why not have him start out dating women in his 'league?' He needs to actually experience a relationship to gain experience and build his confidence. Getting rejected all the time is going to take a toll on him, regardless of how well you mean (and it's cool that you're looking out for him and trying to build him up.) If he dates someone similar to him he'd be more relaxed and would have an easier time landing someone. Then when/if he becomes less awkward and can handle relationships he can try moving up.

 

[MarloStanfield]

im a perfect 10 so i cant find anyone out of my league

 

[hillelslovak87]

I've always messed with girls who, on looks alone, were WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY above my pay grade. They might have been horrible people, but at least I got to wiggle my wangle inside of them.

 

[funkexpress]

Explain to him the advantage of a good practice girl and the measured options of wet dick vs dry dick

 

[shanegotu11]

Confidence is key.

Simple as that.