rolled with this one dude last night and could not do a thing......he fucked me up good! we were useing open hand strikes just to practice being aware of how bad youd get drilled in a real fight when in certain "safe" bjj positions...and so the dude had me choked bad and when i was tapping he thought i was slapping and so he wrenched down harder....when he finally let up i was gagging and coughing. So this dude was probably 6' 210 solid pounds and way more experienced then me. I respect him not for being bigger and stronger and better but for not holding back on me b/c im smaller, weaker, and less experienced. I was so frusterated last night after class, b/c this dude choked me like 3 times, and then he pulled mount and just slapped me for like 5 minutes!!! I couldnt escape.....he had a high mount with his feet under me, and his knees up in my arm pits and i couldnt buck him or tie up an arm b/c we are training no gi and the sweat made it impossible, and i wasnt strong enough to snake out. How do you handle someone who is bigger, better, stronger then you? I was so discouraged after rolling with him that i lost all focus after that and it affected my rolling with everyone else that night......dudes i have tapped before or at least held my own with, were haveing their way with me!!! I was so exhausted from rolling with beefcake that i couldnt handle the other guys who i had been able to in the past. This weekend im running till i puke twice a day and this beefcake is my motivation so for that i thank him, but what can i do next time?