Makes me sad seeing pics of my kids when they were younger.

[The Hash Slinging Slasher]

I feel you TS. My kids are all getting older, my youngest is 4 and every little milestone he reaches kinda makes me feel sad that it’s the last time I’ll ever have a child that young.

 

[yamahacrasher]

Grow a pair, everything ages

What a stupid, useless post. Adds nothing to what is otherwise a really nice thread.

 

[KeepingItReal]

Growth requires death, lots of little deaths. Every moment of everything is final, unique and it's gone by the time you see it. I think to really love something is to feel how tenuous it all is.



Yes!

What you're basically describing is living, as you are living every moment of your life you are also dying. The whole thing is happening in tandem, I don't see what there is to be sad about though. If there is anything to miss perhaps it's how joyful children are compared to adults. Unfortunately as people age they reverse the equation of life, instead of becoming more and more joyful they become less and less. When we have no sense, we make ourselves miserable. What to do?!

 

[AnGrYcRoW]

Nothing prepared me for the constant loss of being a parent. The child you love so much you ache just thinking about them is gone every time you look around.

They're a new person, that you love just as much as who they were, but who they were is gone.

When I look at photos of them as toddlers.. I'm just really lucky that I know this feeling. I think that's where the hurt in loving something so much it hurts resides. To really love something is to appreciate, to feel it's finality.

I would gladly give a digit to spend a day with my son when he was a toddler , he's sixteen now , we're still best buds but it goes so damn fast.

 

[Phlog]

What you're basically describing is living, as you are living every moment of your life you are also dying. The whole thing is happening in tandem, I don't see what there is to be sad about though. If there is anything to miss perhaps it's how joyful children are compared to adults. Unfortunately as people age they reverse the equation of life, instead of becoming more and more joyful they become less and less. When we have no sense, we make ourselves miserable. What to do?!

Yes. It's a bitter sweet emotion, of course you're happy they've been able to mature.

We do get happier after 42!

Sorry to ask but do you have kids? I don't mean to suggest it's the only way to appreciate it, or if you do there's anything wrong. But it sounds like you don't.

 

[Seano]

My daughter is going away to college this year, its depressing. I mean, I'm glad for her and am proud watching her become what she's become but I get it. I miss having a little girl, especially around the holidays like Christmas. My wife and I were only blessed with one child so that part of our life is over. I'll continue to be proud of her, no doubt. Its just a different thing now.

 

[Phlog]

My daughter is going away to college this year, its depressing. I mean, I'm glad for her and am proud watching her become what she's become but I get it. I miss having a little girl, especially around the holidays like Christmas. My wife and I were only blessed with one child so that part of our life is over. I'll continue to be proud of her, no doubt. Its just a different thing now.

I hope she has kids and you get to be their grandparent. i feel ya.

 

[KeepingItReal]

Yes. It's a bitter sweet emotion, of course you're happy they've been able to mature.

We do get happier after 42!

Sorry to ask but do you have kids? I don't mean to suggest it's the only way to appreciate it, or if you do there's anything wrong. But it sounds like you don't.

I don't. I doubt my views would change if I did.

 

[Phlog]

I don't. I doubt my views would change if I did.

Maybe not!

I know for myself there was no way I could appreciate loving something quite as much as my children. Even the love of my life, wife of 20 years, soulmate, with her it's ultimately conditional love. With a child under the age of 4-5 it's like an all consuming.

 

[Berserker13]

My children will never truly know me because of their toxic, dysfunctional mothers...

 

[Berserker13]

All the problems in my life could be solved with simple communication with me, not communication with everyone except fro me

 

[RichardHarrow]

Nothing prepared me for the constant loss of being a parent. The child you love so much you ache just thinking about them is gone every time you look around.

They're a new person, that you love just as much as who they were, but who they were is gone.

When I look at photos of them as toddlers.. I'm just really lucky that I know this feeling. I think that's where the hurt in loving something so much it hurts resides. To really love something is to appreciate, to feel it's finality.