People that dissapear from the mat

[POPPA ROTZEE]

I have not been to train bjj in over 1.5 years. I trained for 1.5 straight. Lifde happens man. I wont be able to train until I get a house. I actually prefer strength training to bjj.


NOt everyone live with there mommy's and only has to worry about high school worries.

Im not sure what that means, I'm married with a wife and two kids (A 3 year old boy and a 5 year old girl who has school) me and my wife both work and I work 3 jobs, 1 at an office, one for online marketing and SEO, and then at Dracs Teaching. (And my kids aren't shunned, we go on bike rides, swimming, on out of state vacations....me and my wife still go out on dates..its all about time management, sacrifice and keeping/giving individual boundries)

And I didn't work for drac until I got my blue belt. I've only doubled my training since working there. It can be done, its just a matter of if you want it bad enough. If your willing to cut out tv time and computer time etc.

Anyone can find 1 hour a day, two days a week....ANYONE. There are guys with families who drive from lousianna to houston to train at dracs 1-2 times a week. This one guy has a wife and a kid and drives 3 hours after work (in houston traffic) to train at dracs and then leaves dracs at 8:30 to BACK home 2 times a week and sometimes on saturday.

I'm not saying you have to be as extreme, or that Jiu-Jitsu has to be that important to you...but I'm saying if it IS important to you, it can be done...even for people out of high school.

 

[knees_n_elbows]

I think its weirder when people disappear right after the blue belt....like thats all they needed or something lol. "MISSION OVER GUYS...I GOT MY BLUE BLET". Crazyness.

then they can say "i got my blue belt and was beastly but i had to stop because _____________."

 

[The Colonel]

I've been training since 1998 and still have only a blue belt because of, well, life. Couldn't train at all when I was in the military since there was no one to roll with. Now I'm in college full time and school takes priority over rolling unfortunately. I'm in nursing school and you can't just skirt by otherwise you'll end up killing someone. Add in the fact that I'm a broke ass vet who no one will hire for a steady job and I can't afford the gas money to drive across town to practice when I've got to get to school and work doing odd jobs.

So I only show up once in a while My instructor forgets my name but somehow I still manage to do okay grappling.

What really pisses me off is that I actually have some talent at jiu-jitsu. I'm not saying I'm a bad ass (far from it) but I feel like its one of the few things in life that I'm actually "not bad" at and have a little potential for.

 

[PabloMEX]

IMO it is a HUGE commitment. New people realize how hard it is too, especially after that ass beating they get on the first live roll. Can't blame people for leaving though, at the very least they got off their ass and tried to challenge themselves.

 

[KGB313]

I think its weirder when people disappear right after the blue belt....like thats all they needed or something lol. "MISSION OVER GUYS...I GOT MY BLUE BLET". Crazyness.

The 2nd most common belt in BJJ is the 2nd most common point where people quit. Not terribly surprising.

In my experience, most people that stick around long enough to get a couple stripes seem to be committed to getting that blue belt. It's a big milestone, and the next big one is years away...and even then, only if you maintain a serious commitment to improving your game. You can get a lot of people to train hard and take it seriously for a year or two, far fewer are willing to stick with it for 2-5 more years to get that purple.

 

[Calvo]

This highschool kid came in to BJJ a month ago. He bragged about his highschool wrestling team. He even said he was going easy on people after the class because one time he gave someone a bloody nose from a "brutal high crotch". My instructor turns to him, points to a group of us and says "Do you think these guys go easy on anyone? NO!"

The kid then takes the next class, which was no-gi. He didn't know how to do a penetration shot. I get paired up with him during the live rolls. I submitted him maybe 10 times. After class he asks me how much I weigh. I said 190 and he says "That's why, I only weigh 135."

I hope he never comes back.

 

[KGB313]

This highschool kid came in to BJJ a month ago. He bragged about his highschool wrestling team. He even said he was going easy on people after the class because one time he gave someone a bloody nose from a "brutal high crotch". My instructor turns to him, points to a group of us and says "Do you think these guys go easy on anyone? NO!"

The kid then takes the next class, which was no-gi. He didn't know how to do a penetration shot. I get paired up with him during the live rolls. I submitted him maybe 10 times. After class he asks me how much I weigh. I said 190 and he says "That's why, I only weigh 135."

I hope he never comes back.

We've had wrestlers like that. They come in treating the class like it's a competition. Some people you can't really break from that...when they lose, they'll look for excuses. Either you're bigger, or you're more experienced, or their contact came out, or you're stronger, or they need water, or this or that.

Your best bet is to pair him up with someone that is smaller...maybe even a female if you have one that's good. Tell her to go easy on him, but get the tap. When he starts to make an excuse (i.e. I'm going easy because she's a girl), that's her signal to challenge him to do his best, at which point she should hold absolutely nothing back. You have to show him that technique trumps size, strength, and athleticism...otherwise he's just going to keep making excuses instead of trying to work on his game.

 

[devante]

life happens, i grapple on and off; but i have had alot of sh*t happening from jobs, to family, to personal health issues, to money issues or just random shit. I still manage to hit mats; but i don't get to do it consistently cus things just keep coming up.

 

[SonOfZion**]

the trick is to learn how to disappear ON the mat, everybody knows that.

 

[Commissar]

I have not been to train bjj in over 1.5 years. I trained for 1.5 straight. Lifde happens man. I wont be able to train until I get a house. I actually prefer strength training to bjj.


NOt everyone live with there mommy's and only has to worry about high school worries.

Although I agree, I don't live with my "mommy" and I have more than "high school worries", but I still make the cuts where I have to, the sacrifices where I have to, so that I can keep training.

 

[newerest]

its not for every one and it takes a particular kind of person to keep coming back to get beat up over and over again. my past five times ive rolled ive got submitted 22 times.

7 times by a black belt, 6 times by a 10 year purple, four times by a 5 year blue, 3 times by a three year white, and once by a white belt with a few months more experience than me. i tapped all these times and only managed to submit the white with similar experience.

its hard, humbling, and not for everyone. a lot of people have to get in there to realize just how difficult it can be. once they do and they see, they quit.

it's kinda weird how you count all those taps

 

[knees_n_elbows]

it's kinda weird how you count all those taps

why is having the ability to do the most basic of math weird? i record video of every time i roll. i go back and re watch the videos multiple times and take notes so i can ask questions to my instructor regarding problem areas. that doesnt seem weird to me to me at all. video is a valuable tool towards learning wouldnt you agree?

its one thing for you instructor to tell you that you have a bad tendency that your not addressing, its another to see yourself doing it with your own two eyes. imo everyone should record close to all of their footage rolling if possible.

would you disagree? if so why? or are you just attempting to be that snippy anonymous internet guy?

 

[newerest]

why? i record video of every time i roll. i go back and rewatch the videos multiple times taking notes so i can ask questions to my instructor. doesnt seem weird to me. video is a valuable tool towards learning wouldnt you agree.

its one thing for you instructor to tell you that you have a bad tendency that your not addressing, its another to see yourself doing it with your own two eyes. imo everyone should record close to all of their footage rolling if possible.

would you disagree? if so why? or are you just attempting to be that snippy anonymous internet guy?

No, when you put it that way it makes sense, I just assumed you were keeping a super detailed log of who tapped you out for some reason.

 

[knees_n_elbows]

No, when you put it that way it makes sense, I just assumed you were keeping a super detailed log of who tapped you out for some reason.

okay, that would be a bit weird. keeping a tally sheet till i can get my retribution. :icon_lol:

its just that if i am getting demolished by someone, there is the most room for improvement in those videos so they tend to be the ones i re watch the most.

 

[ganssle]

I think its weirder when people disappear right after the blue belt....like thats all they needed or something lol. "MISSION OVER GUYS...I GOT MY BLUE BLET". Crazyness.

I see this a lot too... The most irritating is when a decent white belt is so distracted by a blue belt. They no longer train to get better, but just to get a blue belt. I understand that wearing a white belt is annoying, especially when you're getting the hang of it... but i like to think that it weeds out the people who really want to learn BJJ from the people who want to be able to say "I'm a blue belt"

To OP, if this seems to happens very frequently... maybe they're joining a nearby gym because it's a little cheaper?

 

[lechien]

the curse of the blue belt!!! most people disapear after gettting their blue belt.

 

[ElKarlo]

Fantastic. If by basement dwelling you mean working/lifting/training/studying/dating life than...it's aite.

Yeah man, same thing really.

That's good to know. Is your gym closed for obon?

 

[ElKarlo]

why is having the ability to do the most basic of math weird? i record video of every time i roll. i go back and re watch the videos multiple times and take notes so i can ask questions to my instructor regarding problem areas. that doesnt seem weird to me to me at all. video is a valuable tool towards learning wouldnt you agree?

its one thing for you instructor to tell you that you have a bad tendency that your not addressing, its another to see yourself doing it with your own two eyes. imo everyone should record close to all of their footage rolling if possible.

would you disagree? if so why? or are you just attempting to be that snippy anonymous internet guy?

Actually I thought that you were counting the taps as well, or were super obsessive about gym taps.

But agree, filming is a good idea.

 

[Calibur]

Yeah man, same thing really.

That's good to know. Is your gym closed for obon?

It was. We open up today. I'm gonna try to get in two more days of practice and then do that nogi open tournament this Sunday. Gonna kick up my tournament game in the last quarter.

 

[contumacious]

People thought I did that at my gym. I was there for about 3 weeks before a crazy semester of school that coupled with blocked every class. When I showed up in another 5 weeks they were freaking out.