Some guys have it & some guys don't. And while it can be learned the guys that are naturals at it will always be at a distinct advantage. My son, for instance, is twice the natural that I ever was & I didn't do too bad for myself. And I never really went out of my way how to pick up girls. I just always told him to relax & be himself. And to have conversations with them & be a gentleman. It may not have been much but it's definitely worked because he hooks up with a crazy amount of girls. He's only 21 & I'll bet doubled my lifetime numbers. But then, he's the lighting designer for rock bands like Breaking Benjamin, Avenged Sevenfold & Korn as well as a part-time male model in Nashville. So, he's around a whole lot more women than I ever was being a fighter.