It's a different kind of training. Positioning is your forte? Why are you working on your forte? Do you really need to work so much on your double legs? Aren't they already pretty good?
People go soft in BJJ to work on technique. Guys who fight hard and try to win each time usually end up .... limited.
You sound like a guy who does have ego issues, in the sense that you can't force yourself to work on your weaknesses. A wrestler who hits double legs, tries to make every match a physical contest, and scrambles away from guard? Haven't seen that before. Sounds less like "pushing the action" and more like "clinging to my strengths."
I've got ego issues myself I'm trying to overcome right now, as I want to work on my escapes, which are weak. But it takes a determined act of will to let a blue or white belt take side control, mount, or back control on you, when it's so easy to prevent if you try. I know I'll never improve my escapes unless I put myself in that position tho. Gotta suck it up. If I just go all-out with my A game, I'm never going to get a chance to develop a strong escapes game.
It's not wrong to be forceful as long as you are doing it to improve your technique. And you want to go hard fairly frequently. But most people are forceful because they are bringing their A game and trying to "win." The other guy usually reacts with his A game. And neither gets to branch out.