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So I have decided to give up drinking and have not had a drink since January 16. No major declarative reason for the choice other than I just prefer being clean and straight edge. I feel great but my social life has taken a hit as I am much more conversational and engaging after a few drinks. Anyways, a question for nondrinkers, how do socialize enjoyably without the drink?
 
I haven't "stopped drinking" completely but I have curbed it a great deal (since CrossFit and going Paleo, don't worry...I won't talk your ear off about either)

I've been to social functions sober....and I gotta say...it kinda sucks being around drunk. buzzed people when you're sober.

Everything just seems a little louder, and a lot more annoying.

But believe it or not, it's pretty easy to socialize without drinking...granted it's a great ice breaker and I've had great times, hook ups, conversations because of booze...but you can also have great conversations while sober...and meet cool people...

you can have fruitful conversations about politics, religion, movies, sports, life, marriage, you job without booze...

do you have social anxiety or anything like that? do you need booze to take the edge off?
 
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thaifighter541 said:
So I have decided to give up drinking and have not had a drink since January 16. No major declarative reason for the choice other than I just prefer being clean and straight edge. I feel great but my social life has taken a hit as I am much more conversational and engaging after a few drinks. Anyways, a question for nondrinkers, how do socialize enjoyably without the drink?
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Drinking never enhances my ability to socialize. You are probably just too used to doing it that way that yu have become dependent on it. Just give it time.

Also, try socializing with those who are drinking, they let their guard down so it is pretty easy to emulate.
 
I don't know that there's a good replacement. There's a reason booze has been popular for thousands of years.
 
thaifighter541 said:
So I have decided to give up drinking and have not had a drink since January 16. No major declarative reason for the choice other than I just prefer being clean and straight edge. I feel great but my social life has taken a hit as I am much more conversational and engaging after a few drinks. Anyways, a question for nondrinkers, how do socialize enjoyably without the drink?
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If you need booze to socialize, you're probably just not all that social by nature.

Do some coke. Loosen you right up.
 
Just pretend you're drunk. It's what half the people at the bar are doing anyway.
 
you need alcohol to be social? that's not a good sign, in my mind. it sounds like you're lacking in confidence, which is probably where the alcohol helps you. maybe see why you don't engage with folks first.
 
i quit drinking in august

it really comes down to you WANTING to quit... you can say you will quit but you have to fully understand what that means




also weed helps
 
We develop personalities.
 
start by talking about the weather .....lol
 
n...not crazy said:
I don't know that there's a good replacement. There's a reason booze has been popular for thousands of years.
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Cause humans are scared of interracting with one another face to face?

Also explains the popularity of the internet.

and buttsex
 
i dont think this has as much to do with drinking as it does with social skills/motivation to be social.
 
thaifighter541 said:
So I have decided to give up drinking and have not had a drink since January 16. No major declarative reason for the choice other than I just prefer being clean and straight edge. I feel great but my social life has taken a hit as I am much more conversational and engaging after a few drinks. Anyways, a question for nondrinkers, how do socialize enjoyably without the drink?
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I've been sober for 13 years now. It was tough at first but most people have just become accustomed to the fact I don't drink so it's not a big deal. I still go out to bars and hang out with people that aren't drinking. Some people are envious of the fact that I don't piss away money on booze and wake up with hangovers after going out.

It can be done, just socialize with people like it's no big deal that your sober. It'll be good practice on being yourself. You may learn a lot about yourself and other people in the process.
 
TeTe said:
I've been sober for 13 years now. It was tough at first but most people have just become accustomed to the fact I don't drink so it's not a big deal. I still go out to bars and hang out with people that aren't drinking. Some people are envious of the fact that I don't piss away money on booze and wake up with hangovers after going out.

It can be done, just socialize with people like it's no big deal that your sober. It'll be good practice on being yourself. You may learn a lot about yourself and other people in the process.
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You have to be very tough minded to give up something that is such a big part of society. I dont want to snoop but did you stop drinking due to not being able to control it? If that is the case i couldnt imagine going to bars being a good idea.
 
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You have to be very tough minded to give up something that is such a big part of society. I dont want to snoop but did you stop drinking due to not being able to control it? If that is the case i couldnt imagine going to bars being a good idea.
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I was a drug addict and alcoholic up to that point. It wasn't easy at first, but was no big deal after a year or two. I don't have the slightest inclination to drink now.
 
I will never understand why people have to be DRINKERS or NON-DRINKERS.... why cant you be a reasonable human being capable of drinking whenever you want or not drink whenever you dont want... why do you have to put a freaking label is my point?

I drink very rarely, I used to drink more often when I was younger but now feeling drunk doesnt interest me at all... however if Im having dinner and I feel like drinking wine or maybe even have a beer "hell I will" of if I feel to have 2 beers I will too!! and then if I dont feel like having any alcohol for the next year then I wont.... My point is where does your power of decision got lost man? if you feel like having a drink why do you have to put a label that says "no Im a non drinker" why cant you just have it and enjoy it; and if you dont want to be a drunk then why cant you just have one or two, are you such an insignificant human being that you cant make a decision to just have one drink?

If you want to NOT have any alcohol because it doesnt interest you then thats fine, its you life your choice, but you TS and MANY PEOPLE seem to decide to be "non drinkers" and then ask how they do it, or say they are suffering because of it.... what the fuck man? then why would you chose that? You are not Pavlovs dog you know, you are a human being, thankfully aware of you own self and capable of creating your own conditioning.
 
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