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seriously you are going to get her kid taken away because she smokes weed? Are you fucking kidding me?
Also NEVER under any circumstance give her money. Write a check and note on the check its for your kid and what its for. Trust me if you do this it will make it much easier.
Yes indeed
When my daughter turned 10, The ex and I wrote up a document that my child support who change from 678 to 300$ a month. We had it notarized at the bank.
We then went to Child Support services and had them drop the garnishment/enforcement of the order.
3/4 yrs pass by and she takes me back to court. Guess what, the state said, I was behind like 30k in child support. The state had only dropped enforcing the order, I was still incurring arrears that whole time.
The took everything outta my bank accounts, tried to take my drivers license and started garnishing me 1,017$ a month.
They wanted to throw my ass in jail.
Luckily, I had cancelled checks to save my ass...
Damn man that was a close one. Ive heard and seen so many horror stories regarding child support. You have to cover your ass any way you can.
One of my best friends got fucked hard. His old lady and him were together for the first 3 years they had their son. One day she leaves him outta the blue and moves away with another guy, taking his child. He was sending her $500 a month for his son in money orders. Since he didnt note anything he got fucked. 6 years later she takes him to court for back child support and put him in over $35 grand in debt even though he had been paying out of his own good will. When they went to court she said he was giving her the money because she leant him money to buy a car. He never even had a car the whole time except for a shitty one he had for 12 years.
The judge was such an asshole and only allowed him every other weekend to see his son. Well she kept moving and not telling him where she was so he couldnt see him. He then took her to court and the judge told him its his fault for not knowing where she was living. I feel horrible for my buddy, he is an awesome Dad too.
Yes indeed
When my daughter turned 10, The ex and I wrote up a document that my child support would change from 678 to 300$ a month. We had it notarized at the bank.
We then went to Child Support services and had them drop the garnishment/enforcement of the order.
3/4 yrs pass by and she takes me back to court. Guess what, the state said, I was behind like 30k in child support. The state had only dropped enforcing the order, I was still incurring arrears that whole time.
The took everything outta my bank accounts, tried to take my drivers license and started garnishing me 1,017$ a month.
They wanted to throw my ass in jail.
Luckily, I had cancelled checks to save my ass...
Sadly, they were only for 300$ a month...the state wanted that extra 378$ for each month.
Bastards
In Ohio there will be a guardian acting for the courts who will visit both of you both announced and unannounced whose sole role is to decide in the best interests of the kids. This is expensive as hell and who really wants someone to show up several times at random to see how they are living.
Damn man that was a close one. Ive heard and seen so many horror stories regarding child support. You have to cover your ass any way you can.
One of my best friends got fucked hard. His old lady and him were together for the first 3 years they had their son. One day she leaves him outta the blue and moves away with another guy, taking his child. He was sending her $500 a month for his son in money orders. Since he didnt note anything he got fucked. 6 years later she takes him to court for back child support and put him in over $35 grand in debt even though he had been paying out of his own good will. When they went to court she said he was giving her the money because she leant him money to buy a car. He never even had a car the whole time except for a shitty one he had for 12 years.
The judge was such an asshole and only allowed him every other weekend to see his son. Well she kept moving and not telling him where she was so he couldnt see him. He then took her to court and the judge told him its his fault for not knowing where she was living. I feel horrible for my buddy, he is an awesome Dad too.
TS, I hope you're paying attention!
I honestly believe your best course of action is to try to get along with he old lady and raise the kids together for a while. Like I said, she's being affected by hormones, and they can affect women immensely. You have to take her sour moments with a huge grain of salt. If you guys raise the baby together for a half of a year, and you still aren't feeling the relationship, then bounce.
This gives you time to see what kind of mother she is, to shed yourself in a positive light, and work in your favor of a civil divorce. It's doesn't hurt o go through he parenting process with a partner either. Baby years are the hard years.
You have a good mindset going into this but just make sure when it gets hard you keep positive. She is a women and will try to bring you down and use threats to get you to do what she wants. My sons mom was cool at first but as time went on and I started making more money she became a total lunatic. You just need to keep the communication with her open and calm. When you want to put your fist through her face for being a ****, just remember a drywall patch is much easier to fix.
TS, I hope you're paying attention!
I honestly believe your best course of action is to try to get along with he old lady and raise the kids together for a while. Like I said, she's being affected by hormones, and they can affect women immensely. You have to take her sour moments with a huge grain of salt. If you guys raise the baby together for a half of a year, and you still aren't feeling the relationship, then bounce.
This gives you time to see what kind of mother she is, to shed yourself in a positive light, and work in your favor of a civil divorce. It's doesn't hurt to go through he parenting process with a partner either. Baby years are the hard years IMO. Do either of you have children now?